Saturday, December 21, 2019

Raising wages or just doing without if you don't want the money the rich will take it!



"We don't want to raise the pay, people might be able to buy things!" Brings up the point why are they not raising the wages with income divide being so big making more hardships on them so they will just give up on buying anything?

Is there a push to restart the whole system by letting it burn? It hurts business by people just letting it go because they can't afford it. If it cost more because your poor do you really need it? No! I was wondering what is behind this stupid view! All of these people just letting it go all that is going to do is push the same situation that is going in Brazil "For tens of thousands in Sao Paulo, squatting is only way out." Well what are we going to do when have to do the same thing in poor towns rural places with nothing. It will happen because most out in the woods are just going to die there because their community left them there because they go where they can make it!

This is a danger America is heading that way because the income inequality is so high. It's like a giant wave ready to come down on people! Things to think about?
https://www.rappler.com/world/regions/latin-america/202958-brazil-sao-paulo-squatters-poverty

Friday, December 6, 2019

People that trash their Walmarts lacking community!

Respect your Walmart! Have you noticed Walmart at night, the trash left behind from the shoplifters, crime related, the kids kicking a ball down the aisle and etc? You know it is your Walmart also it's like a community thing like going to the YMCA to the swimming pool only to find people threw their trash in it, Going to the GYM to use a tanning bed finding a greasy body print on the tanning bed that was not cleaned by the person that was using it! Where is your community? It points to the saying trailer park trash. Because there is a lot of trash! In that is not fair because other people don't like to live in trash. Live in trash, trash happens to you and others like a outbreak staph or herpes in the bathroom because people didn't wipe their ass enough with workers that can't clean the bathroom every 30 mins!
Stupid with stupid makes more stupid. so expect stupid! Why? People of Walmart respect your community!

~~~~~Walmart employees share the 8 worst things they've seen while working at the retail giant Walmart employees have seen some things.

Any large retail store witnesses its share of crises and off-putting behavior from customers on a regular basis. Walmart is no different.

Business Insider spoke with a number of Walmart associates and scoured the web for anecdotes from employees to get their top horror stories.

And we definitely heard a few doozies.

"Who knows what crazy even is anymore?" one Walmart employee of 12 years told 
Business Insider.
https://www.businessinsider.com/walmart-stores-worst-things-employees-see-2018-6

~~~~~Walmart’s Out-of-Control Crime Problem Is Driving Police Crazy
Darrell Ross—Officer Walmart to his colleagues in the Tulsa Police Department—operates for up to 10 hours a day out of the security office of a Walmart Supercenter in the city’s northeast corner. It’s a small, windowless space with six flatscreen monitors mounted on a pale blue cinder-block wall, and on this hot summer day, the room is packed. Four Walmart employees watch the monitors, which toggle among the dozens of cameras covering the store and parking lot, while doing paperwork and snacking on Cheez Whiz and Club Crackers. In a corner of the room, an off-duty sheriff’s officer, hired by Walmart, makes small talk with the employees.
https://www.bloomberg.com/features/2016-walmart-crime/#that-jump-content--default

Wednesday, December 4, 2019

Take me home tonight!



Life is lonely enough anyway with most things being not normal any help is wanted or not. It really is best to take care of ones need for all to be better. And so takes takes effort deciding on taking in a lover in a open relationship or what you want small or big. Point at them tell them to walk with me, do you want to go home with me! In a open relationship in reality that would be the wife's decision to make to start it. Also the point why have this, what is expected from him etc to make things better for all over all! If it doesn't make you better then it isn't and that is ok! We all should accept each others nature take in a lover!

~~~~~Why Having A Lover Makes Me A Better Wife
Polyamory and non-monogamy seem to be all the rage these days. Everyone is talking about the fun new forms relationships can take and the excitement that comes from doing something non-traditional and edgy. But very few articles I’ve read explain exactly why having a relationship with someone other than your husband or wife may actually help you be a better wife or husband.
http://www.rolereboot.org/sex-and-relationships/details/2015-07-why-having-a-lover-makes-me-a-better-wife

~~~~~Confession: I have a lover. And my husband approves
“He used to come to my house once a week but since having my baby, it’s become a little difficult. So now, it’s just whenever we can. If my husband is home early, he will take our son out so my casual can come over. Even during my pregnancy, my casual still visited me because my husband was not comfortable with my bump.
https://www.mamamia.com.au/im-married-with-a-lover

(Accepting!)

Saturday, November 30, 2019

Life can change even for Russia!

In a time of Russia meddling in our elections brings up the point why? All of us is facing a threat that will not go away in our lifetimes! Life in Russia as it is today won't be tomorrow and for all of us! So all of us should act according work toward the best of all of us!

~~~~~Russia election: What do young Russians think of Putin?
https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-43088445

~~~~~More Than 250,000 People May Die Each Year Due to Climate Change.
In the coming decades, more than a quarter-million people may die each year as a result of climate change, according to a new review study.

In 2014, the World Health Organization (WHO) estimated that climate change would lead to about 250,000 additional deaths each year between 2030 and 2050, from factors such as malnutrition, heat stress and malaria.

But the new review, published Jan. 17 in The New England Journal of Medicine, said this is a "conservative estimate." That's because it fails to take into account other climate-related factors that could affect death rates — such as population displacement and reductions in labor productivity from farmers due to increased heat, study co-author Dr. Andrew Haines, epidemiologist and former director of the London School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine, told CNN.

In addition, the WHO estimate didn't take into account illnesses and deaths tied to disruptions in health services caused by extreme weather and climate events, the review said.

The new review didn't give an updated estimate of climate-change-related deaths, but noted that reduced food production alone is predicted to lead to a net increase of 529,000 adult deaths by 2050, according to a 2016 study.

Climate change could also force more than 100 million people into extreme poverty by 2030, according to World Bank estimates, which in turn, would make them more vulnerable to the health effects of the changing climate.

All of this underscores the need for investments and policies to reduce greenhouse-gas emissions and promote ways to mitigate the health effects of climate change, the report said.

