Parataxic distortion is a false view of people we all have if you are not aware you are doing it. Talking in the term of love. Interpersonal relationships and emotions a point to be "brought up!"
~~~~~Parataxic distortion is a psychiatric term first used by Harry S. Sullivan to describe the inclination to skew perceptions of others based on fantasy. The "distortion" is a faulty perception of others, based not on actual experience with the other individual, but on a projected fantasy personality attributed to the individual.
Interpersonal relationships and emotions
Distorting one's perception of others can often interfere with interpersonal relationships. In many cases, however, it may be beneficial to do so. Humans are constantly and subconsciously stereotyping. According to Paul Martin Lester, "our brains naturally classify what we see, we can't help but notice the differences in physical attributes between one person and another." Parataxic distortion runs parallel to stereotyping while it remains in the subconscious. As we make quick judgments, we are drawing from previous experiences stored in our memory.
Parataxic distortion can be a beneficial defense mechanism for the individual, allowing the individual to maintain relationships with others with whom he or she would otherwise be unable to interact or allowing the individual to endure difficult periods in relationships. A self-imposed blindness to certain personality traits can keep a relationship healthy, or it can also prove destructive. For instance, parataxic distortion can keep one in denial of the abusive nature of a spouse.
And so is the point Parataxic distortion is not a issue when you accept each other as is or better how everyone can be!. You are not them and they are not you. Both adapt, to make all better as a whole! Being supplemental to each other offering personal security a vent, foundation being un intrusive to. Being considerate is not being intrusive get over it! I mean feel free to help out, any contributions to society is appreciated! As the same in the relationship to make both better as a whole contributions to the relationship! Like the saying "Don't fight the waterfall." Or the part of Zen don't fight the water (It just splashes in your face as long as you do it.) go with the flow let the power be yours! Both be one with the water!
For me I prefer Polyandry "V" so how does that play into Parataxic distortion? Very well as everyone has to accept each other distortions don't matter as the point of the relationship is for her happiness as there is a reason for those type of relationships to rid the pains in life etc and the two guys accept each other as it is for her happiness and the guys benefit as a whole and by proxy! Accepting makes it a long term. If you are in your 50's you really only have 20 years to go. If it's polyandry it's gold, a life changing event who would leave? Kill the male EGO and "Don't fight the waterfall!"
You have found it? Yes! Back in the 90's when I worked at a hotel I went up to the Duck Club restaurant in the hotel to use the espresso machine. (I knew how to use it.) In the kitchen the lady I knew and two guys where sitting with her. I walked in going to the espresso machine when she called me by name I looked and the two guys kissed her on her cheeks at the same time she smiled like a cheshire cat. Shocked by the unexpected kisses I said "You found it!" She said "I found it, damn right I found it!" My view of that the closeness is too close for any Parataxic distortion as they where one!
