I give my full respect for what happened in Manchester! The action of one can hurt so many, but the many standing together helps so many! ~~~~~Imam drives for hours to pay tribute to Manchester attack victims
Imams and Muslim youth from around the UK drove to Manchester, England on Tuesday in a display of solidarity after the city's deadly terror attack.
Zishan Ahmad, an imam at London's Baitul Futuh Mosque, made the 8-hour round trip to pay tribute to the victims at a vigil outside Manchester City Hall.
He joined about 50 members of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Youth Association -- and hundreds of others who attended the solemn event.
For Ahmad, seeing a city being shaken up by tragedy is all too familiar. "I as a Londoner experienced the same thing this great city of Manchester is experiencing," Ahmad said, referring to the attack near UK's Parliament in March that left four dead.
"For this reason I have come up here to show my support and convey the true message of Islam, which condemns such barbaric attacks," he added.
The AMYA members held banners that read "Love for all, hatred for none." Ahmad said this motto "signifies the basis starting point that Islam requires of a Muslim."
For Ahmad, the vigil was an experience that brought people together. "People were approaching us, hugging us," Ahmad said. "It allowed us to show the local community and world at large that terrorists have nothing to do with Islam."
***Don't let this stick you Ariana Grande! This is not what you are about! "She has followed Kabbalah teachings since the age of twelve, along with her brother Frankie,believing "the basis lies in the idea that if you're kind to others, good things will happen to you."
As many know I am a lover of life and I see love as no boundaries. No matter how fucked up it might seem... In value life is short for not being fucked up. My past loves where far out there, so the value of love, love missed and regret, rules. I have to teach for others to know to make that effort! http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/05/where-have-i-been-mirror-mirror.html Thinking about something without emotions blocking the thought. I hit on a lady once only afterwards finding out she going through a divorce. I didn't know! But I hope thinking about it she knows she has value and not a piece of crap. Damn she was not even divorced yet and has a guy interested! Damn she's good! But life is strange like that! Just think about it, I am interested! We both hurt, pain is the same regardless. So in that I would say, lets give this a try and see where it takes us! Why??? Life is too short! As for me I still support my EX wife being her life is too short. She has health issues so she may not be around long. She is my EX and we don't get along but I support her. Love is not finite. And I also fell for a married gypsy lady, that I need in my life also. She ran over my toes and almost me by accident. And appropriately I got on my knees and begged her to come back, I love her! It brings up the point when is my time up? Life is short to not love! Polyamory! Life is too short to put boundaries on love, you are just hurting yourself and others also. Deep and needed things to think about as the song.
With Trump's budget coming and it's expected to cut $1.7 trillion from programs like Medicaid and food stamps. That's not a good thing! ~~~~~Trump's budget comes out Tuesday and it's expected to cut $1.7 trillion
Anytime you cut food stamps you take them away from being passed on
to businesses. Food stamps is like living paycheck to paycheck.
So people on the food stamps will cut back their own spending.
Medicaid cuts is not good being many are less than minimum wage retirees
out there mostly in small town where the wages never grown as seen as
small towns having nothing because they make nothing.
So they retire with nothing! Also with the poor and with kids you don't
want to cut any from them being the lack of wage growth.
It's 9 years since the minimum wage has been increased.
The wages really don't match inflation and with states trying
to get more money in from the poor. Like a cigarette tax taking
away $1.25 per pack from the family. It is better to tax chardonnay
it's a better tax revenue source being the poor mostly smokes
and has less money to.
Reductionist reduce to zero!!!! With budget cuts they reduce to zero!
They have to raise the pay sometime. When you have many people cutting
back their spending when they buy nothing anyway is not good for the labor force
and businesses!
Way back in the 90's there was a Mexican lady I worked with at a Hotel.
She was drinking a old type of drink to lose weight Tamarindo with Cayenne!
I couldn't tell if she lost weight being the hotel food we ate was not
so good for you at the time. But the drink helped her to get going.
It made her feel better.
I use Cayenne a lot. I found out it is better for me if I get it from a plant
than in a spice bottle. Cayenne does not burn me like a jalapeno or others
do and I feel better using it than not. No HABASSBURN!
In fact they say it reduces acidity!
The Capsicum has many uses. It is also in sex gels but I would recommend
using something that has "Ginger root Extract" in it first in a sex use.
Keep in mind Capsicum is also a topical use for sore muscles.
So learn how to use it!
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The point of the story is note a light starting up going to the 21st century
a social change going on or a new world of psychology.
Being real about each other having a normality without the deviancy.
To respect or care about, equally, support as a extended family.