"Climate change is causing injuries, illnesses and deaths, with the risks projected to increase substantially with additional climate change, threatening the health of many millions of people," the report said. "The pervasive threats to health posed by climate change demand decisive actions from health professionals and governments to protect the health of current and future generations." 
https://www.livescience.com/64535-climate-change-health-deaths.html

Sunday, November 3, 2019

Polyamory in a world of the increasing economically unattractive.

In these days of inequality making not much of a foundation to stand on. 
How are people to find a stable ground? "No man is a island!" 

Polyamory, Open relationships! And so will go higher as many look for the better things in life accepting the handicap in that knowing you can love more than one and so two is better than one in ones economical life! Life doesn't care anyway, you do or don't so many do Polyamory getting open about it! 

 America is living 64% paycheck to paycheck. In that are the issues of being poor but are issues viewed of well off people. Poor and poor fit in but should be as a way to pull each other up! https://nbcmontana.com/news/nation-world/64-of-americans-now-living-paycheck-to-paycheck-thanks-to-inflation-report-says-lendingclub

Issues of a lack of income is a lack of education thus not knowing how to relate to jealousy. Well get educated on it! How does it relate to your past relationships was it worth it, how long to you plan to be stupid about it everyone around you like LOL there they go again natural selection, they will burn out it, keep it going now! Or let it go it's not worth jealousy! Learn from it ask other poly types look it up. you learn you like walkout of the fire because you are tired of it!

~~~~~Buying tickets to events, throwing parties, or purchasing fetish wear these aren't absolute requirements for participation in polyamorist and kink communities, but the studies note they can be associated costs. And jobs for the lower classes don’t just pay poorly; they also often lack benefits, paid leave, and stable schedules. So people in those jobs have much less time or energy to devote to dates, to community events, and to nurturing multiple relationships. The lifestyle is also helped along by a certain amount of urban density and good public transit infrastructure — something, again, much more available to high earners in big cities. (It’s also worth noting that racial injustice and economic injustice overlap to a very large degree.)" https://theweek.com/articles/538413/what-polyamorycan-teach-about-economics-family-life

 There is no need to be uppity in Polyamory. Life is what you make it together!


~~~~~Yes, too many men are simply economically unattractive. 

How sad that it's come to this. 

As inequality increases and technology increasingly takes advantage of cheap labor, love becomes part of a calculation.

Long-term plans can't be made. Marriage is but a concept from another time and place.

Yet there's another way in which equality is being achieved. Slowly, women are earning more.

Which leads Lichter to muse: 

Marriage is still based on love, but it also is fundamentally an economic transaction. Many young men today have little to bring to the marriage bargain, especially as young women's educational levels on average now exceed their male suitors.

Please don't worry, boys. One day soon, technology will find a way to make you all completely disposable.
https://www.inc.com/chris-matyszczyk/fewer-people-are-getting-married-reason-why-is-stunning-according-to-science.html

~~~~~Study Blames “Economically Unattractive Men” For Falling Marriage Rates.
Is Economic Unattractiveness a Viable Reason to Turn Down a Mate?
Experts note that women themselves are now earning more and producing more economically, and they may come to expect their spouses to provide as much as they can. Finances are the leading reason why divorces occur, so it makes sense that people are looking for someone financially stable. Women have historically governed the household, but having to govern the household and be a primary breadwinner may be too taxing.

At the same time, there’s something to be said for the increasing “pickiness” of people in general. More people today are single than before: over half of young individuals aren’t in a relationship. Some have accused online dating of having a hand in this: with a “grass is always greener” point of view, it’s more difficult to commit.

Others point out that financial difficulties can make it difficult for people to maintain relationships at all, as they are more focused on their career and their education. Unfortunately, this contributes to an aging workforce and a shrinking population, which is something that many advanced countries are struggling with today.

The bottom line: marriage is fading away, and people are increasingly staying single. At least part of this appears to be because of vanishing jobs and lowered male wages, which is making it less attractive for women to get married and have children. A better economy, which can support stay-at-home parents of either gender, is likely needed to alleviate this.
https://www.wealthauthority.com/articles/study-blames-economically-unattractive-men-for-falling-marriage-rates

Noting the minimum wage hopefully go up but the poverty jobs will get replaced by automation so still the need will be needed to run to a career college for the job skills needed. And so that shows a need for community. If one is economically unattractive, get two! So in these changing times get together because the future won't stop coming unless people stop using technology going back to flip phones!   

And so all of life as it is or will be points to more Polyamory and openness! If it helps take it in your life! We all should be adults not a time to be a child! A time for openness it's ok!

Sunday, October 27, 2019

Strange Attractors and Society - Pseudoscience? No innovation!

Pseudoscience? No innovation! I see pseudoscience as deprivation. Like Occam's razor you just end up depriving everyone of needed information.

~~~~~Conclusion
When we look at social situations we must be quite clear about the differences between these and those simpler systems typically studied in the physical sciences. In the latter it is usual to concentrate upon equilibrium solutions and to seek out point or cyclic attractors - labelling any situation incapable of being stated in such linear and reductionist terms as 'unscientific' and ignoring it. In such 'science' data points found outside the 'box' of predetermined expectations are actually discarded, and treated as 'experimental error' - making this a self-fulfilling and closed worldview. Physical sciences, typically, look here for one 'formula' at a time, one isolated problem at a time. Most work in the current psychological and sociological sciences tries to 'ape' this sort of technique, either discarding all the 'complexity' to look at a narrow aspect, or using statistical techniques to look at the undifferented whole - in both cases compressing the system to a single parameter (and arguing endlessly between themselves about which one to use !). But this behaviour is throwing out the 'baby' with the 'bathwater'.

Non-equilibrium systems, like society, are not comprised of single formulae, they are fractal and have diverse structure on many scales. They are composed of many autonomous elements, each operating with many different values. In the dynamics of these situations we get strange attractors, not point or cyclic ones - a society existing in such a limited attractor would be a 'dead' or 'dying' society ! In real societies we cannot predict 'exactly', solutions are nonlinear, there is a sensitivity to initial conditions, i.e. to history. There exists heterogeneity, multiple interacting dynamics, these systems are often non-deterministic - dependent upon 'random' events (like the recent tsunami). For such systems a new type of science is required, needing a new set of valuation techniques, a metascience of interconnected reality and values, which we pursue further here.
http://www.calresco.org/wp/attrsoc.htm

Saturday, October 19, 2019

Free-range parenting laws letting kids roam could catch on - Not leaning codependency

Free-range parenting is not really a new thing. It's just a point of view of parents that don't want their kid to be codependent with all that follows it! Well you are or your not!

