Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Banquet Servers



(This is a disclaimer. This story has TMI. Just be aware!)
A biography of my hotel years!

I am sure you heard the saying before, "What happens at the Hotel stays at the Hotel!"
Why? Well it's to protect the hotels interest many rich people spend much time and
money at a hotel, so to keep other rich people or the press from getting info that
would distrust the rich person that would go to the hotel the bad behavior that person did
is hushed! Also it's just more of a hotel worker pride!

But some things are just too funny to hush. Like "some" of my stories! (Not all.)


etiquette that is followed.
Women first etc. http://www.wisegeek.org/what-is-proper-serving-etiquette.htm
But to me a person with much money is the same as the other customers.
If you where rich you got served like everyone else! 

***I worked a banquet once and I had a table with the KOCH brothers.
At the time did did not know much about them this was the 90's.
I served them coffee, (If I ever knew!) but I treated them like everyone else.
Money did not out due the standard I was running by.

















Funny TMI!












***In the 90's I had a hard time with a past High School girl I fell for.
We ran into each other in college and dated but my feelings where not her feelings.
I ran into her again at the Hotel I was working at. We went on a date again and
I found out she was moving to Chicago so this was a real downer!

That day I could not take off the day from work to go on a date all day.
I worked at a hotel and it was a big thing they had going on.

When I got there I found out it was a banquet with a famous lady actress from the 80's
I liked to watch. The show was about an Angel that lived in the closet, that would
come out to help a boy deal with things.

Sort of fitting! She was doing the motivational speaking thing there.
During her thing she came up to me and wanted to get my coffee pot so she could
run around to serve coffee to people, being motivational.
I quickly showed her how to do it safely without getting hot coffee on someone.
She later told me I was the first one that let her do it! Thanks she said.














the 90's I was working at the Marriott hotel and we had a banquet server
from Haiti she told me she was a Voodoo Priestess there. One night I broke a light that
was close to the food tray I quickly cleaned it up but there was a piece of glass still
behind the tray and she cut her hand bad. When I got home after work, overnight
someone broke into my car. So the next time I saw her I apologized to her.
No disrespect I know there is more to life than we know!

***In the 90's there was a lady worker that was goofy, over sensitive.
"I don't like the way you eat food, I don't like the way you drink, don't like the way
you sit in the chair, etc..." She was bugging be once and she always carried a
note pad with her. So when she got on me again I told her a bunch of BS.
Like I cooked a dog on a grill. I told her I just threw it on the hot grill and closed
it real fast it yelled a lot but the dog was kind of good, but tough I said!

Sure enough she took the notes as I dished out the BS until she said no more.
I thought this was the end of her microscopic criticism. Until six years later when
I went to get another job, it turns out she took the papers to the NLRB so
they ended up being tagged to a file somewhere to me. When I went to the
job interview the boss was shocked at the file as he read on he figgered
the lady had problems. He asked me if I cooked a dog on the grill? NO! LOL!
So I told him what happened six years ago. I didn't know anything about it
being on the NLRB. I don't know why no one told me anything.
That is how it is in my state. People like that back then I would just ignore
and let them burnout over their microscopic criticism.
"Let the crazies be crazies, can't make them not!"

Also at Marriott hotel this table I was working at had a banquet was full
of sort of redneck / south women and they where bugging me
a lot, nothing was good for them. This lady at the table wanted something she said
hold out your hand, look at this, it was a over heated bread roll dry as anything.
I looked at it and there was a plant next to me at the time.
So I grabbed the plant lifting it up and threw the roll down in the bottom
of the pot and put the plant back and with my water pitcher gave it
some water and went on. She later got the banquet manager and
told him to look under the plant and he did I never seen him laugh so hard.
From that time on he would tell me to give no rubber biscuits out today!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYyBZE0kBtE

Soon after the "Rubber Biscuit" incident I got put in to coat check.
We had some kind of banquet for lawyers. With me sitting at my table
at the coat check this drunk lady lawyer sat on my table and
we talked a bit. Well she did look kind of nice and her butt was on my table
so I ended up looking at her butt, when at that right moment the banquet manager
walked around the corner WTF! There I am looking at this ladies butt!
So the manager called me over there. What are you doing? LOL!
I told him she just sat down and I couldn't help it, look at her!
I remember he asked me what kind of car does she drive?
I said a BMW I think, and he told me go for it! But at the time I was 20
something, so I did not have a clue! I kind of wish that cougar would
of pounced on me because I missed out of a free spirit!
And I am sure I would of stabilized her more. It wasn't about money,
I saw it as she was a keeper. Like to have her in my life.
My life would be better also, as in balance the two would be on the same plank.
So the two would be the same. Something like that.
(Ladies we are clueless, women need to pounce sometimes, we don't know!)
But, not to be! I'm not meant to be with her.

***Also at the hotel in the 90's I was a bartender from time to time.
The cougar drink in the 90s was a Muppet.
"Pour equal parts tequila and 7-up into a shot glass.
Place palm over the glass,
hit it on the table (to stir), and shoot."

I had a drunk slurring 50ish lady ask me for a Muppet.
She was attractive and rich. So I couldn't help it.
I said "What do you want to do with that Muppet?"
Sort of flirting with her, like hitting on her.
She said "Im going to drink it......... Hay!"

This is a big no, no in the hotel you don't mess with
the rich people like that. But I couldn't help with a drunk cougar,
there is just something funny about it! Kind of hits your heart!

***Sad but there was a rich lady that sort of had a breakdown.
Her husband had passed away and she rented the top sweet for a month
with her hubs money. Well when she finally got booted out, ran out of money
they found out she painted a door on the wall and that was where her dead husband
would come out of the wall and talk to her. Before that was known the workers
just thought of her as strange. I ended up running a room service call at her room.
She wanted campaign and I ended up having to give it to her through
the crack of the door. She wouldn't open the door all the way. Oh the fun at work!






















































And years later when he said he did that in his past, I said "What the Hell!" Life is funny!

Working a early banquet breakfast they had a poached egg with their meal
in a ramekin on the plate. With him being tired this lady asked him what that was.
(We didn't know it's too early!) he told her it was sour cream.
Well a bit later she got to that part and found out it was a egg.
She said out loud "That's not sour cream that's an egg" and another guy
said who told you that. And at that right moment he came into the room
with coffee and the lady pointed at him and said "He said it, there he is right there!" 

***I worked the PGA in the 1990's. We had all the network executives around,
all the old time, new time gofers walking around. It was Caddy Shack, I lived it!
Tiger Woods and a old time gofer happened to come down the elevator to the lobby
at the same time. A bunch of fans came up to ask for autographs and they all went to
Tiger woods. And the old time gofer went up back to his room. It was just bad timing!

***In the early 90's I hung up on a bomb threat four times!
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2014/12/hanging-up-on-bomb-threat-4-times.html

***After a banquet during clean up this worker sort of redneckish lost his tray and it
tipped over too much and the glasses all fell, and broke.
I ran up to him in my banquet sever TUX and with a stupid / like it blew my mind redneck
look on my face said "God Damnnnnn, God Damnnnnn, God Damnnnnn"
The the boss said stop doing that. And I said ok sorry and went back to work!
And the co-worker laughed his ass off after that.
It was just one of those funny things out of the blue I did in the 90's.

***In the late 90's we where working Easter brunch. Well this other co-worker
was going around serving coffee one table at a time going down the line.
That's how it works in a hotel. Well this "Fat lady" wanted coffee and she was rude
so he told her to "Chill out Lady." and before he could say anything else
her face turned red, her blood pressure was boom!
She stormed off asking where the manager was. "Manager, Manager?"
So he took off to the back and went upstairs where I was working a function.
And he told me what happened so really I did not want him
to get fired over a temporary issue so I switched places with him to give some
"Chill out time" I was hiding him! He really is not a bad, rude worker and that
lady sounded like to me had issues, workers don't need to walk on egg shells
at work! So being how Hotels work in real life I hid him!
Over a hour latter the lady was gone and things cooled down
and we switched back.

