Lack Of Communication - More to communication than just honesty.

It's always worth it to be open. More when you are older. If your 50+ then you have 20 - to go in life before you hit 70! Being older those old issues of when you where 40 has less meaning now! As the right to take your lover, other, work husband home for that talk... If it makes you better making all better by a better foundation it's worth it! Well it should be talked about before but you know what I am saying. Like that time in your life where you are the grandma now stopping to say hi every time you see another person you don't know with a baby.

Life changing events are always good! Like what my college instructor said about a morning after it's like being hit in the head like a ton of gold. Said before he confessed in class having a "inappropriate relationship" with a student in class. To us it was appropriate because it was gold to them. We where ok with it as long we got something out of the class and what he said was worth the price of the class anyway. But the part "Life changing events" is pressing when you have less time in life. Life is short what are you missing? No time for a lack of communication!

~~~~~Communication is tougher than you think!
Honesty is to communication what multiplication is to calculus. If you can’t be honest, you can’t communicate. Honesty is the minimum, not the maximum; there is more to communication than just honesty. –Jenna Medaris

“Communication is rule #1 of a polyamorous relationship.”

It’s something you’ll hear in the poly community so often it’s become a mantra. And rightly so; communication is arguably the single best indicator of the health of any romantic relationship, monogamous or polyamorous. A relationship that lacks good communication is built on a foundation that’s fundamentally flawed, and a relationship whose members lack good communication skills is a relationship that has problems from the very beginning.

Few people really talks about how to build good communication, though, and that’s unfortunate, because good communication is trickier than it sounds. (I’ve already written an essay about the ways communication can go wrong in my journal; this is more of a practical guide.)

There’s more to communication than opening your mouth and saying what’s on your mind. Effective communication starts with understanding what’s on your mind, particularly if you’re trying to solve a problem. It’s not just enough to say “I feel uncomfortable about this” or “I’m feeling upset about that” or “I don’t want you to do this;” real communication requires understanding what’s at the root of those feelings and desires.
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