I was a free range kid in the 80's. I rode my bike to the swimming pool and everywhere. Found it useful watching the high school video on how to buy a car when I was in middle school. I woke myself up with a alarm in middle school also. I Felt I was not getting the education I needed when I was in school so went to the principal complaining about it. Only to realize the principal stood up for the teacher so I needed to teach myself also because they are not me they don't know me so my education is mine and I am me so it's up to me also because it's mine! 

If not then how would I know without knowing from not doing it because with no experience in life to relate other things deeper learning would be shallow and so I would have not much to relate things to. Sort of like being hit in the head with education and thinking it's a June Bug!

Give in my life this was the 80's and free range was as far as I could go on my bike or moped! I still had boundaries in that are just common sense but the point was I was thinking and knowing that! Live and learn because life makes you who you are! 
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2014/12/my-middle-school-best-time-of-my-life-84.html
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-college-years-1990s-and-college-stuff.html

~~~~~"It permits enough exploration for kids to come up against limits naturally." So free-range parents might allow things like playing outside alone or going to and from school without a chaperone, and let kids solve their own problems as they arise. According to followers, the benefits are many: "Free-range parenting supporters say that it encourages problem-solving skills, promotes creativity, strengthens personality formation, and builds confidence," Dr. Pruett says. "They also say that it makes children more resourceful."
https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/parenting/a26824973/free-range-parenting

~~~~~After Utah passed the country’s first law legalizing so-called free-range parenting, groups in states from New York to Texas are pushing for similar steps to bolster the idea that supporters say is an antidote for anxiety-plagued parents and overscheduled kids.

Free-range parenting is the concept that giving kids the freedom to do things alone — like explore a playground or ride a bike to school — makes them healthier, happier and more resilient.

Free-range parenting differs from the concept of latchkey kids, or those who take care of themselves after school, in that it generally emphasizes getting kids outside in the neighborhood as a way to develop independence, Boston-based clinical psychologist Bobbi Wegner said.

Fears about letting kids make their own way date at least in part to cases like Etan Patz, who was among the first missing children pictured on milk cartons after disappearing while he walked to his New York City bus stop alone in 1979.

Meanwhile, as education has become more essential in the workforce, parents are increasingly eager to give their kids a leg up with lessons in everything from coding to cello.

“We sign our kids up for all these activities — tutoring, different things — to create this perfect resume from a very young age, but it’s really at a detriment to the kid’s mental health,” Wegner said.

While giving kids independence with parent oversight helps, it’s hard for adults to escape pressure to hover, she said.

“Parents need permission to do this,” Wegner said. A self-avowed free-range parent, she said a police officer once knocked on her door and threatened to call child services after seeing her then-3-and-a-half-year-old son standing at the end of the driveway talking to neighborhood kids. She’d like to see Massachusetts follow Utah’s lead.
https://www.seattletimes.com/nation-world/free-range-parenting-law-eyed-around-us-after-utah-gets-buzz

***There are issues in your current environment. It your town is not brought up yet you might have a lot of stupid people freaking out. Social illiteracy is the gateway to codependency, so just let your kids know and press on as no one in reality wants codependent kids nor do they want to be that way also! Have a evolution than not! Society is getting brought up!

~~~~~Today, new child-rearing norms are on the rise, with parents taking a more laissez-faire approach. “Free range” parenting, a reaction to the overbearing style of the previous generation, has become fashionable, even expected, among many of today’s parents.

In a corresponding shift, state laws are starting to catch up. Utah recently became the first state to explicitly legalize free-range parenting, with a new law stipulating that parents cannot be charged with neglect for allowing “a child, whose basic needs are met and who is of sufficient age and maturity to avoid harm or unreasonable risk of harm, to engage in independent activities.” Essentially, parents can now legally let their children “walk, run or bike to and from school, travel to commercial or recreational facilities, play outside and remain at home unattended” things that may previously have attracted the attention of child-welfare authorities.
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/04/free-range-parenting/557051

***Even in the 1900's kids where also sort of free range being they worked. Having job responsibility at a young age. Well because they had to!

~~~~~Children’s Lives at the Turn of the Twentieth Century. Chores and Work
Rural children often worked on their family’s farms, helping with the endless tasks that were completed using human and animal power. Many children in cities and towns also worked: in mines, in factories, selling newspapers and food, and shining shoes. Concerns over child labor found support among the Progressives the growing number of people who believed government should take an active role in solving social and economic problems of society. In 1904 the National Child Labor Committee was formed to advocate for children in the work force. In the next few years, the federal government passed several laws to try to regulate child labor, but the Supreme Court declared them unconstitutional. Not until 1938 did the federal government successfully regulate the minimum age of employment and hours of work for children.
http://www.loc.gov/teachers/classroommaterials/primarysourcesets/childrens lives/pdf/teacher_guide.pdf

Tuesday, October 15, 2019

Walmart Is Deploying Thousands Of Robots To Take Over For Human Workers - US Rural Favelas



The times are changing and so because of that the Government needs to support people thorough the changes. It is starting at Walmart and will grow it is happening and there is action that is needed! America is not just going to leave the many displaced homeless! America would follow the path of poverty as Brazil! Rural areas would turn into a Squatters community out of no choice! And so the issues of people living that way is a human rights violation to have so many living badly without the states and Governments educating their people and supporting them through the changes!