***In the 90's in the back storeroom of the banquet department I accidentally bumped
a helium tank making it tip over I didn't get to it in time and the valve hit just right on
a pallet knocking it off. The tank took off like a rocket ending up putting a small hole
in the wall. I ran for my life!

***The memories of the 90's the songs on the dance floor!
So go dancing you know I will! I heard these songs like at least 100 times at work
and they never got old. Yes I danced a few times at work.
 A good list at...
https://anthonyvecch.wordpress.com/2014/11/25/the-fifty-greatest-dance-songs-of-the-90s
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HEXWRTEbj1I
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LogL2pUiQmg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8nK1YQiaNEk 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WMPM1q_Uyxc
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LXEOESuiYcA

***Also in the 90's at a other property the hotel uses. I came to work once there
and found a hole in the wall with a black dot. It was a security camera!
I knew this because I sneaked around it and climbed on the ice machine looking
up in the ceiling tile I found a VCR and it was recording every 4 sec's so I timed my watch
to it and quickly came down. I then went to the prop room and found a tall black top hat.
And got in front of the camera and every 4 sec's I would jump in the air then quickly
move forward then jump again I did this around the whole big table then worked my
way back to the camera then in front of the camera I took off my top hat and tipped
it then before the VCR recorded again I took off running so it looked like I vanished.



A week later when I came to work the HR lady was looking at me with the eagle eye
As I walked by her office she seen the video. A few months later and a few paranoid
bosses later, I fixed it. I was in love with a Angie Dickinson lookalike and I knew it
bugged her and I got sick of it also so enough! I covered the hole with butter
being the color of the butter was the same color of the wall and respectfully the same as
her hair color. (Only I would notice something like that. When I get it bad I get it bad!)
Anyway the butter worked no more camera in the wall and no one said anything.

***Also at the other property the hotel uses there was a marriage and
a sort of a divorce the same day. This couple got marred and later that night they
had their reception at the hotel. The lady's husband got a little drunk, and a bit
aggressive. I sort of suspect he hit her or something, just by the way they where acting.
I picked up on it. He was upset that a beef roast got ruined because the hot box stopped
working. He wanted to take the roast back with him but Chef said it was not safe to eat.
So later when I went in the elevator I held it open for them, they where going down also.
So the wife, her parents and the drunk husband and me went down the elevator from hell!
We made it to the lobby, and when we got out the wife threw her ring to the floor.
The next day or week she filed for divorce. I remember it was soon after!

(Un-related sort of but I have to mention this the second time I seen something like that.
In the early 90's I was driving to college and on the highway I saw lady walking down
the side of the highway with a guy a ways behind her, they where fighting, yelling.
As I was coming up to them in my car she took off her ring and threw it in the grass.
Some asshole in front of me slammed on the breaks, pulling to the side of the road.
He open his passenger door and she jumped in. I thought about doing that also but
I hesitated, I was in college so I was broke with no money and could not take care
of her if I did! So it was ok. I hope the guy that picked her up took care of her!)

***Before the year 2000 I heard from another hotel worker about something called the
"Concorde Club" in Oklahoma. AKA Swingers club. At the time people where
partying like it's 1999! And this was just another funny thing going on at the time to me.

I was cleaning up after a banquet and the mic was still on and running, so with no
customers in the room just workers I got on the mic and said,
"The first annual meeting of the Concorde Club is now in session
the honorable **** presiding!" and went boom, boom with a coffee cup.
This guy and his wife poked their heads in the room and looked at me he said
"He said it!" And she looked sort of disused and shocked that I said it.
I guess they knew about it also! It was just too funny for me but told them
sorry!

***In the mid 90's This RICH lady whose husband runs an oil refinery headquarters,
was seen at the hotel by her husband she was going up the elevator with her arms
around two guys. Well he only seen the back of her and was sure it was her,
but not 100% so he asked the bellman and front desk if they knew if she
was there. They didn't know but they quickly passed the info to the hotel manager.
Being the guy runs the oil refinery headquarters and is over 60% of the hotels money
at the time the manager looked in to it.

He found her, she was having a orgy with a bunch of people in a upstairs sweet.
The manager and security got the people to get dressed and got them out the
hotel in the stairwell. They kept the wife there as she was a match on fire
and they where thinking what to do to get her out of the hotel without her husband
seeing her. Also to the fact all she had on was a crotchless lace S&M outfit.
Because one of the people there took her clothing on the way out.

So that was where I came in I was working on the floor at the time.
The manager got me and told me what was going on and we need to
get her out without her husband seeing her. It's death of the Hotel because
he would pull all of the business away for sure.
We can't go down the main elevator or take the stairwell because you still would
have to walk across the main lobby hallway to get to the parking lot exit.
There was a service elevator that went to the lobby and that was the way they
where going to take her out. Being it was close to the parking lot exit.

But how without being seen because her husband was standing in the middle
of the lobby looking at everything to see where she comes out at.
What to do? I came up with a pink panther kind of movie thing, of hiding her in the
Rubbermaid cart with a cloth over it. But when she got in there was too many sharp
plastic things in there hurting her so she refused!
So I came up with option two, duck walk next to the cart so it hides her so we
can get her down the lobby hallway a bit to get her to the parking lot exit, where
the bellman had her car in the back of the hotel ready for a fast exit.



So with the cart stacked with trays and covered with the cloth and her car ready
and with the manager and security guard ahead on the lookout we ran to the
service elevator. Where at the lobby floor I went out first and moved my
cart over a bit and at a sight angle me and the duck walking wife
with the crotchless lace S&M outfit walking next to the cart walked toward the exit.
(Yes I had to look what guy wouldn't! I was under 30 at the time!)
I was looking at her when the security guard tapped me and I said
"I can't help it it's beautiful" then wife whispered "thank you" and then
the manager coughed "BS!" And the wife said "hey!"
By then we got close enough where her husband couldn't see and the
security guard picked her up over his shoulder and they ran her to the car.
I gave her the call me hand language as they where going down the hall to the exit.
And she gave me the hands up, I can't hand language back! Damn!

After that mess the manager gave me the talk about what happens
in the hotel stays in the hotel! And after that the manger got all the sales people
together we need more business now! And the hotel lives another day!

***Wayback at a unknown time or location at a cater out we where working.
I witnessed a lovers connection. All I am going to say is a worker was in love
with a customer. She hangs out at the workplace a lot I guess while hub is at work.
We where tired and resting against the wall while the people where socializing.
Me and the worker where quiet when all of a sudden he said out loud
"I wish I could be her toy boy!" I looked at him, "WHAT?! LOL"
He looked at me and said "Did I say that out loud?", I said "Well Yess!"
and he said "Oh, Shit! "Then he looked at her and she was looking
at him and you could read her face, "I love you too!", Oh Shit!" He got embarrassed
and walked by the wall going to the exit. And she saw him and she went also on the
wall on the other side of the room. I was standing there watching this go down.
It was like a cougar hunting pray! No, really! 
They both where about half way to the door when they stopped and made eye
contact, contact, contact then he took off running to the exit making it out.
And she took off supper fast to the exit, she paused and looked around
no one really noticed what was going on but me and she looked at me.
I was smiling, this was sort of romantic.
(Totally
Then she looked like fuck it and took off after him.
I didn't see what happened but from seeing her at the place I worked at
I am sure she tackled him. (Her attitude etc.)
I made my way to the exit but did not see them anywhere when I looked.

