These are strange times. Well it's even worse if you had a sheltered life!
But progress rolls regardless. These are times to have no fear because fear is a way to
control and in these days those days are ending! As we all look at our lives knowing we
are getting older missing out wasting the mass of your life for no reason as you look back
in regret. In this time please live with no regret be open fair be for the better of the good!
In the workplace with me most know I love a married lady that worked there.
I do get the feedback that I am good for her. Unsaid it is approved.
Well I do get that feedback. Love and support regardless.
Being Polygamous in the workplace? It's funny looking at it!
But in my view I don't hide it's not the best thing to do anyway.
For personal, in Psychology with me I have the view many have that Psychology
today is pointed to conceal the problems where it really needs to be revealed,
resolving the problem. To fix the needs, so the needs are met and resolved
in a interpersonal circle.
in a interpersonal circle.
So in the workplace to resolve the issues it's best to not conceal it in the first
place! Being who you are is your right in the workplace!
You will never know what will happen in the workplace!
When I was a dishwasher in a hotel my co-worker met a lady and went in
her room came, back six hours later and told me he met a lady and he quit the
next day. A year latter they came back and told me they where going to
get married. So life is worth it, so in view it is worth being yourself at work!
Give it all you got if it happens it happens!
It's better than working till you die at your station! Why die at work unhappy?
Also it helps you in your workplace if you don't spend much effort concealing
all the time! Just be yourself and get to work!
~~~~~Truth or Consequences? The Negative Results of Concealing
Who You Really Are on the Job.
Critcher’s paper, “The Cost of Keeping it Hidden: Decomposing Concealment Reveals What Makes it Depleting,” forthcoming in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, details multiple negative consequences of concealment. Concealment produces deficits because of the difficulty of having to constantly monitor one’s speech for secret-revealing content that needs to be edited out, says Critcher, who co-authored the article with Melissa Ferguson of Cornell University.
The researchers conducted four studies, each of which was a variation on a single paradigm. When participants arrived at the study, they learned they would be taking part in an interview. Following a rigged drawing, all participants learned they were assigned to be an interviewee. Another supposed participant—who, in reality, was an actor hired by the researchers—was the interviewer.
Some participants were given special instructions about what they could reveal in the interview. In three of the four studies, some participants were told they should make sure not to reveal their sexual orientation while answering the questions. For example, participants were told that in answering questions, instead of saying “I tend to date men who …,” the participants could say, “I tend to date people who ….”
After the interview, participants thought they were moving on to an unrelated study. In actuality, this second part of the experiment was related, offering researchers the opportunity to measure whether participants’ intellectual, physical, or interpersonal skills were degraded by concealment. The studies revealed a variety of negative effects of concealment.
In one study, participants completed a measure of spatial intelligence that was modeled after military aptitude tests. Participants randomly assigned to conceal their sexual orientation performed 17 percent worse than those who went through the interview without instructions to conceal. In another experiment, participants tasked with hiding their sexual orientation exhibited reduced physical stamina, squeezing an exercise handgrip for 20 percent less time than those in a control condition. Another study revealed that concealment led people to show less interpersonal restraint. After having to conceal their sexual orientation, participants responded to a “snarky” email from a superior with more anger than politeness. During another test, participants demonstrated poorer performance on a “Stroop task,” a commonly used measure of executive cognitive function. In all cases, the willpower necessary to conceal sexual orientation left people with fewer resources to perform well on other tasks.
In some studies, the researchers varied whether the interview questions focused on participants’ personal or dating life, or on topics for which one’s sexual orientation would never be revealed. Concealment caused similarly sharp declines in both cases. “Environments that explicitly or implicitly encourage people to conceal their sexual orientation—even when employers adopt a ‘Don’t Ask’ policy by not directly inquiring about employees’ sexual orientation—may significantly harm workers,” says Critcher.
“Establishing a workplace climate that encourages openness by supporting diversity may be one of the easiest ways to enhance workplace productivity.”
~~~~~Coming out at work: Showing your true self
"Have faith that people will respect you for being the person you truly are."