Wednesday, November 29, 2017

Falling in love in the workplace

This is something many have fears about that in reality are just false.
Keepng yourself bound by such fears is like staying in your own personal
hell. We are not islands! Falling in love in the workplace!

"The good life is one inspired by love and guided by knowledge."

"In all affairs it's a healthy thing now and then to hang a question mark on the things you have long taken for granted."

"One should respect public opinion insofar as is necessary to avoid starvation and keep out of prison, but anything that goes beyond this is voluntary submission to an unnecessary tyranny."

"To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead."

"Love is something far more than desire for sexual intercourse; it is the principal 
means of escape from the loneliness which afflicts most men and women 
throughout the greater part of their lives." Bertrand Russell.
https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/b/bertrand_russell.html

True and noted the part "guided by knowledge!" Well it's a dur where else do you fall
in love at! What a better place to see her under stress in how she handles it.
Rather romantic to see her jump up and down, the venting a point of respect!
Noting it's not that you put them in hot water but see them there seeing how they
deal with it. Getting to know and falling in love, how are you to do that at a bar?


Research shows that the workplace is where the majority of couples meet. There’s a reason for this: Unlike online dating, newspaper ads, singles events and speed dating, the office gives you a chance to actually get to know and even bond with a person before declaring your interest. Working side by side with someone daily, seeing him or her under pressure, commiserating over problems and congratulating over wins gives you a portrait of the person on the inside as well as the outside. Because it’s the inside that matters in a love relationship (despite all the media focus on the external) love can grow without either party really being aware of it. The couple develops a relationship “infrastructure” in an organic, natural fashion, as opposed to forcing it. These relationships often last a long time, because they’re reality based. Unfortunately, the same ingredients can make office connections tempting even to the married, which is the downside of the issue.

The reason so many people date in the workplace, even though it’s often disastrous, is that it’s easy. You get to know someone well by working alongside them, observing them interacting with others, seeing them under stress. A lot of these relationships do work, and it’s actually a good way to meet someone it’s just that the consequences of a poor choice are so big.
http://www.thegrindstone.com/2012/02/14/career-management/the-psychology-of-why-we-fall-in-love-with-coworkers-245

And the point to have knowledge about it. What is good for you and the value.
Make those agreements for each others best interest. And be calm really most people
are grown up and accept there will be love in the workplace. Really where else will it be at?

~~~~~4 stories of people who fell in love at work.

~~Lucy and Tom
How they met:

We first met on a training course at the company’s head office. We both worked as graphic designers at different printing stores, so we had lots in common.

It was only when we bumped into each other four months later in a nightclub, that we really connected! We did not recognize each other at first until we asked about work and jobs; it felt like fate that we met again!

A couple of months into our relationship, Tom told me that he was attracted to my carefree attitude and a friendly smile we exchanged during a role play task. I remember him chasing me across the car park with his business card so we could stay in touch.

How their colleagues reacted:

We had been exchanging emails for a while, before we told other colleagues about it. They liked the story of how we had met and wished us well. Since then we have both changed job roles and moved away from design into managerial jobs.

Where are they are now:

We have been together for eight years now, and got engaged last September. After moving in and living together for a while, we decided to buy our first home seven years ago. We are also blessed to have a beautiful daughter, who is going to be three soon.

We worked in separate offices for many years, but now both work back at the head office in the same room we did the training course! It’s amazing how we work together so well too.

Advice for others in workplace romances:

Keeping work and home life separate can be tricky, but we try not to talk shop after 5.30pm. We have different job roles within the company now, so we don’t tend to work directly together. Over the years we have supported and encouraged each other, and this has helped us to progress in our careers.

~~Hannah and Daniel
How they met:

I met my partner Daniel at a retail supermarket when I was 18. It was my first part-time job while I was at University. Daniel was there as a duty manager.

We got on, and like many we ended up kissing at a Christmas works do. I had actually kissed him for a bet! My friend, who did not work there, bet me £20 I could not kiss someone who worked above me!

Daniel fit the bill and I thought he would be the easiest to kiss. I was only 18 at the time and did not take anything too seriously. Never the less he asked me out a couple of days later and I thought ‘why not?’

How their colleagues reacted:

We were very professional at work and never had any problems working together while being in a relationship.

Where are they are now:

Six years down the line we live together, are engaged and have a toddler son. We laugh about how we ended up together because of a childish bet! We no longer work together. I left the company a couple of years ago while Daniel is still there.

Advice for others in workplace romances:

The best advice I would give is to keep work and home separate. We did not want our colleagues to know everything about our relationship.

We also did not want to take work home with us after spending all day together. Keeping it separate meant we were professional at work and this allowed us to enjoy our social time together.

~~Kris and Ashlee
How they met:

In my late teens I worked at Republic, the high street fashion company, and Ashlee joined as a Christmas temp one year. Initially I had a crush on her but little did I know my love for her would go from S to XXL over the next few months.

We grew close – we went out for drives together, went for drinks with mutual friends and then eventually dinners alone.

Movie nights at her house became a regular thing, drawn together by our love of horror movies. Who’d have known our own story would be more of a rom-com?

One night we sat in the car outside her house and we still argue to this day about who made the move first – sort of like that “what came first – the chicken or the egg?” dilemma.

How their colleagues reacted:

At first our relationship was a secret, as far as our parents and colleagues knew we were just good friends and nothing more. Of course people eventually grew suspicious and the Facebook relationship status was changed.

It was like a game of emoji bingo! Some colleagues were genuinely shocked, some laughed that we thought we’d actually managed to keep it a secret.

However, most people were just happy and excited for us. They saw that we were serious enough about each other to make it that bit more official.

Where are they are now:

In 2013 Republic went into administration but the doors didn’t shut on our relationship. I graduated from university and went to work in an accountancy firm while she continued to progress in retail where her true passion was.

We only lived 15 minutes’ drive from each other, which meant we could easily pop over to each other’s houses.

Five years passed and the photo shows the exact moment I proposed to her in Disney World Florida in 2016. Knowing her love of anything Disney, it was the perfect time and place. We are due to be married in August 2018 – the perfect fairy-tale ending.

Advice for others in workplace romances:

The best advice I can give is to open up about it as soon as possible. Although the secrecy can be fun, there’s a good chance people already know. Those “discreet” glances at your girlfriend across the shop floor, aren’t as discreet as you think!

~~Chris and Gemma
How they met:

Chris and I worked for a charity in London managing volunteers who mentored children with behavioural difficulties. We were in the same office for eight months before we took the plunge into an office romance. I’d only told one colleague secretly that I had a bit of a crush and she said she didn’t think I’d be his type!

I had completely convinced myself it was a terrible idea to date someone from work when something came over me and I invited him to a tea party I was having.

He accepted. I hadn’t invited anyone else from work and on the morning of the party so I started to worry that he might guess I was after him.

He did guess but I didn’t need to worry because four years later we still have a tea party on the anniversary of that day.

How their colleagues reacted:

After we embarked on the work fling, we tried to keep it secret for a little while. However, we got caught at a colleague’s wedding holding hands under the table.

After the inevitable whispers, we came clean and told our colleagues. They were supportive and possibly even more excited than we were!

We had to be very clear about when we were colleagues and when we were a couple. When we walked into the workplace, we put on a different hat and got on with our work independently of one another. And when we left the office, we were able to switch off and get on with other things.

Where are they are now:

This July we got married and moved to the North East together. We even have a cabinet with a shrine to tea in our living room. We don’t work together anymore but we would definitely work together again.

Advice for others in workplace romances:

It was a great opportunity to meet someone with similar values. And spending all day together and still being happy to see each other in the evening proved that we got on pretty well!

Keep your relationship a secret for a little while – it can be exciting. But as soon as one person knows, you need to be transparent. It will make your life a lot easier and your colleagues might be more supportive than you expect.

Give yourselves a 10 minute window at the end of the day to talk about work things. Then stop talking about work things.
https://www.totaljobs.com/insidejob/stories-of-people-who-fell-in-love-at-work

Are We Ourselves make the happy landing



You can't learn if you don't jump into it! I had past loves more than
many would like to know. Been there seen that. My past life goes to the 
Cambrian Period!

If you found something in your life that balances you then take that in.
Know where you have been, know what is good for you in your life.
That makes happy landings, the balance it gives!

Are we ourselves? How do you know? Get out and give it a try,
jump so you can learn!