***Also in the early 90's when I was a dishwasher in my 20's me and the
other worker heard this lawyer group was running room to room naked.
(They had the whole floor.)
Security had the service elevator and stairs locked down.
We both where trying to get up there, we want to see!

***Also as I dishwasher there was a married lady that had a open
marriage or something, that worked in the restaurant. She liked me...
She once wanted me to get her keys our of her front pocket because
her hands where full. So I did, but I quickly found out she had no
pockets they where cut out I felt something furry.

I was interested in her until... The cold prep cook came to
work and went to me in a panic knowing my interest with her.
He told me what happened to him. That he made a agreement
and he had sex with her. He was on top when all of a sudden she
hugged him and wrapped her legs around him holding him down
and yelled out "He's Ready!" He looked over his shoulder and said
the bedroom door opened and her husband was walking toward his ass,
with his thing hanging down wobbling. He could not get free so the only thing he
could do was to flop around in the bed like a dolphin with her hanging on
to him, until they fell off the bed, then he put his ass against the wall and said
"This is not our agreement!" He told me this so it wouldn't happen to me.

***Also in the 90's there was a worker that had a Corpus callosotomy done.
He had some conflict. He told me his "Right brain is jealous of the left
because the right hand does all the work."
There was onetime he hit himself with the left hand.
I had to know what eye - side of the brain to look at to tell
him to knock it off. He thanked me for that!

But overall he was a happy guy! He had his bad times, but
found happiness by carrying two trays of food one in each hand.
"Im happy!" he said. The boss didn't like that but I pulled out
my old college books and showed her, hes not normal and needs
not to be chained to a standard due to his needs!








Sunday, May 28, 2017

Protected Destiny Horn Peak and Relating

In 1987 our Church youth group went to Colorado, Horn Peak.
This was in a bad time for me, my dad was sick at the time
and there was nothing I could do, he was ok but recovering.
This was hard for a 17 year old at the time!
I went to the trip with a lot on my mind.

We got there and did our youth group stuff. I met a strange
woman that said she worked at Los Alamo New Mexico.
She hung around me a lot. I tried to look her up in college but no luck!
This still bugs me today. I'm a interesting person to talk to!

We finality hiked up the peak a 13450 ft hike and climb.
And I almost fell down the peak as I free hand climbed on the 
side of the trail on the top. The rock I had a hold of came out
of the mountain. Believe it or not the wind blew me back in
balance where I could grab another rock.

These are one of the strange times in my life where I tend
to be saved from disaster. 

So to me I don't take life serious. When I love, I love regardless.
I am open because life is short! Keep in mind when I was a kid I got
hit by a car doing 45 mph+ on a moped doing 0 making a left turn.
Sort of like: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Had20POo6ZA
I am still here today! When I say I love you, I do!

So about the Relating part? In 1987 as many kids did back then
I had a Duran, Duran haircut. So as the song goes "We fight for love!"
And isn't that what it's about, regardless! "Something just like this!"






Here in my car, Protected Destiny



I had a few cars in my life. My first car in 1989 was a cursed car that I think tried to kill me
four times. In the 90 Toyota Corolla I was driving I turned left and just hit the curb the
tire went boom, and I broke the axle, I didn't know it but knew the car would drive like
the front tire was sliding back and forth, because it was. I would turn sharp left to put it
back in place. My 82 Toyota Corolla had a issue with the break line being close to the
exhaust, so it carbonized and to use the breaks I had to hit them in a 5 sec, advance.
Also when I drove the car to trade it in, as I drove up some salesmen saw me drive up
when they where smoking in front. I parked and turned off the ignition when the timing
chain broke. The engine made a cling, cling, cling noise as the engine stopped.
I didn't know what it was so I went in and got my new / used car signed the papers
and when they went to start up my old car it wouldn't start.

The other car salesmen said they seen me drive in so the car was working until that point.
The owner of the dealership was amused about it so he was ok with the trade but he
wanted me to pose next to my old car with a story of what happened.
He later added photos of the scene of the Blues Brothers movie where the car falls apart.
He framed it and hung it up on the dealership wall. I don't know if it is still there?

I also had a white Subaru that I blew the engine. My car now has two gears left.
Im not talking about all of my cars I had just the strange or fun ones!

I can just hear everyone tell me, you don't need a car, you had plenty cars
in your life, they are not working with you. You need to get a bike it will do you good!
If it's not a moped, because in 1985 I got hit by a car on my moped.
I was stopped in the street making a left turn when a car doing around 45 mph
going down the road didn't see me because he had something on his dashboard
blocking his view. He hit me the bike went forward and I glided with the car grabbing
hold of the hood hanging on until he stopped hard and I couldn't hang on no more and
I hit the road and skidded with the car holding on to the air dam to not go under the car.
All that happened to me in the end was I bruised my kidney so I turned yellow and
it pulled all the ligaments in one leg because my leg got pulled up too fast as I
went over the hood of the car. It took me months to walk again.

Yes I got hit by a car with me on a moped and survived.
Not as bad but like. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Had20POo6ZA

In my high school days. At a Votech school I was going to during High School.
There where some guys I hung out with "stoners",
I did not smoke with them.

During lunch they took off in my friends car to his parents house to
get some of his pot, I was in the back of the car.
They went there smoked at the house then drove back to school.
We where driving along when all of a sudden they slammed on the breaks.
I hit the back of the front seat. (a)-Only the second time in my life that
happened. We all got out of the car to look at a cow on the side of the road.
It looked at us like it had something to say, but it just mooed!
They where on the ground laughing. Funny but really, it's just a cow!

We got back to Votech, then we went back to our class, but it was late and they
ran to class but it was the wrong class they ran into! They got in there sat down.
I was in the hallway looking at them saying wrong class! Dudes!

The teacher knew and the kids in class knew they where stoned, all but them,
they thought no one knew! It was clear the pot made them stupid.

(a)-I hit the back of the front seat of a car once and rotated as I was pined
to the seat then my legs went over the seat and I softly floated into the front seat
as the car stopped, just like I meant to do that. With me in the back seat a friend
was going fast then slammed on the breaks for some reason and
I ended up in the front seat.

And I also for some reason I sat by the curb and I put my foot under the school
bus tire and the bus ran over my foot. It didn't hurt, it just ran over my foot like a
big marshmallow went over my foot! It was kind of cool!

I was riding my bike once and saw one of my friends so I wanted to
show off, so I flew fast down the road at them then I slid the bike sideways to
stop. But the bike catapulted me in the air at them as they where standing there.
I was coming at them but they did not move they just looked at me and I landed
right with in a inch, face to face with my friend and said "HI!" Like I meant
to do that. He hit me in the nuts!

So I had been out there! I guess I have a protected destiny as I am still here
and not ran over by anyone yet! I might fly a bit but it's all ok!
Anyway, Mucho gusto, lets talk about my cars!

My first car a green 1975 Chevy Impala was a hand down from my
brother and sister. My Mom and Dad went to get a
car and we where not with them. So we where waiting in the front
yard and watching every car coming around the corner,
nope not them, maybe it's a sports car? We didn't know.
Then this big green thing came down the road. It pulled into the
driveway we all started to cry.

They would have to drive it to High school the green ugly as hell and safe as a tank car!
But... My brother crashed it and when it was fixed on the same day it got picked up my
brother crashed it again.

With me well... It almost flipped over on me going around a sight corner I 
got it on two wheels. It felt like someone was like lifting the car up.
I did not want to put the breaks on two wheels so took the foot off the gas
and the car slowly came down.