A little bit of adaption would be needed you need to go with the changes. Job skills are needed more than a four year college stuck there while the labor environment changes around you! I hope the workplaces will spend money to retrain their workers and vocational schools will pick up for the changes!

~~~~~A general welfare clause is a section that appeared in many constitutions, as well as in some charters and statutes, which provides that the governing body empowered by the document may enact laws to promote the general welfare of the people, sometimes worded as the public welfare. In some countries, this has been used as a basis for legislation promoting the health, safety, morals, and well-being of the people governed thereunder." 
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/General_welfare_clause

~~~~~The occupation near Sao Paulo has little electricity. Some shelters are no more than pieces of plastic on the ground and above. Others have wood walls and floors.

Adriana Marcolino is a DIEESE researcher.

She said Brazil is not investing enough in social policies, including the minimum wage. She said more such occupations may be established, as a result. She called the squatters “the face of Brazil’s poorest citizens.”
https://learningenglish.voanews.com/a/squatters-demonstrate-brazils-poverty/4170737.html

~~~~~NCCI projects that relative to 2014, by 2024, U.S. manufacturing will lose 1.6 million workers, with automation replacing 6.9% of manufacturing jobs in addition to expected employment losses due to other factors. The same study also reports that information, agriculture, and retail sectors will employ 200,000 fewer workers. Workers in small, rural areas will also be more affected by automation than those in urban areas."
https://www.skynettoday.com/editorials/ai-automation-job-loss

~~~~~According to the research, the U.S. middle class has the most to fear. Workers with skills that can be easily replicated by technology are in trouble. Lawyers, bankers, accountants, doctors, truck and cab drivers, fast food workers and many other professionals will be affected. Compensation for many people will plummet, as they will be pitted against by robots and AI."

McKinsey notes that “governments will have to develop and provide extensive job retraining to help displaced workers, as well as providing more generous income supplements. Beyond retraining, a range of policies can help, including unemployment insurance, public assistance in finding work, and portable benefits that follow workers between jobs as well as possible solutions to supplement incomes, such as more comprehensive minimum wage policies, universal basic income, or wage gains tied to productivity.” Millions of people will be forced onto government welfare programs. It is disingenuous to claim that hardworking people with 20-plus years of specialized experience and earning a good living can easily pivot to a different career and continue to earn a decent salary.  

It's understandable that Walmart must find new ways, such as deploying robots, to compete with the onslaught from Amazon. Somehow, as a nation, we need to ensure that Silicon Valley billionaires won't get richer and companies leaner by eviscerating the employees. If you follow this trend to its natural conclusion, who will buy all the products and services if we’re all out of work?
https://www.forbes.com/sites/jackkelly/2019/04/15/walmart-is-deploying-thousands-of-robots-to-replace-human-workers-what-this-means-for-your-job

~~~~~According to the research, the U.S. middle class has the most to fear. Workers with skills that can be easily replicated by technology are in trouble. Lawyers, bankers, accountants, doctors, truck and cab drivers, fast food workers and many other professionals will be affected. Compensation for many people will plummet, as they will be pitted against by robots and AI.

McKinsey notes that “governments will have to develop and provide extensive job retraining to help displaced workers, as well as providing more generous income supplements. Beyond retraining, a range of policies can help, including unemployment insurance, public assistance in finding work, and portable benefits that follow workers between jobs as well as possible solutions to supplement incomes, such as more comprehensive minimum wage policies, universal basic income, or wage gains tied to productivity.” Millions of people will be forced onto government welfare programs. It is disingenuous to claim that hardworking people with 20-plus years of specialized experience and earning a good living can easily pivot to a different career and continue to earn a decent salary.  

It's understandable that Walmart must find new ways, such as deploying robots, to compete with the onslaught from Amazon. Somehow, as a nation, we need to ensure that Silicon Valley billionaires won't get richer and companies leaner by eviscerating the employees. If you follow this trend to its natural conclusion, who will buy all the products and services if we’re all out of work?
https://www.forbes.com/sites/jackkelly/2019/04/15/walmart-is-deploying-thousands-of-robots-to-replace-human-workers-what-this-means-for-your-job

Sunday, October 13, 2019

Why are the wages so low can't afford to get job skills replaced by robots!



As you should know anytime there is technology there will be jobs for that technology so that makes the jobs that don't exist yet. In a time of future automation that is going to displace many low end workers that hardly make nothing to afford to get the job skills they need! Wasting their time in a world of time poverty disabled from society doing more with less getting less done faster put in a position where they cam't succeed making it look like they are not able to get their job done from future job interviewers point of view!


Isn't it time to raise the minimum wage the future is coming it's not a time to stand there in denial being ran over by the future. Or to say like is a car race and it's hard to get to the finish line if you walk without a car. Or ran out of gas you have two weeks till payday!
It's time to raise the minimum wage!

Saturday, October 12, 2019

Social issues old vs young - It was their war not ours where is the wifi?



Wars are stupid! Why? Most young people where not in the war their country had in the past and so are rather concerned about about where the WIFI is. They would rather talk and work out the issues so they can get back to life! They would rather see the war be fought online between the two Presidents so they could watch it online! "It's their issue not ours!" It's a social issue young vs the old. Social mobility you are to do better than your parents as you don't want to be like your parents with view points of bad times having a red scare as most young don't want to live scared. And in the laws of nature it is stupid to sacrifice to guard the ashes!

The Trump part? It shows a clear lack on intelligence with what Trump said about the Kurds not helping the US in in WWII attacking the elders who where there. The youth are wondering why their are being attacked because of a issue their 95 year old grandpa had?

The whole world not wanting to have a war but living better would make a better planet!

****Turkey has launched its ground offensive against the Kurdish militia, US allies who played a major role in the fight against ISIS. President Trump defended his decision to withdraw troops, saying the Kurds didn’t help the United States in World War II.
https://www.msnbc.com/hardball/watch/trump-s-bizarre-reason-for-abandoning-the-kurds-in-syria-70952517958?cid=sm_npd_ms_tw_ma

Wednesday, October 9, 2019

How People in Open Relationships Make It Work and Why Have Them!

Things happen for a reason, open relationships show the intent of acceptance of each other for all to be in a better way. No they are not there for sex only in that even in that is for her needs. But the point is these things happen in part to give balance, emotional security, grounding, a airport to comedown, another adult figure in the household for the kids, more income or what ever the need is. It is for the better of the good and the acceptance of all's needs is the point to be better as a whole.

Marred or not, a open relationship is to be better. And is a life long relationship if you are in your 50's as you might have only 20 to go so time is short with that in mind there is no issues like you had in your past! The clock is ticking so you won't waste time with petty things being aware of the real value of doing it for your needs! If both hurt then why not get open about it? And it's ok to do that! Just be open and talk about it because it's a start of a new day!