~~~~~Becoming the Person You Were Meant to Be: Where to Start
We begin to find and become ourselves when we notice how we are already found, already truly, entirely, wildly, messily, marvelously who we were born to be. The only problem is that there is also so much other stuff, typically fixations with how people perceive us, how to get more of the things that we think will make us happy, and with keeping our weight down. So the real issue is how do we gently stop being who we aren't? How do we relieve ourselves of the false fronts of people-pleasing and affectation, the obsessive need for power and security, the backpack of old pain, and the psychic Spanx that keeps us smaller and contained?

Here's how I became myself: mess, failure, mistakes, disappointments, and extensive reading; limbo, indecision, setbacks, addiction, public embarrassment, and endless conversations with my best women friends; the loss of people without whom I could not live, the loss of pets that left me reeling, dizzying betrayals but much greater loyalty, and overall, choosing as my motto William Blake's line that we are here to learn to endure the beams of love.

Oh, yeah, and whenever I could, for as long as I could, I threw away the scales and the sugar.

When I was a young writer, I was talking to an old painter one day about how he came to paint his canvases. He said that he never knew what the completed picture would look like, but he could usually see one quadrant. So he'd make a stab at capturing what he saw on the canvas of his mind, and when it turned out not to be even remotely what he'd imagined, he'd paint it over with white. And each time he figured out what the painting wasn't, he was one step closer to finding out what it was.

You have to make mistakes to find out who you aren't. You take the action, and the insight follows: You don't think your way into becoming yourself.

I can't tell you what your next action will be, but mine involved a full stop. I had to stop living unconsciously, as if I had all the time in the world. The love and good and the wild and the peace and creation that are you will reveal themselves, but it is harder when they have to catch up to you in roadrunner mode. So one day I did stop. I began consciously to break the rules I learned in childhood: I wasted more time, as a radical act. I stared off into space more, into the middle distance, like a cat. This is when I have my best ideas, my deepest insights. I wasted more paper, printing out instead of reading things on the computer screen. (Then I sent off more small checks to the Sierra Club.) 

Every single day I try to figure out something I no longer agree to do. You get to change your mind—your parents may have accidentally forgotten to mention this to you. I cross one thing off the list of projects I mean to get done that day. I don't know all that many things that are positively true, but I do know two things for sure: first of all, that no woman over the age of 40 should ever help anyone move, ever again, under any circumstances. You have helped enough. You can say no. No is a complete sentence. Or you might say, "I can't help you move because of certain promises I have made to myself, but I would be glad to bring sandwiches and soda to everyone on your crew at noon." Obviously, it is in many people's best interest for you not to find yourself, but it only matters that it is in yours—and your back's—and the whole world's, to proceed.

And, secondly, you are probably going to have to deal with whatever fugitive anger still needs to be examined—it may not look like anger; it may look like compulsive dieting or bingeing or exercising or shopping. But you must find a path and a person to help you deal with that anger. It will not be a Hallmark card. It is not the yellow brick road, with lovely trees on both sides, constant sunshine, birdsong, friends. It is going to be unbelievably hard some days—like the rawness of birth, all that blood and those fluids and shouting horrible terrible things—but then there will be that wonderful child right in the middle. And that wonderful child is you, with your exact mind and butt and thighs and goofy greatness.

Dealing with your rage and grief will give you life. That is both the good news and the bad news: The solution is at hand. Wherever the great dilemma exists is where the great growth is, too. It would be very nice for nervous types like me if things were black-and-white, and you could tell where one thing ended and the next thing began, but as Einstein taught us, everything in the future and the past is right here now. There's always something ending and something beginning. Yet in the very center is the truth of your spiritual identity: is you. Fabulous, hilarious, darling, screwed-up you. Beloved of God and of your truest deepest self, the self that is revealed when tears wash off the makeup and grime. The self that is revealed when dealing with your anger blows through all the calcification in your soul's pipes. The self that is reflected in the love of your very best friends' eyes. The self that is revealed in divine feminine energy, your own, Bette Midler's, Hillary Clinton's, Tina Fey's, Michelle Obama's, Mary Oliver's. I mean, you can see that they are divine, right? Well, you are, too. I absolutely promise. I hope you have gotten sufficiently tired of hitting the snooze button; I know that what you need or need to activate in yourself will appear; I pray that your awakening comes with ease and grace, and stamina when the going gets hard. To love yourself as you are is a miracle, and to seek yourself is to have found yourself, for now. And now is all we have, and love is who we are.

Monday, November 27, 2017

My Net Neutrality Disclaimer and why!

As I see overall the internet will degrade if Net Neutrality is killed.
Why? Like I said in my disclaimer expect slow not knowing
if you will be able to even get your website you like without 
a timeout... The slow lane? Well how slow will it be?
How many times are you going to have to hit F5 for
the page to load?