A perfect foundation for all realistically! It's time to grow up and in polygamous terms open the box and let it out. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D6eItTQ6G-U Like climbing up a cliff, it's worth it in the end knowing you have many people there supporting you. Knowing climbing a cliff takes work from all. Something to think about! Knowing your wife is on top of the cliff and she is supported by all is worth a lot! Like her significant others and husband are her safety-net so she able to go farther and higher with no worry! She can't make it there if someone drops out! As the point is about her as a person on how the support makes her a better person making all better loosing nothing but gaining more before she turns 70! Life is short, getting older is no fun! "Elisabeth Sheff, a sociologist who interviewed 40 polyamorous people over the course of several years for her recent book, The Polyamorists Next Door, says that polyamorous configurations with more than three people tend to be rarer and have more turnover. “Polys” are more likely to be liberal and educated, she said, and in the rare cases that they do practice religion, it’s usually paganism or Unitarian Universalism." http://docdestructo62.tumblr.com/post/92678464529/multiple-lovers-without-jealousy "It actually adds value to our lives to be in a relationship with other people," Sheila explains. "I've seen positive outcomes from my husband being with someone who makes him happy. For me it's a win-win. http://www.essence.com/2016/03/01/real-couples-pull-back-covers-their-open-marriage The view is like group therapy in a way and there is gold at the end! When you love someone it's there and they are worth it! "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dn3VQEvpJ68
People do have needs to balance their life and in these days times are changing and times are getting balanced. In the western days in some women had hysteria.
Now is seems women have hysteria and do nothing about it they make it
their lifestyle. Even it's noted even cave women had lovers being it gave her
protection, more food and all around better life vs the times.
It's wired into their nature. They had to reproduce or die of extinction.
This is also reflecting of the ALPHA female today in trait. The cavewoman acted
upon and took care of her needs. An ALPHA would require more than one person,
as she is ALPHA and in view a taller woman being it would be needed for two males
to stand on shoulders to get up to her level. More than one by trait and is ok!
It is best to team up on a ALPHA being the higher level of being one.
More support is needed and should be understood because of the trait.
"A study has found evidence of ‘alpha cave women’
roaming the plains and calling the shots while the menfolk slobbed at home."
But the point is what people think or know about the past can
be like a coloring book when looking at what really was going on.
Like finding out Hoover wore a dress and about the Coolidge effect etc...
And the 60's the push for rights with "Free Love!" People having many wives
in the Bible times give women where property and came with the house back then,
if you had many houses you had many wives. Humans behave badly. Well if we did not we all would not of been here today! We would of been eaten by a saber tooth tiger because there would of been more of them than us. It was a race back then to populate! We won!
Then you look into Havelock Ellis and his marriage. "In November 1891, at the age of 32, and reportedly still a virgin, Ellis married the English writer and proponent of women's rights, Edith Lees. From the beginning, their marriage was unconventional, as Edith Lees was openly lesbian. At the end of the honeymoon, Ellis went back to his bachelor rooms in Paddington. She lived at Fellowship House. Their "open marriage" was the central subject in Ellis's autobiography, My Life." "According to Ellis in My Life, his friends were much amused at his being considered an expert on sex. Some knew that he suffered from impotence until the age of 60. He then discovered that he could become aroused by the sight of a woman urinating. Ellis named this "undinism". After his wife, Edith Lees, died, Ellis formed a relationship with a French woman called Françoise Lafitte." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Havelock_Ellis Bertrand Russell also had connections with Lady Ottoline Morrelland the actress Lady Constance Malleson. "He soon fell in love with the puritanical, high-minded Alys, who was a graduate of Bryn Mawr College near Philadelphia, and, contrary to his grandmother's wishes, married her on 13 December 1894. Their marriage began to fall apart in 1901 when it occurred to Russell, while he was cycling, that he no longer loved her. She asked him if he loved her and he replied that he didn't. Russell also disliked Alys's mother, finding her controlling and cruel. It was to be a hollow shell of a marriage and they finally divorced in 1921, after a lengthy period of separation. During this period, Russell had passionate (and often simultaneous) affairs with a number of women, including Lady Ottoline Morrell and the actress Lady Constance Malleson." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bertrand_Russell#University_and_first_marriage "In all affairs it's a healthy thing now and then to hang a question mark on the
things you have long taken for granted."