Then the trim came loose and stuck out about two feet and I was scraping peoples 
cars from mid town, down a busy road, riverside drive all the way to home in rush hour. 
I kept hearing this "da, da, da... da, da, da" noise. 
On the car radio the song, Men at work "Down under" was playing.
Listen to the song, it was funny as hell when you think about it! 
Kind of a http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Plane_(esotericism)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfR9iY5y94s
 
The songs beat matched the sound of the trim scraping peoples cars.
At the time I didn't know what it was so I cranked up the radio to block
out the sound the car was making. Do, do, do ,do, dooo, da, da, da, da, do, do, do, dooo.

So it was something like that. I got home and when my dad came home and saw the trim 
sticking out with all this paint on it, he asked what happened!. 
I didn't notice it when I got home. And soon the trim disappeared! 

I was teaching my high school / college (Red string of fate) lady I was dating how

to drive in it. We ended up in a field. 

Also I was going to her place in December 1989, when I was driving up this hill
and from my right going left a green fireball went across the sky. 
The time it took me to say to myself, what the hell is that Kryptonite, 
because I was really expecting to see superman there also. 
The windshield started to crackle and pop and it started to get really hot
in the car. Then a glowing round mass the size of a basketball started to appear
on the windshield . Then it got really hot in the car and the mass turned white. 
I was thinking what ever was doing that could get in the car to me, 
so I reached over and turned the AC on the defrost and started to blow
on the windshield to keep it from melting

What saved me was a 70's Chevy has lead in the glass and I ended up not having the
AC on the heat was on so it was better at cooling through the radiator.
As the fireball got farther away things cooled off. It was gone and it was still hot so 
I put my hand outside and the air was hot, like summer 100 deg and as I drove along
I hit the cool 25 deg December air. So I was thinking the fireball aimed at my car!
People seen the green fireball, other than me in 1989!
http://articles.latimes.com/1989-12-29/news/mn-1149_1_mystery-fireball

Then the next thing that happened was a freak micro burst. I was going to my church
youth group and I was at the intersection waiting making a left turn. The light turned green
and off I went, as I was going around the corner I heard and felt wind blow on the back
of the car. I had the car floored as I was going so it was not doing anything to my car.
I looked in the rear view mirror and saw a small car being blown over across the road.
A transformer box sparking and a big power line popping in the street,
the kind that is powering a small town. It was popping away exactly where I was
a few seconds earlier.

When I finally traded in the car to a dealership where my dad got the car from they
where not happy to see it. A car sales man yelled to the others "It's back!" and I saw
people peeping through the blinds. I don't know who it was but I think it was a sales man
there told me a story about the car, that the original owners of it said they where sitting on
their porch and said a portal opened like a garage door with a bright light inside it,
in their backyard and the car rolled out of it then the portal closed.
Hell if they didn't want it! Really that is what a guy told me there!

I think I know what they did with the car! When I seen the plane crash in China on TV.
The one where the plane hit the taxi, the first thing I thought was the car was scrap
and it ended up in China! http://www.bbc.com/news/business-31125052

Moving on... One of the most fun cars was my 1995 Subaru Impreza with all wheel drive.
An electric supercharger etc... I took it off road, did donuts in the parking lot in the winter
and got chased by the cops and got away driving through the berm getting on the main
icy road. Took the car to a abandoned park driving it sideways.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=84Qmm4-SIIk

But also at the park a lady almost ran me over! She didn't see me!
It's sort of a destiny thing in my life I met her before I met her... I love her!
She came within a inch of hitting me I sort of skimmed off the side of the car.
I did not fear for my life when she drove by me it was like a "Oh there it is again!"
the acknowledgment of being protected. I was not hurt and as she was stopped
looking at me to see if I was hurt I ended up dropping to me knees begging her
to come back. She looked at me out her car window to see if I was hurt
because I was on my knees but she realized I was ok because I was patting
my heart at her telling her I loved her and was begging her to come back!
Being how close she came to me it was clear a destiny thing going on
and she was attractive. She was my type so that was why I got on my knees!
She smiled with a Cheshire cat smile with sunglasses on! Stole my heart!
She made a right turn! I still love her today! Comeback!
I should of played dead to get her to come back to me! Damn!

Also back in the late 90's I also took the Subaru way out at the end
of Kenosha road in Broken Arrow to the verdigris river. As seen in the bottom
of page with the Subaru in the mud! It was like a dirt track and a park sort of place
where I got stuck once on a tip of a hill all tires did not touch the ground so
the tires where spinning with the car, kind of teeter totter on the tip.
It was funny at the time being I was wobbling in the car trying to get it loose!

And as destiny has it I ended up blowing the engine a few months later.
A lady at work was coming to work and she heard my engine blow a mile away as
she driving her car coming toward me down the road. Only to get to me with me on the
side of the road! "I'm not coming in to work today!"

The car I had for the longest time. During the crash of the housing crisis
and gas being up to $4 a gal. With the car that MADMAXED and got it up to
152 MPH once. And could backfire on demand. Had 140,000 miles on it with
plastic parts epoxied, no inside door handles and had only two working gears
with the sound of a V8 and thought it was a Lotus Omega had died.
That was a car that got me far and was the longest time I had a car.

I have a little Nissan now and I plan to not MADMAX it as much.
But might drive in the woods off road like the Subaru!
But it's good to have a car with more than two gears.
I was so used to opening my door from the outside by opening the
window, I found myself looking for the window crank to open the window
but realized I had power windows so I opened my window and
realized I had door handles! Dang!

I also should note when I worked in a hotel in the 90's I had a
$1.5 million dead peasant insurance policy on me.
The second highest in the state. I knew because HR talked
to me about it wanting to know why they where spending so
much on me, My co-workers called me "Dead Man Walking!"
Like the boss would kill me and claim the $1.5 million!
I'm still here! http://www.deadpeasantinsurance.com

In 1987 our Church youth group went to Colorado, Horn Peak.
We hiked up the peak a 13450 ft hike and climb.
I almost fell down the peak as I free hand climbed on the 
side of the trail on the top. The rock I had a hold of came out
of the mountain. Believe it or not the wind blew me back in
balance where I could grab another rock.
http://www.summitpost.org/horn-peak/151465

In the 90's my friend's ex lover hired a hit man to kill him.
She had bad problems. Me and my friend was talking in 
a Church parking lot while we noticed this guy sitting in his car
So after a while he finally took off. He met us later at my friends place 
and told us he was going to kill us because of my friends ex hired 
him to kill us. He figured out she had issues when we both seemed 
too normal as there was no reason to kill us.
He told us he was at Vietnam so he knew something was not right
and he said saw his friend get blown up as he got on the helicopter. 
"His friends bones are sill in his face!" "He was tired of death!"
This stuff is sort of normal for Oklahoma but more of a Hillbilly issue
relating.

In the 80's I almost got hit by a car as I was on roller skates.
I was on a bridge that went over a creek as the car came at me.
I jumped off the bridge and sort of landed in the mud instead of the 
hard rocks. It was like I floated toward the mud like it was a 
magnet pulling me in.

And because of all that is in my life, I have earned it to be like I am.
Keep that in mind, I got hit by a car doing 45 mph with me on a moped 
and made it! So I may not take things people think as serious, seriously!
It's not serious to me! Life is too short really to be serious!
Like Dusty Springfield I would drive and get lost then find my way back
home. "She enjoyed reading maps and would intentionally get lost to find
her way out." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dusty_Springfield#Personal_life
Live before you miss out on everything life is short!