"Due to the point of net neutrality if it does get killed I can not
guarantee that any of the links would work or not, as your
internet provider could be slowing down the website you like or
an AD from another slower lane website on your website you like 
could slow down the site you like overall because of the slow AD... 
So the links might look dead to you or me but in 
reality it is just the internet provider doing it!"

"I have to note this as this site is a links page and is 
dependent upon having links that work so I would know they work.
I can't post links if I don't know they really work!"
http://dugbugoffice.angelfire.com/A-WEBLINKS.html
http://dugbuglinks.homestead.com/files/WEBLINKS.html

~~~~~America is about to kill the open internet and towns like this will pay the price
It’s Saturday morning at a cafĂ© near the museum in Winlock, Washington, and Michelle Conrow is eating brunch while surfing the internet on her laptop. What might seem a banal activity for many is a luxury for Michelle. The internet at her house just outside the town is primitive by today’s standards, with speeds similar to the dial-up days of the 1990s. It took three days to download Microsoft Office to her new computer.
Many of the 1,300 residents in this rural area, which was once the US’s second largest egg producer, report frustratingly slow connections. There’s no binging on the latest must-watch Netflix show or streaming music on Spotify to suit your mood. No quick downloading of a podcast for your journey to work as you grab your coat. No running several devices simultaneously as parents catch up with internet banking or shopping on Amazon while their children chat on social media and watch YouTube videos.
Some have no broadband at all because the only provider, CenturyLink, has maxed out its system and there is a waiting list to get a connection, while others live outside the service area. Conrow and others have been complaining about the service for years. And if the internet’s top regulator, the Federal Communications Commission (FCC), gets its way, Conrow worries things may never get better.
https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2017/nov/21/republicans-are-about-to-kill-the-open-internet-net-neutrality-winlock-washington

Wednesday, November 15, 2017

Internet addiction disorder

There is a grand point and a need to ask why are you on the internet.
Does it help society? To me I do point that I post here for the beter
of society. Just because they are willing to cut off their legs to
save their toes doesn't mean others have to also and not saying anything
to point otherwise is like seeing a hit and run and saying nothing!

"We know something you don't know and if we don't share then we don't grow
unabomber will set the whole world on fire!"
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2014/05/dont-keep-it-to-your-self-same-as-hit.html

So being on the internet posting here and there... Why? People never ask why?
It must be for some reason like things happen for no reason at all!
And brings up the saying doesn't have a clue to have a clue!
Why is that bad well if don't have a clue then you don't have and
that helps no one and makes the masses suffer as like the lemings
they go off the cliff not knowing they are because they have no clue!

It's just the point of people not asking why others do that?
For me I post to help others that look at my stuff for a point here and there,
ether to use a point I have for a story on their own and or.
If it helps society then all the good it's ok to post what ever it is because
it would have a meaning for a better life!

So Internet addiction is what it is without meaning to others going lower
not higher. Time and time spent for what? People need to ask why?

~~~~Problematic Internet use is also called compulsive Internet use (CIU), Internet overuse, problematic computer use, or pathological computer use (PCU), problematic Internet use (PIU), or Internet addiction disorder (IAD)). Another commonly associated pathology is video game addiction, or Internet gaming disorder (IGD).
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_addiction_disorder

Repealing Obamacare's individual mandate like no car insurance!

Repealing Obamacare's individual mandate? All I see is the uninsured dropping
for a bigger paycheck. They have insurance and can't afford to use it anyway
why have it! What... is the Doctor going to talk you back into health, you
only have $6 left in the bank cant pay the DR bills!

But also is the point if they repeal the individual mandate then
they should repeal the need to have car insurance being in health care
if you are allowed to not have insurance and make other people pay for it
then you should be allowed to drive without car insurance as the same!!!!

True and something to think about!

~~~~~What repealing Obamacare's individual mandate means

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Polyandry to be free



I ask if one husband can't stabilize then the wife needs two husbands!
It's about the support the growth and the point to be able to grow without
being held back like with issues of walking with no car.
Income and as I see it Polyandry would be a good way to make it get
more money and support in the household.

So it would be better to do such in a time of tax cuts taking away funding
food stamp cuts and state issues. Just get more income and support in.

~~~~~One Husband Can't Save a Low-Income Woman from Poverty 
She'll Need Three or Four

Left-leaning poverty experts are all in a tizzy this week about conservative arguments that the answer to poverty is marriage — to “stay in school, get married and have children—in that order,” as Ari Fleischer, a former press secretary for President George W. Bush, most recently put it.

They’re arguing that the best ways to combat the multi-generational cycle of poverty and near-poverty that now traps one in three American women, and 28 million children are education, decently-paid jobs with benefits, high quality childcare and work supports like paid family leave.

These ideas aren’t new. They’re not sexy or exciting. And they’re certainly not likely to get any meaningful traction in our current Congress.

That’s why I’ve come up with a hot new idea. It’ll boost the marriage rate, combat child poverty, and, very likely, promote no-cost family planning among the poor – all without any new burden on taxpayers. It’s polyandry – think “Sister Wives” turned “Brother Husbands” — and it was inspired by Barbara Ehrenreich, the acerbic author best known for her 2001 book, Nickel and Dimed: On (Not) Getting By in America.

At a launch event on Wednesday for the new Shriver Report, A Woman’s Nation Pushes Back from the Brink, Ehrenreich, who took jobs as a waitress, nursing-home aide, hotel housekeeper, Wal-Mart associate and maid for a house-cleaning service to learn first-hand about poverty, shared a fresh new perspective on the just-say-yes-to-the-dress solution.

“When you say to women, to get out of poverty you should get married, my question to them is how many men you have to marry,” she said. “Marrying a 10-dollar-an-hour man gets you nowhere, so you’d really have to marry three or four.”

The audience broke out in laughter. But I think we should take Ehrenreich seriously. We have to face reality. If low-wage men don’t present women with much of a good deal, why not double, or triple, or quadruple them up? Pool resources, boost household income, and promote family values at the same time?

I realize this is a little hard to envision. Polyandry — the practice of a woman taking more than one husband at a time — has traditionally been considered (by majority-male anthropologists) an all-but-impossible aberration. More recent research, however, has found more than 75 societies world-wide in which women take multiple husbands, an article by Alice Dregger revealed in the Atlantic last year. Polyandry, it turns out, can be an efficient way of dealing with tough times, and constrained resources.

