be open about things as it makes all lives better in the long run!
I'm talking about love! Love has no boundaries and this stuff needs
to be taken serious in view as like therapy!
There is a reason for everything in that I am saying there needs to be a fairness
and some thinking going on. Well if you watch Fox News / Wikieaks you might
believe in the tooth fairy! That doesn't help you knowing what is going on, or
what needs to be going on! Education is needed so with that you need to learn!
"The good life is one inspired by love and guided by knowledge."
"In all affairs it's a healthy thing now and then to hang a question mark on the things you have long taken for granted."
"One should respect public opinion insofar as is necessary to avoid starvation and keep out of prison, but anything that goes beyond this is voluntary submission to an unnecessary tyranny."
"To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead."
"Love is something far more than desire for sexual intercourse; it is the principal means of escape from the loneliness which afflicts most men and women throughout the greater part of their lives." Bertrand Russell.
Everything has a reason for everything? Well it's ok to date a married lady.
Because there are rules set, agreements made for the benefit of the wife.
Why? It's the part guided by knowledge because if you know you would know
a issue trivial it would be ok down the road. A wife's boyfriend would be there
to protect her from herself, support make a better women, less stress!
You really are her therapist in view to her and her husband for balance.
If she chose you, she chose you for a reason and comes the point to accept it
for that reason, balance.
The caught in the middle part? That is where the fairness part is.
It can be a lot of pain to love a married lady noting the false fears or whatever
it is. Like being in love with a notorious married ALPHA lady in which is ok!
Fetishes or dreams that are made happen is the keystone of life. A fulfillment
needed in life! But asking to be with her she like pulls out a note card and reads
a scripted response... "I can't!" But you can't believe a word she says being the
notorious part! So there is a indecisiveness a hell! Pain!
Or if there was a affair going on, in that I know I would not do being the other pain!
Like if we had sex in my bed and the next night I go to bed with her not there and my
bed sheets smells like her perfume, I would be in a fetal position on the floor crying!
As the husband might be the same finding out what she did!
Pain! What hurts more? It's the same as a divorce after 20+ years, being hurt
over a married lady, it's the same! And the pain the married couple has
refection the same pain and the point to talk about it for a resolve.
What is the best interest of all!
Question: I found my soul mate. She’s perfect! Only problem is…she’s married. Every time we say goodbye after a few stolen hours together, my heart breaks knowing she is going back to her husband. The three of us work for the same company. I can’t move to another state or find another job that pays as good. This little secret is killing me. What’s the point in feeling so connected with someone you can’t share your love with? Any advice on coping with this moral dilemma would be greatly appreciated. Many thanks in advance.
Yangki’s Answer: I won’t try to dismiss your strong feelings for her as a ‘crush’ or an ‘infatuation’ or a ‘passing fascination’, if you feel it’s love, then it’s love and I won’t dispute that. But remember she’s married to someone else and that means that she’s not yours – at least not right now. What’s making you feel so miserable is not because you love a married woman, what’s making you miserable is that you have expectations and those expectations are not being met.
Is she your soul mate? I don’t know. There are all kinds of different soul mates and not all soul mate relationships have to translate into a sexual or romantic relationship.
If you truly believe in your soul that this woman is your soul mate, then what I advice you to do is to quit obsessing over the fact that you can’t be with her in the way your ego wants and instead try to figure out why she came into your life. Is it to remind you that you need to reassess your life and the choices you make? Is it to bring to light things in your love life that may need work? Are you attracted to the idea of having her because she’s unavailable? Are you attracted to her because you are afraid of being in a relationship and she posses no threat? Do you have these feelings because she reminds you of what your soul really longs for? To ignore why you have feelings for this woman would be ignoring what your soul is trying to communicate to you.
Obsessing about the fact that you can’t be with her may be keeping you from finding a wonderful, unattached woman out there-who could be looking for you too; someone else who has the same terrific qualities you find attractive in this other woman.
I would not advice you to move especially if you have a job you love and has lots of career prospects. What I’d advice you to do is start looking at this woman with different lenses – the lenses of your soul. Treat her with respect and friendly affection and treat those she loves (husband and family) in the same way. You may end up with a friendship that goes on for decades. And remember, lives change over the course of decades. You might find that you’ve fallen out of love with her. She may find herself single again someday. Who knows what the future holds? But for now, do the right thing – which is also the wise thing to do.