~~~~~8 Things People Who've Been In Open Marriages Wish You Understood
Open marriages and other types of “monogam-ish” relationships are still considered taboo by many. But for couples with a strong foundation built on love, trust and communication and a mutual desire to open the marriage, it can be a positive experience.

Below, men and women who have been part of an open marriage clear up some of the widely held assumptions that are just plain wrong.

MYTH: They don’t take their marriage seriously.
“[People think] that we are not committed, that we are cavalier about our relationship or marriage. This could not be further from the truth! I am 100 percent committed and loyal to my husband. That is why I do consensual non-monogamy ― in the long term I see that it enhances our connection.” ― Gracie X, author of Wide Open

MYTH: The relationship must be on the rocks.
“There’s a misconception that it must mean there’s something wrong with your relationship or that you no longer love each other. All it really means is that you’re both very horny and want some variety. It can get monotonous eating your same favorite meal night after night, year after year. This way, you relearn to appreciate that meal even more.” ― Richie Cohen of the married comedy duo Dick and Duane

MYTH: The conversation about opening the marriage is always initiated by the husband.
“Women have sex drives just like men. And jealousy is not a female prerogative. Open relationships have nothing to do with gender and everything to do with relationship style. Both men and women can desire non-monogamy, and that desire can change throughout one’s life. So don’t be surprised if you find yourself a serial monogamist one day and an open relationship proponent the next.” ― Jenny Block, excerpted from “The 9 Biggest Myths About Open Marriage”

MYTH: They’re not considerate of their partner’s feelings.
“Being open or polyamorous requires being incredibly considerate and conscientious with regards to the feelings and well-being of everyone around you. In my experience, the most adept and successful polyamorous people are ones who live by the calendar and hash out dates relatively far in advance and with the prior knowledge and enthusiastic consent of their primary partners.” ― writer Grant Stoddard

MYTH: Only selfish and immature people take part in open relationships.
“I think a huge misconception is that if you’re doing non-monogamy, you must be emotionally immature and not really in love. Non-monogamous couples who are mutually interested in this relationship model ― starting from a strong foundation and committed to one another as their primary relationship ― truly do enjoy the best of both worlds that many monogamous people secretly fantasize about: the security and love of marriage and the adventure and eroticism of variety. There are more couples making this work than most people believe. I failed at it, but there are many people succeeding.” ― Robin Rinaldi, editor of the online magazine Together

MYTH: They’re just a bunch of wild sex addicts.
“Not everyone in an open marriage is some kind of sex-addicted freak show. Between household duties, raising children and having a meaningful relationship with my husband, I do not have a lot of time to dedicate to having sex with other people, even if I wanted to. I do not have sex with every man I meet. I do not want to steal your husband. I do not even want to have sex with your husband. I do not have sex at the grocery store or soccer practice or bring strange men into our home.” ― Gwen & Lark for YourTango, excerpted from “I’m In An Open Marriage And You Would Never Know It”

MYTH: All people in open marriages are cut from the same cloth.
“The biggest misconception is that non-monogamous people are of a certain stripe and conduct their relationships in a certain way. As Lux Alptraum wrote in an article published just recently, ‘It’s important to recognize that ‘non-monogamy’ isn’t one specific, discrete thing. In the same way that ‘non-Christians’ practice a wide and varied array of religions, people who eschew monogamy do so in a number of different ways.” ― writer Grant Stoddard