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLceEzjybohu47TJw1pIVmPF9Etl80upKG

http://www.angelfire.com/me4/dugbugwap/CARPHOTO.html


Friday, May 26, 2017

Work off welfare, 10 years no minimum wage increase

This is just another light to the lack of reality with the Republicans!
"Trump appears to want at least 6 million Americans off government 
aid and into full-time jobs."
"The problem is: Companies don't want these workers. Why? 
They don't have the skills to do those jobs."

But also it's the fact of most towns /small towns are full of unhireable people.
And they are for many reasons. Also of they are not adapt to the changing
workplace or have a shoplifting past from being pushed to get food for the family. 

A big one in is garnished wages. Businesses do not want to hire those people
because of the lack of productivity lack of customer service because they
only make $3.78 after taxes and garnished wages. They don't care!
And being stuck at work for 8 hours a day at garnished wages is crap.
The work is seen as no value so they don't work. Why let their kids run around
at 12am with mom at work making $3.78 an hour for 8 hours!

All of this is just a result of low pay. Minimum wage has not been increased in 10 years!
And as you notice prices are going up. The wages are not matching inflation.
This ends in the lack of sales as people cut back their spending.
And with the Republicans wanting a food stamp cut in a food stamp economy
because they don't make the money to buy something so others have to buy it 
for them from the cost of food stamps. It takes money away from business owners
in the lack of food stamp money coming in their store and from the poor cutting back
because they have less food stamps. Aka, stop eating out now, no Netflix cut back etc.

~~~~~That local evolution has made it easier for national lawmakers to get on board. 
Plus, inflation over time continues to decrease the purchasing power of workers' wages."

"Today marks the day -- 10 years since the last time the federal government raised the minimum wage," Schumer said on Thursday shortly after Sanders spoke. 
The Raise the Wage Act of 2017 would incrementally raise the minimum wage
to $15 an hour over the next seven years. 
The federal minimum wage would be indexed to the median wage beginning in 2025." http://money.cnn.com/2017/05/25/news/economy/minimum-wage-bill-democrats/index.html

All of this mess will bring up the pay. Well they have to bring it up of just let it
fall down in a lack of sale hell! And it is ok it's expected with low pay!
"They can raise their prices all they want I still won't buy it!" it's true it's just
consumer based pricing on $7 after taxes or $3.78 after garnishment.

We all are over due for a poverty crusade! I still push on the point to bring up 
the poverty you have don't hide. Bring up the need for better pay go out looking poor.
Go to the Red-lobster looking like a homeless person and just get biscuits and tea
nothing high dollar! Go to a grand opening of a store and yell out about the high prices!
Flood those places or just walk buy the place seen by all.
Make Walmart look Impoverished dressed homeless!

All of this is like a protest over low pay but not at work so you won't get fired!
Sure these paranoid Republicans will think your paid for doing it or you are lazy
like most of the town is lazy bringing up the point of bad labor force unsupported
pushing a change. The poor will still be poor they don't magically vanish,
but whatever! The paranoid Republicans  burn themselves out over it in time,
keep doing it and have fun doing it!

Thursday, May 25, 2017

Polyamory - Going open into the 21st century



The point of the story is note a light starting up going to the 21st century
a social change going on or a new world of psychology.
Being real about each other having a normality without the deviancy.
To respect or care about, equally, support as a extended family.
A perfect foundation for all realistically!

It's time to grow up and in polygamous terms open the box and let it out.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D6eItTQ6G-U

Like climbing up a cliff, it's worth it in the end knowing you have many people

there supporting you. Knowing climbing a cliff takes work from all.
Something to think about! Knowing your wife is on top of the cliff and she is
supported by all is worth a lot! Like her significant others and husband are her
safety-net so she able to go farther and higher with no worry!

She can't make it there if someone drops out!

As the point is about her as a person on how the support makes her
a better person making all better loosing nothing but gaining more before
she turns 70! Life is short, getting older is no fun!

"Elisabeth Sheff, a sociologist who interviewed 40 polyamorous people over the course

of several years for her recent book, The Polyamorists Next Door, says that
polyamorous configurations with more than three people tend to be rarer and have
more turnover. “Polys” are more likely to be liberal and educated, she said, and in the
rare cases that they do practice religion, it’s usually paganism or Unitarian Universalism."
http://docdestructo62.tumblr.com/post/92678464529/multiple-lovers-without-jealousy

"It actually adds value to our lives to be in a relationship with other people,"

Sheila explains. "I've seen positive outcomes from my husband being with
someone who makes him happy. For me it's a win-win.
http://www.essence.com/2016/03/01/real-couples-pull-back-covers-their-open-marriage

The view is like group therapy in a way and there is gold at the end!

When you love someone it's there and they are worth it!
"Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dn3VQEvpJ68

People do have needs to balance their life and in these days times are changing
and times are getting balanced. In the western days in some women had hysteria.
Now is seems women have hysteria and do nothing about it they make it
their lifestyle. Even it's noted even cave women had lovers being it gave her
protection, more food and all around better life vs the times.
It's wired into their nature. They had to reproduce or die of extinction.

This is also reflecting of the ALPHA female today in trait. The cavewoman acted 
upon and took care of her needs.  An ALPHA would require more than one person,
as she is ALPHA and in view a taller woman being it would be needed for two males
to stand on shoulders to get up to her level. More than one by trait and is ok!
It is best to team up on a ALPHA being the higher level of being one. 
More support is needed and should be understood because of the trait. 
 "A study has found evidence of ‘alpha cave women’ 
roaming the plains and calling the shots while the menfolk slobbed at home."
http://blogs.plos.org/retort/2011/06/02/great-moments-in-science-writing-the-alpha-cavewoman-fiasco

Also a three is good for the female being the support but also in the decision
making of the family relating to the cavewoman calling the shots in the past.
"In fact if the wife gets a lover and grooms him into her 
second husband she would be the boss as the two husbands decision making 
in the family would be canceled out as one husband might decide on ( - ) as 
the other goes ( + ) this ( = 0 ) so the wife decides for progress and no pain!"
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2017/04/dating-married-lady-and-caught-in-middle.html

But the point is what people think or know about the past can
be like a coloring book when looking at what really was going on.
Like finding out Hoover wore a dress and about the Coolidge effect etc...
And the 60's the push for rights with "Free Love!" People having many wives
in the Bible times give women where property and came with the house back then,
if you had many houses you had many wives.

Humans behave badly. Well if we did not we all would not of been here today!

We would of been eaten by a saber tooth tiger because there would of been
more of them than us. It was a race back then to populate! We won!

Then you look into Havelock Ellis and his marriage.

"In November 1891, at the age of 32, and reportedly still a virgin, Ellis married the
English writer and proponent of women's rights, Edith Lees. From the beginning, their
marriage was unconventional, as Edith Lees was openly lesbian.
At the end of the honeymoon, Ellis went back to his bachelor rooms in Paddington.
She lived at Fellowship House. Their "open marriage" was the central subject in Ellis's
autobiography, My Life."

"According to Ellis in My Life, his friends were much amused at his being considered an

expert on sex. Some knew that he suffered from impotence until the age of 60.
He then discovered that he could become aroused by the sight of a woman urinating.
Ellis named this "undinism". After his wife, Edith Lees, died, Ellis formed a relationship
with a French woman called Françoise Lafitte."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Havelock_Ellis

Bertrand Russell also had connections with Lady Ottoline Morrell,

the actress Lady Constance Malleson and Vivienne Haigh-wood.
"He soon fell in love with the puritanical, high-minded Alys, who was a graduate
of Bryn Mawr College near Philadelphia, and, contrary to his grandmother's wishes,
married her on 13 December 1894. Their marriage began to fall apart in 1901
when it occurred to Russell, while he was cycling, that he no longer loved her.
She asked him if he loved her and he replied that he didn't.

Russell also disliked Alys's mother, finding her controlling and cruel.