"The secret of happiness is this: let your interests be as wide as possible,
and let your reactions to the things and persons that interest you be as far
And Catherine The Great having 22 male lovers during her long life. She was partial to handsome young men. She died in her bed, after a stroke. It's just a matter what part of reality offends people, or knowing how short life is, or that others are needed for others! What part of the 22 male lovers supporting her, making her "The Great" is not understood? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legends_of_Catherine_the_Great Bob Marley had a open marriage. http://www.nytimes.com/2004/05/02/books/marley-s-ghost.html Sexuality of Abraham Lincoln?
Oscar Wilde! "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars." https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Oscar_Wilde https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oscar_Wilde George Borrow? "Borrow depicts an old man (Taylor) and a young man (Borrow) discussing the merits of German literature, including Goethe's The Sorrows of Young Werther. Taylor confesses himself to be no admirer of either The Sorrows of Young Werther or its author but nevertheless states. It is good to be a German (for) the Germans are the most philosophical people in the world." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Borrow Hoover wore a dress! "Quoted Susan L. Rosenstiel, a former wife of Lewis S. Rosenstiel, chairman of Schenley Industries Inc., as saying that in 1958, she was at a party at the Plaza Hotel where Hoover engaged in cross-dressing in front of her then-husband and Roy Cohn, former counsel to Senator Joe McCarthy." http://historynewsnetwork.org/article/814 Also "For example, on June 13, 1958, the head of the Washington field office informed Hoover that, prior to marrying a member of Congress, the member’s wife had been “having an affair with a Negro [and] also at one time carried on an affair with a House Post Office employee.” More recently, the report said, the congressman’s wife “endeavored to have an affair with [an] Indonesian, who declined.” http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2011/08/02/fbi-director-hoover-s-dirty-files-excerpt-from-ronald-kessler-s-the-secrets-of-the-fbi.html Calvin Coolidge, (The Coolidge Effect?) Behavioral endocrinologist Frank A. Beach first mentioned the term "Coolidge effect" in publication in 1955, crediting one of his students with suggesting the term at a psychology conference. He attributed the neologism to: an old joke about Calvin Coolidge when he was President The President and Mrs. Coolidge were being shown [separately] around an experimental government farm. When [Mrs. Coolidge] came to the chicken yard she noticed that a rooster was mating very frequently. She asked the attendant how often that happened and was told, "Dozens of times each day." Mrs. Coolidge said, "Tell that to the President when he comes by." Upon being told, the President asked, "Same hen every time?" The reply was, "Oh, no, Mr. President, a different hen every time." President: "Tell that to Mrs. Coolidge." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect
It's all nothing new from the past, we grew up about it and now we are moving ahead.
Facts are facts times are changing. Like women getting the right to vote and now. Also it's like growing up, like the life changing times of picking up your date on a riding lawn mower and her understanding because she is broke herself. So there is no stress of a first date! Being Polyamory is overall the best for kids in a Poly family. There is more income coming into the family, support more watching eyes for the kids no abuse as one or the other would stop it. A safety shell for kids being the more than one in the household. Over time the trust the kid has to talk about issues depending on one parent or another of issue the kid has. And in all that the kid when he grows up and learns / wakes up about what was going on more likely will see how he was raised supported more than many other kids where.
And from my time I spent in hotels I have a few stories or heard a few from others,
shows life from the 90's! It's a funny hidden world.
If one is driven by the sex of it and not being emotionally supportive,
long term lover in view for all involved, the trust would fail. Being like a lack of maturity about it. It's about her balance in view. If she is happy then the others involved are happy also.
Being open in the light you have nothing to hide, so in that there is less stress,
as all would be open and communicate about it for positive growth.
Why have her blow her lid? Growth and support is needed! A wife blowing her lid like that more likely won't happen if her two partners are hugging her now don't you think! Also stops any kind of abuse as the two are for her needs, and one or the other would put a stop to any abuse! http://newsok.com/elementary-school-counselor-suspended-with-pay-during-investigation/article/5448874 http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/okla-woman-ran-killed-husband-fight-cops-article-1.2227579 Inflammatory or not I have to say it being not only to the fact Oklahoma is against it's own people but Oklahoma puts pressure on people so being unsupported in Oklahoma is norm "mental illness" is norm in Oklahoma. If you are not from Oklahoma and you meet the locals you will see it! But the point is to ask if the lady that drove her car into people at the Oklahoma State University’s homecoming parade had been supported. Don't you think this would of never happened as her partners would be supporting her. She would of drove her car into the garage door to have a threesome with her partners not drive into people killing them! I am talking about Oklahoma with unsupported people. Bad as it sounds you need to look at how life is in Oklahoma for women to see what I am saying! It's like a make love not war sort of thing I am saying! What is the cost of war?! http://newsok.com/article/5428983 http://www.reuters.com/article/2015/10/26/us-oklahoma-crash-idUSKCN0SJ0MS20151026 You see the good in meeting the Healer in your life! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ANh3BjG4Oxg Growth and support as in accepting where the relationship is in your life and how to fix the bad. Being married for a long time, can be like the saying people in hell want want ice water and how long is the waiting going to be? "Partners in these relationships need to look at all the things they've wanted
to do in life but haven't, because it didn't fit their stereotypes about themselves
and their expectations about their partners. They need to learn to communicate at an emotional level, to disclose their feelings and listen to those of their partner.