The United States would, of course, have to change its laws regarding marriage. But that’s not so impossible; Utah may already be en route to a much-weakened anti-polygamy law. And we’d have to find a way to have our new pro-polyandry law apply only to low-income households, to keep the whole income-inequality thing from taking off once again. Somehow, I don’t think better-off men would raise a fuss about the constitutional issues.

I can already see the TLC reality show. Promo photo: Four proud, doting men flanking one exhausted-yet-empowered woman. She wearing a newly-purchased business suit; the men clad in whatever the male wardrobe equivalent would be of those frumpy cotton dresses so often favored by multiple wives. Chinos pulled too high up at the waist? Striped polo shirts, tightly tucked in? A toolbelt at the waist of the favored husband of the day?

Season One: Learning to Share. Season Two: “Man Flu” Strikes the Compound. Season Three: Has Anyone Seen Mom? Season Four: Who Needs Her, Anyway?

The possibilities really are endless.
http://time.com/1162/one-husband-cant-save-a-low-income-woman-from-poverty-shell-need-three-or-four

Hurt over a married woman!

Being this is as I see it a Archaic Revival is going on! And just a time to
be open about things as it makes all lives better in the long run!
I'm talking about love! Love has no boundaries and this stuff needs
to be taken serious in view as like therapy!

There is a reason for everything in that I am saying there needs to be a fairness
and some thinking going on. Well if you watch Fox News / Wikieaks you might
believe in the tooth fairy! That doesn't help you knowing what is going on, or
what needs to be going on! Education is needed so with that you need to learn!

"The good life is one inspired by love and guided by knowledge."

"In all affairs it's a healthy thing now and then to hang a question mark on the things you have long taken for granted."

"One should respect public opinion insofar as is necessary to avoid starvation and keep out of prison, but anything that goes beyond this is voluntary submission to an unnecessary tyranny."

"To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead."

"Love is something far more than desire for sexual intercourse; it is the principal means of escape from the loneliness which afflicts most men and women throughout the greater part of their lives." Bertrand Russell.
https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/b/bertrand_russell.html

Everything has a reason for everything? Well it's ok to date a married lady.
Because there are rules set, agreements made for the benefit of the wife.
Why? It's the part guided by knowledge because if you know you would know
a issue trivial it would be ok down the road. A wife's boyfriend would be there
to protect her from herself, support make a better women, less stress!

You really are her therapist in view to her and her husband for balance.
If she chose you, she chose you for a reason and comes the point to accept it 
for that reason, balance.

The caught in the middle part? That is where the fairness part is.
It can be a lot of pain to love a married lady noting the false fears or whatever
it is. Like being in love with a notorious married ALPHA lady in which is ok!
Fetishes or dreams that are made happen is the keystone of life. A fulfillment
needed in life! But asking to be with her she like pulls out a note card and reads
a scripted response... "I can't!" But you can't believe a word she says being the
notorious part! So there is a indecisiveness a hell! Pain!

Or if there was a affair going on, in that I know I would not do being the other pain!
Like if we had sex in my bed and the next night I go to bed with her not there and my
bed sheets smells like her perfume, I would be in a fetal position on the floor crying!
As the husband might be the same finding out what she did! 

Pain! What hurts more? It's the same as a divorce after 20+ years, being hurt
over a married lady, it's the same! And the pain the married couple has
refection the same pain and the point to talk about it for a resolve.
What is the best interest of all!

~~~~~Help! I’m In Love With A Married Woman
Question: I found my soul mate. She’s perfect! Only problem is…she’s married.  Every time we say goodbye after a few stolen hours together, my heart breaks knowing she is going back to her husband. The three of us work for the same company. I can’t move to another state or find another job that pays as good. This little secret is killing me. What’s the point in feeling so connected with someone you can’t share your love with? Any advice on coping with this moral dilemma would be greatly appreciated. Many thanks in advance.

Yangki’s Answer: I won’t try to dismiss your strong feelings for her as a ‘crush’ or an ‘infatuation’ or a ‘passing fascination’, if you feel it’s love, then it’s love and I won’t dispute that. But remember she’s married to someone else and that means that she’s not yours – at least not right now. What’s making you feel so miserable is not because you love a married woman, what’s making you miserable is that you have expectations and those expectations are not being met.

Is she your soul mate? I don’t know. There are all kinds of different soul mates and not all soul mate relationships have to translate into a sexual or romantic relationship.

If you truly believe in your soul that this woman is your soul mate, then what I advice you to do is to quit obsessing over the fact that you can’t be with her in the way your ego wants and instead try to figure out why she came into your life. Is it to remind you that you need to reassess your life and the choices you make? Is it to bring to light things in your love life that may need work? Are you attracted to the idea of having her because she’s unavailable? Are you attracted to her because you are afraid of being in a relationship and she posses no threat? Do you have these feelings because she reminds you of what your soul really longs for? To ignore why you have feelings for this woman would be ignoring what your soul is trying to communicate to you.

Obsessing about the fact that you can’t be with her may be keeping you from finding a wonderful, unattached woman out there-who could be looking for you too; someone else who has the same terrific qualities you find attractive in this other woman.

I would not advice you to move especially if you have a job you love and has lots of career prospects. What I’d advice you to do is start looking at this woman with different lenses – the lenses of your soul. Treat her with respect and friendly affection and treat those she loves (husband and family) in the same way. You may end up with a friendship that goes on for decades. And remember, lives change over the course of decades. You might find that you’ve fallen out of love with her. She may find herself single again someday. Who knows what the future holds? But for now, do the right thing – which is also the wise thing to do.
https://torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/blog/shes-my-perfect-woman-the-only-problem-is-that-shes-married-dilema

Saturday, November 11, 2017

Alpha Females and the Bulldozing



It will happen... The bulldozing by the Alpha female.
For me when it happened I wanted to kiss her bad... I still do!!!
Looking at her eyes, lips, ears, neck as she maintained eye contact with me
the whole time. To me keen to nature a female hyena dominating the male and
the warm feeling of needs met a needed thing!!!

But there is a reason for what a Alpha does. Alpha do what Alpha does!
If someone is good for you the Alpha will decide, dominate and make 
them their own and that is a good thing as needs are met, support, love, 
balance is gained. Alpha chooses and puts the leash on the partner, boom lovers. 
Lovers love! Lovers have reasons to give balance and is the point to bulldoze 
in the first place! 