It was to be a hollow shell of a marriage and they finally divorced in 1921,
after a lengthy period of separation.
During this period, Russell had passionate (and often simultaneous) affairs with
a number of women, including Lady Ottoline Morrell and the actress
Lady Constance Malleson. Some have suggested that at this point he had an affair 
with Vivienne Haigh-Wood, the English governess and writer, and first wife of 
T. S. Eliot. 
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bertrand_Russell#University_and_first_marriage

"In all affairs it's a healthy thing now and then to hang a question mark on the 

things you have long taken for granted."

"The secret of happiness is this: let your interests be as wide as possible,
and let your reactions to the things and persons that interest you be as far
as possible friendly rather than hostile."

Also noted, the life changing read of the Chapters.
The Conquest of Happiness (1930) is a book by Bertrand Russell.
http://russell-j.com/beginner/COH-TEXT.HTM

Lady Ottoline Morrell:

"In February 1902, she married the MP Philip Morrell, with whom she shared a
passion for art and a strong interest in Liberal politics. They shared what would
now be known as an open marriage for the rest of their lives."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lady_Ottoline_Morrell

Lady Constance Malleson:

"During the First World War, her pacifist opinions brought her into contact with
Bertrand Russell, whose mistress she soon became
(having agreed with her husband on an "open marriage").
In 1923, she was divorced from Malleson. Her interest in social reform led her
to travel abroad, and she carried out lecture tours in Scandinavia in the
1930s and 1940s."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lady_Constance_Malleson

Vivienne Haigh-Wood:
Haigh-Wood met Eliot in Oxford in March 1915, while he was studying philosophy at Merton College and she was working as a governess in Cambridge. They were married in Hampstead Register Office three months later. They remained married until her death in 1947, but Haigh-Wood's poor physical and mental health, and Eliot's apparent intolerance of it, produced a stormy relationship, made worse by her apparently having an affair with the philosopher Bertrand Russell.
Eliot arranged for a formal separation in February 1933, and thereafter shunned her entirely, hiding from her and instructing his friends – including members of the Bloomsbury Group and the publisher Faber & Faber, where he was a director – not to tell her where he was. Her brother had her committed to an asylum in 1938, after she was found wandering the streets of London at five o'clock in the morning, apparently asking whether Eliot had been beheaded. Apart from one escape attempt, she remained there until she died nine years later at the age of 58; she was said to have suffered a heart attack, although there is a suspicion that she took an overdose. Eliot won the Nobel Prize for Literature the following year.
Carole Seymour-Jones writes that it was out of the turmoil of the marriage that Eliot produced The Waste Land, one of the 20th century's finest poems. Eliot's sister-in-law, Theresa, said of the relationship: "Vivienne ruined Tom as a man, but she made him as a poet."
*Note Russell in view was her therapist keeping her together.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vivienne_Haigh-Wood

Einstein admitted he spent time with six other women while married. Poly 6 times!

http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/11/einstein-and-polyamory.html
http://www.nbcnews.com/id/13804030/ns/technology_and_science-science/t/new-letters-shed-light-einsteins-love-life

And Catherine The Great having 22 male lovers during her long life.

She was partial to handsome young men. She died in her bed, after a stroke.
It's just a matter what part of reality offends people, or knowing how short life is,
or that others are needed for others!
What part of the 22 male lovers supporting her, making her "The Great"
is not understood?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legends_of_Catherine_the_Great

Bob Marley had a open marriage.

http://www.nytimes.com/2004/05/02/books/marley-s-ghost.html

Sexuality of Abraham Lincoln?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexuality_of_Abraham_Lincoln

The respected push and effort for the times, showing the need to push on and proceed!

Oscar Wilde! "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars."
https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Oscar_Wilde
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oscar_Wilde

George Borrow? "Borrow depicts an old man (Taylor) and a young man (Borrow)

discussing the merits of German literature, including Goethe's  
The Sorrows of Young Werther. Taylor confesses himself to be no admirer of either  
The Sorrows of Young Werther or its author but nevertheless states.
It is good to be a German (for) the Germans are the most
philosophical people in the world."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/George_Borrow

Hoover wore a dress! "Quoted Susan L. Rosenstiel, a former wife of Lewis S. Rosenstiel,

chairman of Schenley Industries Inc., as saying that in 1958, she was at a party at the
Plaza Hotel where Hoover engaged in cross-dressing in front of her then-husband and
Roy Cohn, former counsel to Senator Joe McCarthy."
http://historynewsnetwork.org/article/814

Also "For example, on June 13, 1958, the head of the Washington field office informed

Hoover that, prior to marrying a member of Congress, the member’s wife had been
“having an affair with a Negro [and] also at one time carried on an affair with a
House Post Office employee.” More recently, the report said, the congressman’s wife
“endeavored to have an affair with [an] Indonesian, who declined.”
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2011/08/02/fbi-director-hoover-s-dirty-files-excerpt-from-ronald-kessler-s-the-secrets-of-the-fbi.html

Calvin Coolidge, (The Coolidge Effect?)

Behavioral endocrinologist Frank A. Beach first mentioned the term
"Coolidge effect" in publication in 1955, crediting one of his students with
suggesting the term at a psychology conference. He attributed the neologism to:
an old joke about Calvin Coolidge when he was President The President and
Mrs. Coolidge were being shown [separately] around an experimental
government farm. When [Mrs. Coolidge] came to the chicken yard she noticed
that a rooster was mating very frequently. She asked the attendant how often that
happened and was told, "Dozens of times each day." Mrs. Coolidge said,
"Tell that to the President when he comes by." Upon being told, the President 
asked, "Same hen every time?" The reply was, "Oh, no, Mr. President, 
a different hen every time." President: "Tell that to Mrs. Coolidge."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect

It's all nothing new from the past, we grew up about it and now we are moving ahead.
Facts are facts times are changing. Like women getting the right to vote and now.

Also it's like growing up, like the life changing times of picking up your date on a

riding lawn mower and her understanding because she is broke herself.
So there is no stress of a first date!

Being Polyamory is overall the best for kids in a Poly family.

There is more income coming into the family, support more watching
eyes for the kids no abuse as one or the other would stop it.
A safety shell for kids being the more than one in the household.
Over time the trust the kid has to talk about issues depending on one
parent or another of issue the kid has.

And in all that the kid when he grows up and learns / wakes up about what

was going on more likely will see how he was raised supported more than many
other kids where.

And from my time I spent in hotels I have a few stories or heard a few from others,
shows life from the 90's! It's a funny hidden world.

Also noted now like some stories that where on CNN.
Smart people have a grip probably more than they did in the 90's.
"For the monthly Bronze Party" Oklahoma had their "Concord Club"
in the 90's I found out about in when I worked in hotels, it was just too
funny for the time. Everyone was going nuts like that in 1999 into 2000,
hotels where the playground for the rich at that time.

I thought about looking to see what was going on at the "Concord Club"
but really what if you see someone you know? Well what would you do?
That was in the 90's and now for the CNN story running shows the times
are getting out of the dark!

Even Korea legalized adultery! I'm not surprised my college friend
had a hagwon job there in the 90's he told me some stories
about life in Korea. Koreans tend to not suppress themselves.
I guess they hear about what it is like in the North and for the South
their freedom from being told what to do is more valued than being
locked up. http://www.cnn.com/2015/02/26/asia/south-korea-adultery

Also noted by a art park called "Sex Land" Human behavior accepted.

http://www.windsorstar.com/health/photo+gallery+jeju/8288710/story.html

And the Khajuraho Temples!

"It is believed that the erotic sculptures, amongst them nymphs, with their
sensuous poses and pouting expressions are a way of giving importance to
wellbeing and love of life."
https://theculturetrip.com/asia/india/articles/a-catalogue-of-desire-the-erotic-sculptures-of-the-khajuraho-temples

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qU9PfMlWesQ 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wwb2J44NuTo