MYTH: Once you open a relationship, it stays open.
“You can be open for any part of a relationship. It may be something you want after you have been with someone for a long time. Or you may find that after being open for a long time you find yourself craving monogamy again. Just be warned that the transition from closed to open and open to closed is not always easy, and both partners have to be on board at the same time, which can be tricky. Again, talking all along the way is the only way to make this work. (In case you have not noticed, being in a successful open relationship requires a lot of talking.)” ― Jenny Block, excerpted from “The 9 Biggest Myths About Open Marriage”
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/open-marriage-myths_n_5841d35be4b0c68e0480b7ef

~~~~~How People in Open Relationships Make It Work
Non-monogamous committed relationships are on the rise, at least if our Google searches are to be believed. While it’s difficult to track precisely how many people are in open and polyamorous relationships, since many studies often only track people who are legally married, one 2016 study found that approximately one in five people has participated in some kind of (consensual) non-monogamy.

On-screen, too, less traditional relationship boundaries are being explored more and more. Molly navigated being a secondary partner on Insecure last season, Netflix has a whole show called Wanderlust that watches Toni Collette and her husband, Steven Mackintosh, try to navigate long-term monogamy. In House of Cards, Robin Wright and Kevin Spacey had a pretty fluid definition of monogamy, and apparently both even slept with the same Secret Service agent (perhaps true intimacy is sleeping with the same other person).

We’re all becoming more aware of non-monogamous arrangements, which of course have been around for ages, but for people who haven’t experienced one firsthand, the mere logistics of maintaining them can seem daunting. So I spoke to a bunch of people* in various forms of open relationships—including polyamorous relationships—to see how they make it work.

Open and poly relationships require a lot of communication and strict boundaries. Practically speaking, how does that play out?

“My husband and I don’t text with our lovers in front of each other. It can be pretty fun and intense and exciting to have a new lover, and you can wind up really ignoring your primary partner. The rule is, when you are physically with someone in the same room, be mentally present with them, too.” —Lana, 36, Portland, in a poly relationship with her husband

“We shared with each other when we were seeing others or interested in others—communication was our number one rule. We were each other’s primary partners, and all other partners were secondary. Other than that, it was fairly loosey-goosey.” —Emma, 27, Danville, PA, was in an open relationship with her ex

“We don't have any secondary emotional attachments at all. Other sexual partners are purely sexual, although we normally go on a date first to see if there's chemistry. —Thomas, 38, New York City, in an open relationship with his wife

“My only rule of my partners is that they use [condoms/protection] with other people and to let me know if they would like to stop using them.” —Adam, 35, Seattle, in a poly relationship with a primary partner and one secondary partner

“After dates, we check in with each other just to say we're home safely or whatever, and goodnight, but we don't recap or say what's happened until we see each other in real life the next time.” —Rosemary, 31, Brooklyn, in an open relationship with her girlfriend

Where do extracurricular hookups actually take place?

“We have a master bedroom, an office for each of us, and a guest bedroom, but secondary hookups take place elsewhere. I have every appreciation for couples who wouldn't find this awkward, but we're not among them!” —Steven, 43, Las Vegas, in an open relationship with his wife

“As to living arrangements, like much of life, it depends on how well-off the people are. I'd love to have a dedicated "play" room, but the reality of real estate in Seattle makes that a non-starter.” —Adam

“I’ll usually go to a hotel if I'm meeting a girl. But that's more because of an inherent difference between men and women in these scenarios: It's super easy for her to find single men interested in no-strings-attached sex, and so she can always find single guys to go home with. It's a lot rarer for me to find single women interested in that type of thing, so ordinarily the women I meet up with are also in open relationships.” —Thomas

How do you keep the jealousy at bay when your partner is seeing other people?

“Jealousy really isn’t an issue for us, because we’re just very solid in our relationship. But also, honestly, because she has a lower libido than I do, and [she] doesn’t see sex as the end-all, be-all of a relationship. It’s harder for me to give a hall pass than it is for her to give one.” —Wyatt, 34, San Francisco, in a “poly-ish” relationship with his wife

“One of the rules my primary asked of me was to not kiss other people on the forehead. She wanted to have that to herself, intimacy-wise.” —Frank, 35, Chicago, in a poly relationship

“We know we're completely and utterly devoted to each other. For me, I get no more jealous of her going out and sleeping with a guy than I do of her going out and drinking with a friend; either way, she's just having fun.” —Thomas

How do you manage the scheduling? And what happens if there’s a conflict between your primary and secondary partner?

“Our primary relationship has priority, but we've both been good enough to not abuse that. If my wife says she has a date beforehand, I won't jump in later with ‘I'd like to do something that day.’ We have complete veto power with each other about any outside meetups; if my wife has a date scheduled but I'm working and we can't get a babysitter, she'll cancel the date.” —Steven

“We tell each other at least a day in advance of a date and share who it is with, so that we have time to know what's happening, make other plans (because we do spend so much time together when we're not seeing other people), and [so we can] potentially say if it's someone we'd rather the other person not see, like if there's a history there.” —Rachel, 31, Brooklyn, in an open relationship with her girlfriend

“Communication and radical honesty and Google Calendar are what make us work! We put everything on our [shared] calendars. Work schedules, school schedules, doctor's appointments, dates in and out of the polycule, vet appointments, everything.” —Parker, 33, Seattle, in an open poly relationship with another couple [Ed. note: A polycule is the collective of members in a polyamorous relationship.]

“I spent a year on [the open-relationship dating app] Feeld, but I got more real matches in the first 48 hours on Tinder than I got in probably six months on Feeld. My Tinder is very clear about what we are and what we’re looking for. There’s just a much greater diversity of desires on Tinder than people think there are.” —Wyatt

What’s it been like to move from monogamy to consensual non-monogamy?

“I should say despite being at it for two years, we're both still relatively inexperienced at the whole thing. I'm still at a loss of how to engage other women and explain the whole thing without it sounding weird or creepy.” —Steven

“We weren’t open the first time [we dated], so re-establishing our romantic relationship as open has taken some negotiating and getting used to… What's helped me is being explicit about our open monogamy, and also asking for verbal reassurances sometimes, which has sure made me feel kind of like a loser, but I know it's good and okay to ask for what you need sometimes.” —Danielle, 24, Oakland, CA, in an open relationship with her boyfriend

“My husband and I thought it would be fun to have new experiences, and we had been together for so long. The interesting result is that I experienced a relationship with another man on a level that I didn’t know existed, and it has caused me to question a lot of my life choices.” —Lana
https://www.gq.com/story/how-people-in-open-relationships-make-it-work

Thursday, October 3, 2019

Why I ditched my therapist to hire a dominatrix instead - Humanistic

In life one should not live a sheltered life. Well it's in the view of how can you learn if you don't get out and learn. Mostly it's a point of living a bad life as others are having a good time around you then you get old living a bad life making minimum wage retirement living in a house falling apart around you not being able to hire people to fix it so etc... Nature doesn't care otherwise, as you go into the dumpster!

Well you get the point. Live your life because you need a life to love! So get out and do something for you! It's about life and what you want in it.

A Dominatrix is a therapist these days! All things happen for a reason!

~~~~~Why I ditched my therapist to hire a dominatrix instead.
My dominatrix life coach isn’t afraid to hurt my feelings she’s brutally honest and has no time for my excuses.

love therapy, but I didn’t love my therapist. She was young, like me, and new – the best I could find with my cheap insurance. I was her first real client, she was thrilled, I was broke and depressed.

Over the course of our six months together, we often sat through extended periods of silence, each of us desperately searching for something to say. Other times, I rambled about how pointless my life felt, the crushing guilt and fear of abandonment that follows me everywhere, and ill-timed thirst traps, just to fill the space. I did my best to entertain her with overshares and regrettable sex stories from my life as a sad yet charming bisexual, and for a while, that was fine, until I ran out of stories and we fell back into silence. I left our sessions feeling worse than I did when I arrived.

I quit therapy because I needed help from someone who knew what they were doing, and possibly even more importantly, who knew what I was doing, or what I should be doing. I didn’t want another therapist; I wanted someone to just tell me what to do, who could kick my ass and tell me to cut the bullshit. I wanted motivation, advice and accountability from a woman who spanks grown men for a living.

So I hired a dominatrix.

Wednesday, September 25, 2019

Myra Breckinridge?


The Myra Breckinridge movie has been on my radar for a while. Talked about in college a few times along with other movies and etc. Keep in mind that movie was made in the 70's and like the first to have a female on male rape. These days norm if you just talk about it first!