They may need to learn to work less and play more." http://www.sonoma.edu/users/d/daniels/lynch.html There is nothing more beautiful than supporting building trust in all in a married women. To be taken home for that talk to build a Tiny Gypsy house for her together. Building a relationship together as all would be building it for her as all is for her, so she can have her woman cave! It's the acceptance of everyone together working it out for her best interest! Accepting the wife for who she is so she can be herself! http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/09/accepting-your-wife-for-who-she-is.html Also a wife has the right to put on the pants on in the family to get her happiness! A wife taking over and saying "I'm getting a boyfriend dammit" is gold! "There's something burning in the air!" Unhappy Woman! And that is a good point growth! "We're not trying to say that monogamy is bad," said Billy Holder, a 36-year-old carpenter who works at a university in Atlanta. "We're trying to promote the fact that everyone has a right to develop a relationship structure that works for them." http://www.cnn.com/2013/10/26/living/relationships-polyamory There is the time in your youth where you are the hunter looking for love. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UV84qWEqGqE But then there is the point where you grow up and take responsibility in love. Being a player / hunter does not build trust in your partners. The lack of openness is a trust killer. So it's about being open to each other. Like being married but dating there will be a openness to each other otherwise as shown in history the whole circle burns up. Or the other partner dating the married knows the partner is obligated to their partner as the dater is more likely also obligated to their partner so the circle is strong. There is a reason for those relationships it's not out of deviancy! That is one of the healthy types of relationships because of the openness and trust building it's a strong circle! When you are in a relationship like that. The point is to support, care, normalize the partners. Vs being a player where no one knows what is going on with the lack of trust about it.
Significant others are called that because they are significant!
Or (y) makes (x) the other significant! Vice versa.
To be good for the other person and that is what matters, the balance!
You get a lot back in support.
Also the openness stops the dark unknown of saying is my wife falling for the boss?
It would be unknown, so all in evolved would be going crazy in the dark.
Openness would stop that and make room for growth.
Also there is less of a fear of losing your wife if the other partner is a stable
lower income bracket, he would not be able to support her if they try to elope.
It's worth a try being open these days! This is just like the basis of Maslow,
in a changing time! Mostly like in the hierarchy of needs. If your needs are not met
like if your house is falling down, lack of food then your not able to get to the
self-actualization part of life so an open marriage would be not on your list.
So an open marriage is best when you are stable! Or being in a open marriage makes you stable. Otherwise with no stable you would get user people and people that are low as low is, trying to survive and would more likely not follow the rules etc. There are too many broken wings! Why? People don't need to hurt! You can love everyone, and I'm not talking about only sex! A lovers connection emotionally, timing, supportive for all! That is what is worth the most! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKhN1t_7PEY It's all about support and learning you don't have to turn your back on people. As in me I support me EX, I pay some of her bills, mow the grass help out, to keep her from being a bag lady! But I also live elsewhere with a life of my own. And it's ok in fact my EX wants me to find someone else. And that shows there is a openness to point she wants the best for me. And I want the best for her. So in a way there is support, in a poly format. Yes I pay some of my EX wife's bills! I learned from relationship after relationship there is really no reason to dump someone and walkaway! If it does not work then you both know it does not work and you say it's not working, and move the relationship to something like friends! It's just a view point of not hating people letting go of the bad in your past relationships and being fair to each other! I had a past lady love that barfed on the first date and took me to a gay bar. In high school I had a girlfriend that was a EX teen prostitute. Etc, Etc... So you know, I know it's time to let it go and be fair to each other! http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/05/where-have-i-been-mirror-mirror.html Another issue is if you have a soul-mate that is gay! Polyamory! All could be together supporting each other! Again it's a matter to be open about it!
*If there is no growth for all happening then the party involved should all call it quits! Balance is the point for all to benefit!
I heard from a few that found out that their parents had an open marriage.