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLceEzjybohu7InlcJLKqAzYLXcxgjSui3

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrpUKF87ojhzmV4uVNNyGAA


If you are in a long term marriage or relationship in term it's like fixing a inbreeding

issue. The longer it is the less diverse it is and more of the same, same it is
like inbreeding but as others are added to the chromosome mix it makes
all less sickly and stronger as a whole!

Some people are right and some are not for an open marriage, Polyamory.
If one is driven by the sex of it and not being emotionally supportive,
long term lover in view for all involved, the trust would fail.

Being like a lack of maturity about it. It's about her balance in view.

If she is happy then the others involved are happy also. 

Being open in the light you have nothing to hide, so in that there is less stress,
as all would be open and communicate about it for positive growth.

Also communication is needed, you are this to her and she is this to you etc.
Who is who to who. But the point is to be supportive without, negativity!
No hedonism! What kind of life do you want in the dark unknown?

Well be true about it, ask do you have a secret affair??????????????????

http://i.imgur.com/duXNC.jpg (Warning!)

Or do you go Polyamory!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

http://thefederalist.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/shutterstock_62663593-998x737.jpg

Focus on the growth for each other, and talk about it to each other.

What is the positive factor for each person.

It's like a 90's type group therapy where you sit around and talk

on the positive and negative so you know what needs to be fixed.
Who, needs who to who or what! The growth of that is the fun part!
Changing, adapting is a beautiful thing toward the ones you love!
For everyone to say we all love you as a group is very supportive to all!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Group_psychotherapy

And there is real Psychotherapy for Polyamorous relationships.

And this is a growing change in psychotherapy!
http://openingup.net/open-list
http://www.lovemore.com/whydonate/polyamory-professionals
http://www.lifeworkspsychotherapy.com/who-we-serve/polyamory-non-monogamy
http://charlieglickman.com/2010/12/29/polyamory-psychotherapy-group-forming
https://www.indigomentalhealth.com/counseling-polyamorous-relationships
https://polycounsellinguk.wordpress.com/members
http://www.awakening360.com/event/214

Just remember no matter where you go there you are!

(And here we are for you to support you!)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jv_jkju_iZg

I have to note "Research by Geneviève Beaulieu-Pelletier, who studies relationships

and infidelity at the University of Montreal, estimates that the chances of someone
cheating while in a committed relationship range from 46% to 76%."

And the heat is on. Under pressure that lid will blow! And I worry about that,

as the rate goes up to 80% or is at 80% in Oklahoma? It's a red-state, in the dark!

Dealing with jealousy is the building factor in the relationship.

That is the thing that all sits and talks about. Fixing and healing makes better.
It's like taking a test you can't take the test if you don't have the test!
And if it's there it needs to be talked about no matter of past issues
or whatever it was. Everyone needs to look at this in the light of a new day!

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Why have her blow her lid? Growth and support is needed!
A wife blowing her lid like that more likely won't happen if her two partners 
are hugging her now don't you think! Also stops any kind of abuse as the two 
are for her needs, and one or the other would put a stop to any abuse!
http://newsok.com/elementary-school-counselor-suspended-with-pay-during-investigation/article/5448874
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/okla-woman-ran-killed-husband-fight-cops-article-1.2227579

Inflammatory or not I have to say it being not only to the fact Oklahoma is 

against it's own people but Oklahoma puts pressure on people so being 
unsupported in Oklahoma is norm "mental illness" is norm in Oklahoma. 
If you are not from Oklahoma and you meet the locals you will see it!
But the point is to ask if the lady that drove her car into people at the  
Oklahoma State University’s homecoming parade had been supported. 
Don't you think this would of never happened as her partners would be 
supporting her. She would of drove her car into the garage door to have 
threesome with her partners not drive into people killing them! 
I am talking about Oklahoma with unsupported people. Bad as it sounds you
need to look at how life is in Oklahoma for women to see what I am saying!
It's like a make love not war sort of thing I am saying! What is the cost of war?! 
http://newsok.com/article/5428983

http://www.reuters.com/article/2015/10/26/us-oklahoma-crash-idUSKCN0SJ0MS20151026  


You see the good in meeting the Healer in your life!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ANh3BjG4Oxg

Growth and support as in accepting where the relationship is in your life

and how to fix the bad. Being married for a long time, can be like the saying
people in hell want want ice water and how long is the waiting going to be?
"Partners in these relationships need to look at all the things they've wanted 
to do in life but haven't, because it didn't fit their stereotypes about themselves 
and their expectations about their partners. They need to learn to communicate 
at an emotional level, to disclose their feelings and listen to those of their partner. 
They may need to learn to work less and play more."
http://www.sonoma.edu/users/d/daniels/lynch.html

There is nothing more beautiful than supporting building trust in all

in a married women. To be taken home for that talk to build
a Tiny Gypsy house for her together. Building a relationship
together as all would be building it for her as all is for her, so
she can have her woman cave! It's the acceptance of everyone
together working it out for her best interest! Accepting the wife for
who she is so she can be herself!
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/09/accepting-your-wife-for-who-she-is.html

Also a wife has the right to put on the pants on in the family to get her happiness!

A wife taking over and saying "I'm getting a boyfriend dammit" is gold!
"There's something burning in the air!" Unhappy Woman! 

And that is a good point growth! "We're not trying to say that monogamy is bad,"

said Billy Holder, a 36-year-old carpenter who works at a university in Atlanta.
"We're trying to promote the fact that everyone has a right to develop a relationship
structure that works for them."
http://www.cnn.com/2013/10/26/living/relationships-polyamory

There is the time in your youth where you are the hunter looking for love.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UV84qWEqGqE

But then there is the point where you grow up and take responsibility in love.

Being a player / hunter does not build trust in your partners.
The lack of openness is a trust killer. So it's about being open to each other.

Like being married but dating there will be a openness to each other

otherwise as shown in history the whole circle burns up.
Or the other partner dating the married knows the partner is
obligated to their partner as the dater is more likely also
obligated to their partner so the circle is strong.
There is a reason for those relationships it's not out of deviancy!

That is one of the healthy types of relationships because of the openness

and trust building it's a strong circle! When you are in a relationship like that.

The point is to support, care, normalize the partners.

Vs being a player where no one knows what is going on with the lack
of trust about it.

Significant others are called that because they are significant!
Or (y) makes (x) the other significant! Vice versa.

To be good for the other person and that is what matters, the balance!
You get a lot back in support. 

Also the openness stops the dark unknown of saying is my wife falling for the boss?
It would be unknown, so all in evolved would be going crazy in the dark.
Openness would stop that and make room for growth.

Also there is less of a fear of losing your wife if the other partner is a stable
lower income bracket, he would not be able to support her if they try to elope.
Less of a incentive to leave.

Or much like Quantum Entanglement!

"A physical phenomenon that occurs when pairs or groups of particles are generated
or interact in ways such that the quantum state of each particle cannot be described
independently instead, a quantum state may be given for the system as a whole."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quantum_entanglement
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/08/quantum-entanglement-wedding.html

It's worth a try being open these days! This is just like the basis of Maslow,
in a changing time! Mostly like in the hierarchy of needs. If your needs are not met
like if your house is falling down, lack of food then your not able to get to the
self-actualization part of life so an open marriage would be not on your list.
So an open marriage is best when you are stable! Or being in a open marriage
makes you stable. Otherwise with no stable you would get user people and people
that are low as low is, trying to survive and would more likely not follow the rules etc.

There are too many broken wings! Why? People don't need to hurt!