~~~~~Common Relationship Pitfalls Of Alpha Females
Being an alpha female can be a very good thing. Alpha females usually don’t wait long to order drinks, they don’t hesitate to ask for raises, they speak up when somebody wrongs them, and they walk through life with a vibe that demands respect. There are only a few instances in life when there is such thing as being too bold and too assertive, and one of them is in a relationship. Communication is key, but alpha females sometimes accidentally bulldoze their partners. There’s a reason for that; alpha females often choose more demure men to balance them out! It’s a very healthy case of opposites attracting, but sometimes, the alpha female can dominate her partner without even knowing it. If this sounds like you, don’t get mad that your partner can’t rise to the challenge that is you sometimes—you fell for him because he’s patient and even keel—but be aware of these common relationship pitfalls of alpha females.
http://madamenoire.com/709938/common-relationship-pitfalls-alpha-females

~~~~~9. Female Alphas are the top of the hierarchy
If I had to put a label on the different most typical female roles in group settings,
here are what they would be:

Alphas: Leaders

Betas: Side-kicks or enforcers of alpha leadership.

Nu’s: The exact middle letter of the Greek Alphabet, Nu’s are fillers. They provide conversation, gossip and support for the Alpha.

Zeta’s: The jokester, comic relief, clown, goofball of the group. Most groups have a female jester.

Omega’s: (The last letter of the Greek Alphabet) The victims, the bullied, the weaklings or the “C” in a female troika are always picked on or treated with loving condescension. (See my article on Female Troikas)

Sampi’s: (An obsolete letter of the Greek Alphabet, often forgotten) The Invisibles, the forgotten girls whose quiet or shy demeanor often means they are not included or counted.

It is actually very helpful to know the female alphas in your life—or recognize if you in fact are one yourself. You will find yourself appreciating them in awkward social situations or, if you are a female alpha, avoiding other female alphas who challenge you. Do you know the female alphas in your life?
https://www.scienceofpeople.com/2012/02/the-female-alpha

Me? I have a adaptive trait. Well I stay around Beta, Zeta, Nu.
Zeta if needed otherwise like to bring someone up otherwise I see it as disabling
yourself to others full time.

I am a Alpha if needed. Alphas cause unnecessary trouble full time.
An Alpha with a Alpha is not good for both. There needs to be a ground sometime.
Beta, Zeta, Nu is for the Alpha and not getting in their way unless it's needed
then my Alpha would come up! In that is ok as it's no threat to be for a Alphas
best interest. You are making the Alpha a better person.

Sunday, November 5, 2017

Normality, Psychosis, Butterscotch waterfall and Julio

Being that I was a psychology major for a long time
in the 90's, I took many classes and been in group talks
over many subjects, ending with the notion everyone has
their own type of normality.

Culture is made up, a mix of parts and from places so culture is not real!
So it is best to make your own culture making your own normality!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominator_culture
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_appropriation

"You can see neurosis from below - as a sickness - as most psychiatrists see it. 
Or you can understand it as a compassionate man might: respecting the neurosis 
as a fumbling and inefficient effort toward good ends." Abraham Maslow

Normality, Psychosis, Butterscotch waterfall and Julio? Go see the videos.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xpub9gciWBE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I4FQoznrVwU

I really did not like the DSM's they seemed conservatarded even in the
90's the cure was pushed to drug, drug. I am a Humanistic Psychology type,
so my view is not good on how Psychology is in my state by the masses.
Is pushing the drugs greed? More exposing the problem in therapy is needed
than concealing it with medication.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Humanistic_psychology

More time in therapy needs to be spent in revealing than concealing!
"The foundation of genuine helping lies in being ordinary. Nothing special.
We can only offer ourselves, neither more nor less, to others we have in fact 
nothing else to give.Anything more is conceit; anything less is robbing those 
in distress. Helping demands wholeheartedness, but people find it hard to 
give of themselves to others. Why? In essence we are afraid to offer ourselves 
for fear we will prove insufficient, and if all that we have and are is not enough, 
what then? We are afraid to risk using simply our own warmth and caring, 
 and as a result the thousands of therapy techniques
which are becoming increasingly popular are intended to conceal 
rather than reveal."
http://infed.org/mobi/helping-relationships-principles-theory-and-practice

Psychiatrist Allen Frances has been critical of proposed revisions
to the DSM-5. In a 2012 New York Times editorial, Frances warned that
if this DSM version is issued unamended by the APA, it will
“medicalize normality and result in a glut of unnecessary and harmful
drug prescription.” In a December 2, 2012 blog post in Psychology Today,
Frances lists the ten “most potentially harmful changes” to DSM-5:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diagnostic_and_Statistical_Manual_of_Mental_Disorders

It is the fact your degree is only valued on the paper it's printed on,
and the masses out there have Master hillbilly degrees in Psychology and
push such harmful resolve to drug the patient first, being how the 
pharmaceutical money flows they say "Your, stupid, your stupid!" 
if you go against the BS!

Or it could be the country thinking a Special kind of stupid, backward 
thinking, your smart and that makes you stupid. Your considerate so that 
makes you intrusive. Country thinking relating to their master degree at their 
redneck college they went to so they can say "I'm just as smart as you!" 
without being in the fire learning what is norm! In a high up judgmental 
position without being in life, in the real type life is stupid.



Sort of like doing your master's 
without a thesis then to pop up
like you are the smartest thing 
on the block in for it for the 
money. Doesn't make it so! It's 
like going to a "McDonald 
college" vs Berkeley. 

"Drag a hundred-dollar bill 
through a trailer park, you 
never know what you'll find." 
James Carville

http://izquotes.com~~

https://www.quora.com~~



Where is this going? Lets see where this goes and that is the point!
Usually one gets out in the world and sees what they learned is BS 
and learns better. Education starts after school, to see where it goes!

Your diploma is like a Olympic torch, it's a start of your education!
Like your drivers license, just because you have one doesn't mean you
know how to drive a car. You learn down the road!

I dated a lady hairdresser in the late 1990's that smoked weed and liked
to go at gay bars being she had a hard life and a death treat from a biker gang
and she felt safe at a gay bar that was her security. I'm not gay, she was not gay
it was her security to go there. On the first date at a nice restaurant she went 
to the bathroom and threw-up everywhere. Nervous, high etc she got sick, 
so I took that cougar back to her environment which was the gay bar and all 
was ok it's her normality there.

Also had a lady tell me "We like you." "My other personality likes you and I
trust her so I'm ok with it!" Also had a co-worker that had a 
Corpus Callosotomy done. With me all of those things I seen is called life 
experiences that I can relate by my education I had and seen this stuff with 
my own eyes and I recognize what that is.

To make anything of value you have to get out there and do it!
You can't win the lottery if you don't but a ticket!
Get yourself out of the dark ages, you can't see much in the dark!
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2013/11/get-out-of-your-dark-ages.html

My Psychology is from the 90' but all relates to the now.
Pointless over internet use is an addiction and paranoia on who says what
about you on Facebook is all the same as it ever was, it never will change.

This story is not meant to be inflammatory just point noted factual because
patients are human not zombies needing medication. I do say we need more
Humanistic Psychology these days. Medicines are needed but to cure not deal 
with it, unless you are in that state of pure hell in that case you might need to 
be on such medication to nock off that top a bit.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fyJn_3LkE8w

There are other ways of getting a cure like Psychedelic Therapy. It would be 
the shock to cure many without the life time of Medicines. It's worth looking at 
when looking at the way life is for many with the current mindset of 
psychology today!

So what is normal? It's just to the fact of if people call you crazy then the 
judgement of such is noted to be an issue of how educated the people around 
you are. A norm in LA is not the norm in Alabama! People that call others crazy 
in a bad way, don't understand life themselves.

But also normal should not be detrimental for ones self in the reasoning of their
self image reflecting their place in the world. Have you ever been to some town
and ran across those few people that dress up like a Pirate, a guy in a dress or
a 40 year old Gothic lady. Every town has someone, but the point is what is
behind it. Is it to get attention? A stagnate mindset not willing to grow out of it.
A guy in a dress might be stressed to be who he is, not willing to make it happen
because the operation cost too much or other factors.
So in what case it might be the point is to ask what is behind it, why do you do
the things you do! It's ok to do them but to know if it's not detrimental to you!