As in when they did their family history and found oops, the tree breaks off
and goes to another tree! That is nothing new! Also even in the country club there is a little black book in the banquet department
in the back of the file cabinet. "Rules of Engagement" It is there in case a worker
gets hooks up with a married rich lady etc there. I know I read it when I worked at
a country club. I was shagged by no one there I guess the boss saw me as prime and
got nervous letting me read the book just in case . It is just rules like don't have sex in
the closet, not on the *golf cart. (*Heard a funny story can't say here!). etc.
In other words if it happens keep it there don't take it to work with you.
Why? When you add up all the income the people have that goes to a country club
it would be well over a billion dollars and you would have to protect that.
The rules would be to keep the couple from rocking the boat making the other
rich people jump ship. Where I worked they did not frown about a worker hooking up if it wasn't going to blow up bad, if it was a fire they would put it out!
They would let you know what not to do!
With the time I spent in the hotel working
I know about married rich people as in the wife going to Hedonism II
with the husband knowing and glad because the wife is stabilized after.
Also in 2005 the same a trio! "in the Netherlands polygamy has been legalised in all but name. Last Friday the first civil union of three partners was registered. Victor de Bruijn (46) from Roosendaal “married” both Bianca (31) and Mirjam (35) in a ceremony before a notary who duly registered their civil union."
Strange connections are out there can't say their not!
So really suppression in the past is like staying in the dark ages,
sinking in the pit of your misery. People get tired of that!
I guess it's like people wake up and realize they don't need to be in hell.
Give it like better education to be like adults about it. It is long over due to come out of the dark! The days of hedonism is ending! You need to look at it with the light on Humanistic psychology. Humanist Approach, Self-Actualization, McKenna! http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/05/humanist-approach-concept-of-humanity.html More pointed to Maslow in relating to peak experiences in everyone's life as shared. When looking at the lack of it, you see the need as we all are human. Like climbing up a cliff, it's a peak experience. As a group together sharing the peak experience long term would be valuable as all, for all, projecting into a open marriage or polyamory for a better life. And it is the same but long term, it's like hiking up a mountain and it's worth it in the end! Peak experiences describe moments accompanied by a euphoric mental state often achieved by self-actualizing individuals. The concept was originally developed by Abraham Maslow in 1964, who describes peak experiences as rare, exciting, oceanic, deeply moving, exhilarating, elevating experiences that generate an advanced form of perceiving reality, and are even mystic and magical in their effect upon the experimenter." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peak_experience All of those actions in that light have a purpose, like gong for the pursuit of happiness
not the pursuit of unhappiness! And not accepting others keeping you there in your unhappiness. Having normality without the deviancy and growing up!
Both parties need to communicate and they need to be real! If someone loves a
married woman and she loves him back as she keeps checking out his package like she works at the post office then they do need to communicate. Actions are the real words, blah, blah is just blah but if she keeps looking at him
and he keeps looking at her, then all need to get it over with and talk, actions is the heart of the matter. Both need to communicate their actions! Every guy had a few that checked them out at work. (Thank you!) It's human nature like going back to the cave woman!
Sometime those words "Walk with me" will have to pop up. And again you will have to be real communicate be honest and let them know your long term / stable to the end of time.
Grab him by the hand and take him home if you have to. Men tend to be clueless!
Also who ever loves who, that is the normality and worth it's weight, Valued!
"Both parties in a successful marriage are able to give and receive communication
from their spouse on any subject."
"Life is miserable if you have no one to openly communicate with. Friendships are based
on communication. The lack of friends or a spouse to communicate with often leads to
mental problems." Don't keep it buried it's not worth it!
http://www.tipsforsuccess.org/communicate.htm No communication sinks your ship. Anyone not on your ship does not care, they might talk bad about you but it's a fad it will go away and all you have is your sunk ship! What is your happiness worth unhappiness? "JOSEPH CONRAD, TYPHOON" What from the magnitude of the shock might have been a column of water upright in the dark butted against the ship, broke short and fell on her bridge crushingly, from on high, with a dead burying weight. A flying fragment of that collapse, a mere splash, enveloped them in one swirl from their feet over their heads, filling violently their ears, mouths, and nostrils with salt water. It knocked out their legs, wrenched in haste at their arms, seethed away swiftly under their chins; and opening their eyes they saw the piled up masses of foam dashing to and fro amongst what looked like the fragments of a ship.
If it's a no go at least she knows you love her and you are there always to pick up
the pieces of the ship and that is worth a lot also! And that's ok! You love who
you love regardless! She is loved regardless, she's loved!!!!
Many women are poly by nature in getting what they require emotionally! It takes more men vs a woman to get balance, it's human nature.