But what we sort of knew about was how the movie was made. A guide how to not make a movie! We where talking about the movie where we should of been talking about how it was made! Or both!

~~~~~Filming was laden with controversy due to Michael Sarne being granted complete control over the project. Sarne quickly went over budget due to his unorthodox techniques, which included spending up to seven hours at a time by himself, "thinking", leaving the cast to wait around on set for him to return so that filming could commence. Additionally, Sarne spent several days filming tables of food for a dream sequence which, in addition to being non-essential to the plot, appears in the film for only a few seconds.

According to many accounts, Sarne encouraged bickering among cast members. After the failure of this film, he was never asked by an American studio to direct another film. Upon learning that Sarne was now working at a pizza restaurant, Gore Vidal is said to have commented that this was proof of God's existence.[better source needed]

There were also reports of conflicts between Raquel Welch and Mae West, who came out of a 27-year retirement to play Leticia Van Allen.

Furthermore, some 1940s- and 1950s-era film actors who appeared in Myra Breckinridge were upset that footage from their old films was inserted into the movie to punctuate some of the gags and the film's climactic rape sequence. After the film was previewed in San Francisco, the White House demanded that footage from the 1937 film Heidi, featuring Shirley Temple, be removed due to Temple's role as a United States ambassador. Loretta Young also successfully sued to have footage of herself removed from the film.[15] Commenting on this, Rex Reed, who co-starred and was then a columnist, said "This was a film where the lawsuits really flew".

"I've never seen so many personality conflicts on one picture," said Richard Zanuck. "Fryer has quit three times. I don't think there's anyone on this movie who hasn't been fired or quit three times. Including me."

"I feel sorry for Bob," said Zanuck. "Raquel is always nervous during a film. Rex isn't exactly easy. And Sarne is rough. Much tougher than he looks."

"Fryer is a really nice man," said Sarne. "We just disagree on everything."

"He tells everybody on this picture we're diametrically opposed, which we are," said Fryer. "I want to do a comedy. He wants to do a fantasy. He's trying to superimpose 1964 Fellini—not Fellini, mind you, but 1964 Fellini—on a subject matter which is way out to begin with."

"I don't understand it," said Giler. "Bobby Kennedy and Jack Kennedy, they were assassinated. But no one touches Sarne. Sarne's script for Myra should be hermetically sealed.

Monday, September 23, 2019

How Time Deficits and Hidden Poverty Undermine the Sustainable Development

A town is only big as the wages it has. So what holds back growth? The wages and the result of being low as the low makes it bad for others. Well it's not fair for a business to be surprised by the poverty and having to lower their prices to match the poverty wages of the town or close their doors only because many people do without. Well where is all of their stuff they buy? If the people in your town made a living wage but chose to buy nothing making nothing in your town then that is a sign of depression they need medication! No it's a lack of money! 

What can be done? Recognize the problem, work at bringing the people up. What is the deficiency and so fix it! Something has to be done!

~~~~~How Time Deficits and Hidden Poverty Undermine the Sustainable Development Goals.

The predominant framework for measuring poverty rests on an implicit assumption that everyone has enough time available to devote to household production or enough resources to compensate for deficits in household production by purchasing market substitutes. Senior Scholar Ajit Zacharias argues that this implicit bias in our official poverty statistics threatens to undermine the Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs).

The SDGs include the following targets: (1) reduce the incidence of poverty by 50 percent by 2030, and (2) recognize and provide support to the unpaid provision of domestic services and care of persons undertaken predominantly by women in their households. This policy note suggests that a closer link exists between poverty reduction and support for household production activities than is commonly acknowledged. Failure to recognize the link in policy design can contribute to failure on both fronts. To obtain a more accurate assessment of poverty, time deficits in household production must be taken into account.
http://www.levyinstitute.org/publications/how-time-deficits-and-hidden-poverty-undermine-the-sustainable-development-goals

Sunday, September 15, 2019

Educate your people - Robots may replace 800 million workers by 2030

This is the time to be raising the minimum wage so people can afford a education. With the common issue of people working their way to minimum wage retirement, walking with no cars to work, driving unsafe cars that should not be on the road with no bumpers.

Looking forward to be replaced by robots, with stupid people thinking it's fake news with their views of living in a bunker in the desert with their guns only to find out their community has left them with nature not caring otherwise in the new world of The Jetsons vs the Flintstones. Living badly in a time of a change with no job skills who will be hired for the job? If they can't take care of themselves then how are they to take care of the workplace? Things to think about!

It is a time to be going up to match the future going up as it does not go down! More funding is needed in schools more funding in solar power, electric car technology, robotics and etc. Kids need the job skills and so can't get them if they are not able to because there are no resources for them at their schools then crash! Schools and colleges need to get the ball going soon. This is not a time to build a football stadium as that clock is ticking! There is danger ahead!

~~~~Robots may replace 800 million workers by 2030. These skills will keep you employed. A new report released by McKinsey & Company indicates that by 2030, as many as 800 million workers worldwide could be replaced at work by robots.

The study found that in more advanced economies like the U.S. and Germany, up to one-third of the 2030 workforce may need to learn new skills and find new work. In economies like China's, roughly 12 percent of workers may need to switch occupations by 2030.

For some industries, an increase in automation won't mean a decline in employment, but rather a shift in the tasks needed to be done. For example, any job that involves managing people, applying expertise and social interaction will still be necessary, human performance in those areas can't be matched by a machine.

However, jobs involving mortgage origination, paralegal work, accounting and back-office transaction processing can easily be wiped out by automation.

A LinkedIn post focused on the report noted that some workers are already catching on to the need to boost the skills sets. Research by the networking platform found that fewer professionals are adding accounting and financial reporting to their profiles. Instead, employees are beefing up their online resumes with more soft skills like management, leadership and customer service.

While the impact of robots and automation may be scary to some, Bill Gates says the issue is nothing to panic about.

"This is a case where Elon [Musk] and I disagree," he said in a Wall Street Journal interview, in which he addressed Musk's gloomy vision of the future.

According to Gates, anyone with skills in science, engineering and economics will always be in demand.
https://www.cnbc.com/2017/11/30/robots-may-replace-up-to-800-million-workers-by-2030.html

Wednesday, September 4, 2019

5 Reasons It’s Normal To Be In Love With More Than One Person - Accepting!

We all are able to love more than one person and we do today anyway! If you loved someone it does not go away. "You don't get over loosing somebody. You just don't. What you do get is a little bit of relief and it does get better but never goes away!" Steve Perry.

I had many loves soul mates twin flames all around strange and etc in my past and I still love all of them! To me it's all still there as I am Polyamorous, Polyandry preferred being it has more intelligence without the male EGO making stupid! Like the two guys don't own her so she owns them being for her best interest. Guys benefit by proxy it's ok, no jealousy. It's best to accept her nature! If you can't trust her join her be open to the needs! Point noted it's ok to love all in your past and now accepting the love is in our nature anyway as we all mostly do anyway! Don't fight. Love!
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2017/09/where-have-i-been-mirror-mirror-on-rocks.html