~~~~~Because the more life goes on, the more “normal” feels out of reach.
So I’ve chosen to accept the unconventional and actually feed off of it.
No one needs to approve of my life but me.
Yes, at times I have to remind myself of the benefits of the unbeaten path,
but I’ve given myself the freedom to create my own “normal.” 
And you know what? It has helped me live in the moment, embrace opportunity, 
and accept what is. I’m listening to myself – not the “shoulds” about the life 
I want to lead. To be clear, I’m not against the normal life by any means.
I’m sure one day I’ll be in a version of it myself.  But I do want to emphasize 
that in reality, there is no normal life. There is just life. 
 And I am sure as hell living it!
http://selfhelpshoppe.com/2014/01/27/what-is-normal

"Nature loves courage. You make the commitment and nature will respond to 
that commitment by removing impossible obstacles. Dream the impossible dream 
and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the trick. 
This is what all these teachers and philosophers who really counted, 
who really touched the alchemical gold, this is what they understood. 
This is the shamanic dance in the waterfall. This is how magic is done. 
By hurling yourself into the abyss and discovering it's a feather bed."
Terence McKenna 
http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/355306-nature-loves-courage-you-make-the-commitment-and-nature-will

"Feeling unstable having crazy thoughts testing your limitations all the time."
Is growth it's a part in your life finding who you are.
It's finding out your normality was never normal in the first place.
So you push on to find out your own self!

Saturday, November 4, 2017

Break Out of Your Past from the Cliff of Insanity



Speaking like a therapist you know there is that time to break from your past
deviant behaviors. I am talking about negative issues as they effect all around
you. The point is to find your ground the safety line from your cliff on insanity.