You can love everyone, and I'm not talking about only sex!
A lovers connection emotionally, timing, supportive for all!
That is what is worth the most!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKhN1t_7PEY

It's all about support and learning you don't have to turn your back on people.

As in me I support me EX, I pay some of her bills, mow the grass help out,
to keep her from being a bag lady! But I also live elsewhere with a life
of my own. And it's ok in fact my EX wants me to find someone else.
And that shows there is a openness to point she wants the best for me.
And I want the best for her. So in a way there is support, in a poly format.

Yes I pay some of my EX wife's bills! I learned from relationship after

relationship there is really no reason to dump someone and walkaway!
If it does not work then you both know it does not work and you say
it's not working, and move the relationship to something like friends!
It's just a view point of not hating people letting go of the bad in your
past relationships and being fair to each other!

I had a past lady love that barfed on the first date and took me to a gay bar.

In high school I had a girlfriend that was a EX teen prostitute. Etc, Etc...
So you know, I know it's time to let it go and be fair to each other!
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/05/where-have-i-been-mirror-mirror.html

Another issue is if you have a soul-mate that is gay! Polyamory!

All could be together supporting each other!
Again it's a matter to be open about it!
*If there is no growth for all happening then the party involved should all call it quits!
Balance is the point for all to benefit!

I heard from a few that found out that their parents had an open marriage.
As in when they did their family history and found oops, the tree breaks off
and goes to another tree! That is nothing new!

Also even in the country club there is a little black book in the banquet department
in the back of the file cabinet. "Rules of Engagement" It is there in case a worker
gets hooks up with a married rich lady etc there. I know I read it when I worked at
a country club. I was shagged by no one there I guess the boss saw me as prime and
got nervous letting me read the book just in case . It is just rules like don't have sex in
the closet, not on the *golf cart. (*Heard a funny story can't say here!). etc.

In other words if it happens keep it there don't take it to work with you.
Why? When you add up all the income the people have that goes to a country club
it would be well over a billion dollars and you would have to protect that.

The rules would be to keep the couple from rocking the boat making the other
rich people jump ship. Where I worked they did not frown about a worker 
hooking up if it wasn't going to blow up bad, if it was a fire they would put it out!
They would let you know what not to do!

With the time I spent in the hotel working

I know about married rich people as in the wife going to Hedonism II
with the husband knowing and glad because the wife is stabilized after.
Really it's true go secretly ask them! 
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedonism_Resorts

I knew a worker there that went to Hedonism II with a lady every year.
I guess it was viewed as him being like her therapist, once a year, month, etc.
It's called a "vacation buddy" I think. The lover would get a airplane ticket in the mail
to meet up with his lover at her vacation time.

That was how it worked in that case where I worked. In the Hotel world it's not
surprising, we live in America and there is a pursuit of happiness here!
If you would ask any worker they would agree!

In 2012 a "Brazilian public notary Claudia do Nascimento Domingues set off a
firestorm by granting Brazil's first civil union to a trio, an act so unprecedented
that there isn't a word for it in Portuguese."

Also in 2005 the same a trio! "in the Netherlands polygamy has been 
legalised in all but name. Last Friday the first civil union of three partners 
was registered. Victor de Bruijn (46) from Roosendaal “married” 
both Bianca (31) and Mirjam (35) in a ceremony before a notary who 
duly registered their civil union."

And in a new age (old age it's been around a while) the bizarre things like
reincarnation etc. The red string of fate, that I see as real noted in my life.
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/04/the-red-string-of-fate.html
Strange connections are out there can't say their not!

So really suppression in the past is like staying in the dark ages,
sinking in the pit of your misery. People get tired of that!
I guess it's like people wake up and realize they don't need to be in hell.
Give it like better education to be like adults about it.

It is long over due to come out of the dark! The days of  hedonism is ending!

You need to look at it with the light on Humanistic psychology.
Humanist Approach, Self-Actualization, McKenna!
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/05/humanist-approach-concept-of-humanity.html

More pointed to Maslow in relating to peak experiences in everyone's life as shared.

When looking at the lack of it, you see the need as we all are human.
Like climbing up a cliff, it's a peak experience.

As a group together sharing the peak experience long term would be valuable

as all, for all, projecting into a open marriage or polyamory for a better life.
And it is the same but long term, it's like hiking up a mountain
and it's worth it in the end!

Peak experiences describe moments accompanied by a euphoric mental state

often achieved by self-actualizing individuals. The concept was originally developed by
Abraham Maslow in 1964, who describes peak experiences as rare, exciting, oceanic,
deeply moving, exhilarating, elevating experiences that generate an advanced form of
perceiving reality, and are even mystic and magical in their effect upon the experimenter."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peak_experience

All of those actions in that light have a purpose, like gong for the pursuit of happiness
not the pursuit of unhappiness! And not accepting others keeping you there in your
unhappiness. Having normality without the deviancy and growing up!

Both parties need to communicate and they need to be real! If someone loves a 
married woman and she loves him back as she keeps checking out his package
like she works at the post office then they do need to communicate.
Actions are the real words, blah, blah is just blah but if she keeps looking at him
and he keeps looking at her, then all need to get it over with and talk,
actions is the heart of the matter. Both need to communicate their actions!
Every guy had a few that checked them out at work. (Thank you!)

It's human nature like going back to the cave woman! 
Sometime those words "Walk with me" will have to pop up. 
And again you will have to be real communicate be honest and let 
them know your long term / stable to the end of time.
Grab him by the hand and take him home if you have to. 
Men tend to be clueless!

Also who ever loves who, that is the normality and worth it's weight, Valued!
"Both parties in a successful marriage are able to give and receive communication 
from their spouse on any subject."

"Life is miserable if you have no one to openly communicate with. Friendships are based 
on communication. The lack of friends or a spouse to communicate with often leads to 
mental problems." Don't keep it buried it's not worth it!
http://www.tipsforsuccess.org/communicate.htm

No communication sinks your ship. Anyone not on your ship does not care,

they might talk bad about you but it's a fad it will go away and all you have 
is your sunk ship! What is your happiness worth unhappiness?

"JOSEPH CONRAD, TYPHOON"

What from the magnitude of the shock might have been a column of water
upright in the dark butted against the ship, broke short and fell on her 
bridge crushingly, from on high, with a dead burying weight. 
A flying fragment of that collapse, a mere splash,
enveloped them in one swirl from their feet over their heads, 
filling violently their ears, mouths, and nostrils with salt water. 
It knocked out their legs, wrenched in haste at their arms, seethed away 
swiftly under their chins; and opening their eyes they saw the
piled up masses of foam dashing to and fro amongst what looked like 
the fragments of a ship.

If it's a no go at least she knows you love her and you are there always to pick up 
the pieces of the ship and that is worth a lot also! And that's ok! You love who
you love regardless! She is loved regardless, she's loved!!!!

Many women are poly by nature in getting what they require emotionally!
It takes more men vs a woman to get balance, it's human nature.
And when you see her happy and her smile you will shit bricks!
http://i675.photobucket.com/albums/vv113/erick_nerites/WW_HC_Detail_by_AdamHughes.jpg

So whats the point? It's about a changing time. This story is like a bouncing ball
I have been chasing, catching up with the stuff going on and doing the story about it.
There are just too many things going on these days that are
just not being covered. In the light of a new Psychology about it and new
social changes surely coming the story is needed!

This story is to point to a mind blowing time for growth and humanity!
To be honest and true with each other! A start of a new day!

And when everyone connects, you will know in an instant! It's a change of life!
A change of life will do everyone good!