In love it's best to come open to each other. Being in love with a married woman with kids. I've been there. She had five kids. At the time he wanted out too many kids for him they where not making enough money at the time to save themselves it made since to bring me in. After a while the kids got more stable, her and so he did. Now he doesn't want to get out of this and doesn't want me to leave because things would go back. Her parents got sick so they moved to their parents home. They would not understand their daughter having me and her husband because they where from 1912!
Meaningful emotional things! It's ok to be in love with a married woman. If open about it. A secret affair is all within the laws of nature. But can be pain. "She takes you to a motel and after not wanting to leave her after that only to have to go home where you smell her perfume on you knowing you won't do this again for another 7 years, till she has her 7 year itch. Cry!" Noted please be open about things! It's best to not be a secret in those terms is the point! But also sometimes you have to be the fish that jumps into the frying pan!
And is the point of Polyamory! About agreements people agree to that benefit everyone. If it's going to hurt with no benefit in the long run then don't do it. Love who you love as love should make stable not give anxiety as life is too short to play those games. Are you going to be alive 20 years from now? Best to be honest about things, knowing where or whos you are! Agreements for the happiness of both than to not! Many people live better than others. Wasting your life without joy? Why? Nature doesn't care otherwise, so in the laws of nature be with nature!
~~~~Family is hugely important to me, and one of the treasures of polyamory is that I have a lot more of it. Yes, it's a lot more work and, yes, sometimes the more conservative relatives feel awkward around us initially but I think it's important that we show up and normalize polyamory," she wrote in her essay. https://cafemom.com/lifestyle/polyamorous-mom-juggles-different-families-during-holidays