"You can see neurosis from below - as a sickness - as most psychiatrists see it.
Or you can understand it as a compassionate man might: respecting the neurosis
as a fumbling and inefficient effort toward good ends." Abraham Maslow

~~~~~Break Out of Your Past – Make a New Life in Recovery
No doubt you have a few things you’d like to forget about your past addictive behavior. It’s safe to say that everyone who goes through treatment and enters recovery has some skeletons in their closet they’d prefer to keep hidden away. The trouble is, if you don’t face your demons and own up to your responsibility, there’s no way you can make progress in recovery. Easier said than done, you say? No one said it would be easy, but the alternative really isn’t much of an option. You know you don’t want to slide back into your old habits. So, just how do you break out of your past and make a new life in recovery?

While each person’s path is unique, there are a few things you can do that may help. Take these suggestions and try them on for size. If some of them work, keep doing them. If they work a little, but not enough for your liking, try to modify them to make them more applicable to your particular situation. If something doesn’t work, give it a rest and maybe go back to it at a later date, perhaps when you have a bit more time in recovery. Or, discard what isn’t providing any discernible results.
Ready? Here goes.

Make a Fresh Start

Some recovery experts – and the addicts in recovery themselves – refer to the time after treatment as a rebirth, a new life, and an opportunity to make a fresh start. Whether you adopt this mindset or look at your life in recovery in a different fashion, there is some merit to the idea. So, don’t reject it out of hand.

First of all, you are approaching your post-treatment life with a different set of values. You are committing yourself to a life of sobriety, with all that this commitment entails. And, honestly, sometimes this is going to be a real challenge. Give yourself the benefit of beginning your new life with a clean slate – free of the misdeeds and lies and damaged relationships of the past. No, you can’t undo what has been done. You may be able to repair some of it in time, but you cannot escape your responsibility with respect to your actions. Sure, addiction is a disease. There is no blame that should be attached to that fact. But you do need to own it (your actions), and the key to your recovery is how well you are able to put into practice the strategies and coping mechanisms you learned during treatment, how solid your support system is, and your willingness to put in the necessary hard work to live a healthier, clean and sober lifestyle.

What better way to do this than to start over? For some in recovery, this may require moving to a new location (apartment, different area of the city or town, different city or state). It could also – and more often – mean that you’ll need to stop seeing your former friends. Anyone connected to your former life who continues to drink, use drugs, or engage in polysubstance abuse or addictive behavior is simply going to be off-limits to you. There’s no getting around it. You simply cannot be around those people, places and things that will serve as triggers for you to use again. It can’t be done. Bottom line: You have some hard decisions ahead of you – and many of them involve starting over.

Learn How to Say No

Beef up your ability to turn down invitations to do something you know is counter-productive to your sobriety. This means learning how to say no – and mean it. Well-meaning former acquaintances (even those who are not substance users or abusers) may bring over some near-beer for a celebration of one of your sobriety milestones (6 months, a year, etc.). You should probably limit any celebrations to close family for the first year, just so you’re comfortable being around people who know of your commitment to being clean and sober – and won’t undermine your efforts, however innocently intended.

Saying no also means that you can’t just have one drink and think that you’ll be able to control your intake. The same thing goes for drugs, or gambling, or compulsive sex, or any other kind of addictive behavior. There is no one time only. That’s absolutely not going to work. You’ll need to tell yourself – and others who may try to entice you into the behavior – that you’ve made a commitment and you are not going to involve yourself in circumstances that jeopardize your recovery.

Making a break from the past also means that you’ll be saying no to taking on too much responsibility. Don’t overload your plate while you are just getting acclimated to your recovery. Too much stress will overwhelm you, put added strain on your coping mechanisms, and contribute to relapse faster than you can imagine.

For this reason, it’s a good idea to take on new responsibilities slowly – at least for the first 6 months to a year in recovery. This does not mean that you avoid making any changes during this time. In fact, you should be making positive changes on an ongoing basis. Get involved in new leisure activities. Join groups with similar interests.

Focus on New Priorities

With your new life in recovery, you will be drafting and refining goals. What you decide to do is your decision. After all, it’s your recovery. But, of course, you will want and need to involve your spouse, partner and family members in your decisions. If nothing else, they are the ones who will rally around and support you during your recovery, and you want them to be in sync with your plans.

One of the best things about your future in recovery is the freedom you have to explore new options, different directions, take on exciting new challenges, and learn something new. The range of possibilities is virtually endless, limited only by your own holding back. But there’s really no reason for you to avoid putting a particular goal on your list for fear that you think it’s out of the realm of possibility for you. Who’s to say that’s true? In fact, as new ideas and opportunities occur, jot them down. You can modify, eliminate, or add to them as you go along. Just because it may involve a long-term commitment – what’s wrong with that? Recovery is a lifelong process, so you should have some increasingly challenging long-term goals to keep you motivated and moving forward.

While you were in treatment, your counselors focused on the mind-body-spirit balance, healing the whole person, not just the addiction. Remember that you aren’t your addiction. You have an addiction, but it doesn’t define you. This is very important to keep in mind as you begin to think of tackling short- and long-term goals – or even adding them to your recovery plan. In line with the balance between your mind, body, and spirit, you should focus on goals that help strengthen and maintain that equilibrium in recovery. For example, your addiction may have ravaged your body and your healing may take many months for the various symptoms or complications to mend. Liver and kidney damage, impaired motor functions, cardiovascular problems take time to heal. You need to focus on getting your strength back, on eating nutritious and well-balanced meals, getting enough exercise and plenty of sleep. Gradually, your physical – and mental – condition will improve. And, when your mind and body are better, it makes it easier for your spirit to mend as well.

How do you focus on healing your mind and spirit? It isn’t as simple as taking precautions to eat well, exercise, and get enough sleep, but it isn’t difficult either. What you do is cut yourself some slack, to begin with. Allow yourself time to get reoriented to your new life of sobriety. Participate in 12-step groups so that you surround yourself with others who understand what you’ve gone through (and are going through) and can offer you ongoing encouragement and support. Sure, the emotional roller coaster is tough to take, since there will be some days – and maybe you’ve had some of these already – that are almost too much to bear. The weight of responsibility, the anguish and shame and remorse over past deeds, financial burdens – all of these may come down and threaten to crush your spirit. You don’t know where to turn or who to trust. Again, utilize the 12-step network to help galvanize your resolve to live a clean and sober lifestyle. Many persons in recovery say that they couldn’t have made it through some of the difficult times without their sponsor and fellow 12-step group members.

In addition, such groups often offer skills training, job fairs or placement services, and many other services. Alumni may come back to provide instruction, guidance, or work as volunteers to staff various functions. This is a great way for you to network, gain necessary training and skills, learn how to write a resume, fill out a job application, or practice going to a job interview.
Uplifting your spirit takes different forms depending on your religious or spiritual upbringing and inclination. If you find strength and comfort in religious beliefs, prayer and meditation may be the appropriate way for you to find spiritual balance. If you are not religious or are spiritual in a non-denominational manner, perhaps the belief in the power of the self or spirit is what guides you.
When you find yourself feeling out of sorts, overwhelmed, taking on too much, or just confused over all the choices you need to make, ease up a bit. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Be with close friends. Take time off to do something that you enjoy – with no sense of obligation or responsibility other than to do something good for yourself. In other words, you need to make time to take time for leisure activities. This will help bring things back into focus, and balance out the mind-body-spirit connection.

How to Mend Frayed Relationships

One of the most difficult things to do in recovery is to repair relationships that were strained or damaged in the worst throes of addiction. For many in recovery, these are the relationships with spouse or partner, children, parents and other close relatives. If these individuals live in the same household and are there when the individual returns home from treatment, rebuilding the bond becomes incredibly difficult. There may be long silences, times when family members tiptoe around, afraid to say the wrong thing or make a wrong move, fearful of their loved one backsliding into relapse.

There’s the whole issue of trust, so important to healthy spousal relationships and so hard to repair once it’s been abused. And, let’s not forget love. During the period of your treatment, much uncertainty about the future no doubt plagued your spouse, partner and loved ones. They worried how you’d return, if you’d genuinely commit to sobriety, if things would ever go back to normal.

Naturally, you worry and wonder how you’ll be received, and how – and when – you’ll regain their trust, not to mention love.
There is no easy solution to how to rebuild frayed relationships. The best that you can do is to take it one day at a time. Focus on living up to your responsibilities. Do what you say you will do. Go out of your way to compliment your spouse or partner and children. Do things for them – not out of a sense of obligation, but because you want to show your affection and commitment. Shouldn’t it be the other way around, you may ask? Ideally, there’ll be a give and take. Realistically, there are some hurdles to overcome. It takes time for love and trust to return after the loved one returns home from treatment. How could it be any other way? You’ll have to give it time, not take the awkwardness as a sign of failure, and keep doing your best.

Not every strained relationship – family, close friends, co-workers or others – can be repaired. If this is the case, you can’t take it as an indictment or an indication that you’ve somehow made less progress in your recovery. Human nature is such that some people just can’t forgive and move forward. It may be that you’ll need to allow these individuals to have their space, even if that means they will no longer be in your life. In some cases, this separation is only temporary, while others prove permanent.
Encourage family members to attend the family component of the 12-step groups. These groups include Al-Anon/Alateen (affiliated with Alcoholics Anonymous), Nar-Anon (the family component of Narcotics Anonymous), Gam-Anon (family off-shoot of Gamblers Anonymous), and others. This is particularly valuable if your family members were not able to take part in family treatment as part of your overall treatment program. Included in some residential addiction treatment programs, family treatment may also be an extra-cost service, or may not be offered at all in outpatient treatment programs. The added benefit of 12-step family groups is that, like the 12-step groups themselves, there is no cost to join, and no dues.

What to Do if You Feel Yourself Slipping

Not every day will be full of positive outcomes. You will experience some difficult times when you are afraid that it might be easier and preferable to go back to your addictive behavior. This is common. Cravings and urges beset the individual in recovery at unpredictable times – sometimes months and years after the person has been successfully in recovery. For some individuals, continued medication is appropriate to help ease or eliminate cravings, calm anxiety and depression, and help with sleep difficulties. If you need or thing medication can help, talk with your counselor and physician about a prescription. It’s important to take the medication exactly as prescribed and to continue taking it. Some medications, particularly antidepressants and anti-anxiety medications, take up to 6 weeks to begin to show improvement in symptoms. Your doctor may also need to modify dosage or change medications if there is no improvement. Be sure to tell your doctor how you feel, whether symptoms lessen or
improve slightly, and any complications that arise from taking the medication.

Generally speaking, the best way to prevent relapse is to continue with your participation in 12-step groups. When you feel yourself about to slip, call your sponsor or 12-step members with whom you’ve become close. They can serve as a lifeline, listening to you without judgment, offering encouragement and support for as long as you need it – any time of the day or night. At least your sponsor will offer this 24/7 availability. Use your judgment when calling other 12-step members in the middle of the night (although you will know from how they interact with you if they are receptive to such calls). In any event, these people are like your surrogate family. They care about you and want you to succeed in recovery. If anyone can help you stay true to your commitment, it’s them.

Continued counseling, if it is available to you as part of aftercare or continuing care, is another way to get help if you feel you’re going to slip. Just because you go through treatment doesn’t mean that you’re fully practiced in utilizing the coping skills you learned. Treatment is a supervised, contained situation where counselors are always available. When you’re back in the real world, it’s quite a bit different. Naturally, you may feel some anxiety and trepidation about doing the right thing when you come face to face with cravings and urges. So, if you can get continued counseling, definitely take advantage of it.

How Long Does It Take?

Everyone wants to know how long it takes until you know your recovery is a success. Again, there is no single timetable that works for everyone. It will take as long as it needs to for you. That’s the best way to look at it. From this perspective, if it takes 1 to 2 years before you feel solidly on your feet again, you could say that that is a realistic timeframe. This means clean and sober for that entire time, during which you’ve become practiced and thoroughly able to handle increasing challenges, problems, and stressors without resorting to your addiction. For some in recovery, making it to the 6 month mark is a great boost to their self-confidence, and a sign that they are in successful recovery.

Remember, too, that even those in recovery who’ve been clean and sober for years or decades may have times when they experience cravings out of the blue. That’s just a reality, and there’s just no predicting it. The true indication of a successful recovery isn’t that you have cravings – it’s what you do about it.

For now, take each day at a time. Keep focused on doing things that will strengthen your mind-body-spirit connection. Live according to the new values you’ve determined are important. Be loving and constant with your family. And believe that all things are possible for your future in recovery.
https://www.promises.com/articles/addiction-recovery/break-out-of-your-past-make-a-new-life-in-recovery

Wednesday, November 1, 2017

Bad time for massive tax cuts

Taxes is like going to a bar and 10 people are dividing the bill like taxes.
Being the rich one pay less taxes they pay less than the nine others.
"Currently, the richest 1% hold about 38% of all privately held wealth in the
United States. while the bottom 90% held 73% of all debt. According to
The New York Times, the richest 1 percent in the United States now own
more wealth than the bottom 90 percent."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wealth_inequality_in_the_United_States

The nine others has to hold the debt of the others as the bill comes
with taxes that helps pay for food stamps and the things the poor uses as
the rich guy does not use food stamps. Oh what ever the poor others decide
it's not worth it so they stop going to the bar thus closing the bar related
is all the other poor people that close all the other bars as they all deside
they don't make enough money for that and would be better to live within 
their means! Low taxes is like low funding as the poor takes in more tax
help than they pay out in taxes. The poor getting a $0.05 raise every 3 years
is not matching inflation so the tax dollars has to be used!
"Adjusted for inflation, minimum wage is worth less than 50 years ago."
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2017/10/adjusted-for-inflation-minimum-wage-is.html

Low taxes? Why! This is not a good time. The poor takes in more tax help than they
pay out in taxes. Government funding is needed as low taxes is low funding making
the government run like a small town with no funding. Make nothing got nothing.
It's like having most people in town staying home on the weekend because of their
help being taken away! How does that help having businesses in town closing
from the lack of sales? The increase from low taxes is nominally passed on to the
stocks / investors not the workers!!!!! 

Lowering taxes to bring businesses back in to America is simple minded.
As in Ford! "The decision not to build the plant in Mexico, where Ford had 
planned to build the next generation Ford Focus, was scrapped because 
“we’ve seen decreasing demand here in North America for small cars, 
and we simply don’t need the capacity anymore,” Fields said on 
Fox Business News. Instead, he said, Ford will build it in an 
existing facility in Mexico."
http://www.factcheck.org/2017/01/trump-jobs-returning-because-of-me

And businesses coming back for people that don't have the job skills
is a issue many businesses have! Low pay at work the jobs not worth the low pay.
http://money.cnn.com/2017/07/11/news/economy/job-skills-gap-employer-pay/index.html
http://money.cnn.com/2017/11/01/news/economy/global-economy-wages-stagnate/index.html

Job Skills takes education and that takes money. The money comes first then 
the education with such a divide in wealth!
http://money.cnn.com/2017/10/24/news/economy/harvard-study-job-skills-hiring/index.html

Might we think about this?!

~~~~~Given how healthy the economy is, some economists are mystified over Trump's urgent push for tax cuts that are likely to be paid for by adding to America's mountain of debt.

"No other president in modern economic history has tried to do this," said Chris Rupkey, chief financial economist at MUFG Union Bank. "It just seems completely unnecessary. With unemployment at 4.2%, why on earth would we try to stimulate the economy?"

Normally, presidents ask Congress for deficit-financed tax cuts when the economy is weak. That's what President Obama did in 2009 during the Great Recession, and President George W. Bush did the same after the 2001 downturn.

"This is kind of an odd time to get fiscal stimulus. It's not like we're in a recession, or coming out of one," said Gus Faucher, chief economist at PNC.

Here's the problem: There will be another recession, eventually. And spending heavily to slash the corporate tax rate to 20% from 35% today could leave Congress with fewer options to tackle the next downturn. The current economic expansion is already the second-longest ever.
http://money.cnn.com/2017/10/27/news/economy/tax-cuts-trump/index.html

Noted in Kansas pointing in Oklahoma in the lack of funding!
https://okpolicy.org/theres-still-free-lunch-impact-massive-tax-cuts-kansas-offers-warning-oklahoma