~~~~~5 Reasons It’s Normal To Be In Love With More Than One Person
Although we're often taught to believe we can only love one person at a time, it's time to really rethink that. While it might be easy if there were just one person for us, as in "The One," and once we find them we were set for life, things are really not that simple. Life, in general, is not that simple. And, honestly, I like to believe that as much as lack of simplicity can throw a wrench in things, no one really wants it that simple.

And considering the rise of non-monogamy today, more and more people are proving that there's not just one person out there for everyone. “When it comes to being in love, all bets are off,” dating Coach Francesca Hogi tells Bustle. “Everything is ‘normal.’ [Being in love with more than one person] is probably a lot more common than people realize.” Well isn't that a relief for each and every one of you out there who is currently in love with more than one person — or thinks you could be.

Aside from the fact that “all bets are off” when it comes to being in love, are there actual, rational reasons as to why this normal? Yes. Here are five of them.

1. We All Have Our Own Definition Of Being 'In Love'
One of the best parts about love is how we make it our own. How I define love and how you define love are probably very different. “The thing about love is it’s completely self-defined,” says Hogi. “One person can interpret their feelings as love, another as infatuation, another as lust.” Since that’s the case, it allows people to label it as they see fit. One person's lust, is another's concept of love.

2. We Can Love More Than One Person At A Time
“We all know that we can love many people at the same time,” says Hogi, “So who's to say being in love is any different?” If we’re capable of loving multiple people in different ways, as there are many different kinds of love, to say that we can only be IN love with one person at a time contradicts that first thinking. This is especially true if being “in love” is defined differently, from person to person.

3. Love Is Complicated
Love isn’t simply a matter of the proverbial heart, but an intricate medley of hormones and chemicals that come together to make us feel the feeling that we, as human beings, have decided to call love. Love changes over time, come and goes, strengthens and weakens, and can totally disappear only to come back again, later on, for another round.

In theory, love may seem simple, as in you love that person or you do not, but the reality is that love is as complex as things can get; it’s not black and white. Because of this, to think that to love only one person is the only “normal” way to love, is actually doing our ability to love a disservice.

4. Attraction Is Biological
We don’t really have much control over whom we become attracted to because biology is out of our hands. While one person can appeal to certain aspects of our desire, someone else can appeal to another entirely different set of aspects of our desire. Although these multiple desires can be categorized as lust or infatuation, as Hogi said, love is something we personally define. What this means is that feelings for more than one person can definitely be interpreted as love for more than one person. Which, again, is totally normal.

5. Love Doesn’t Necessarily Die
If you’ve been in love with someone, that love doesn’t always die. Although my first love and I broke up well over a decade ago, I still love him very deeply. I loved him very deeply during the relationships that followed and even through my marriage; and I’m not alone in carrying this love for a former partner.

“Many people freely admit they'll always love an ex, even though they consider themselves to be in love with their current partner,” says Hogi. “The bottom line is, having feelings for more than one person at a time is completely normal. The question then becomes how to proceed, and with whom!”
https://www.bustle.com/articles/180084-5-reasons-its-normal-to-be-in-love-with-more-than-one-person

https://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-polyandry.htm

Sunday, September 1, 2019

The BDSM Abduction Fetish, Role Play Therapy and women driving toward me like...



In the beginning of the video the lady with the cap on and sunglasses on. Looks like the lady from Tulsa I asked out for coffee once... Well? At work once I was walking to my car for lunch when that lady drove up to me. I had visions of a married gypsy lady that accidentally ran me over my foot once making me submit to her in a way because my foot hurt so I put it on the cold ground only to beg her to comeback. Anyway that lady that drove toward me wanted to know where a football game was playing. I swear I saw take down her Garmin as she came at me in her white SUV! Talking to me I noticed the suction cup marks on her windshield. Ok, then I noticed her smart phone so she could look it up! She saw I noticed it and she looked at me like sort of busted. I am a INFJ so I was alert to her! 

I was lovesick talking to her as I noticed her hair she is my type, but I quickly rebounded as I noticed she looked at me like not another lovesick person like it happens a lot to her. So not wanting her to think I was stupid I told her the town is not really brought up yet and it's like the butterfly effect but in reverse relating to how hard it is to find the football stadium! She shook her head at me and I was like dang I love her as I watched her drive away like my married gypsy lady that made a right turn after she ran me over with me begging her to comeback! I E-mailed her for a while the lady that drove toward me until I asked her to go for coffee to talk! (Boom! Last E-mail I got from her!) Lovesick!

Also leaving work once I swear I saw her leave the parking lot across the street! I think she drove toward me because she wanted to meet me like to ask who is writing this stuff or wondering what is going on about the married married gypsy lady that worked there before. I love her also! (I am polyamorous!) 

Anyway the video makes me wonder! About the cap on and sunglasses on? I said once somewhere about why couldn't we make a agreement she could come over to my apartment incognito with a cap on and sunglasses on no one would know. In reality nothing bad just a safe zone for her. When you date a married lady you really just talk etc. No bad perv intent! It was something I was wondering about like I am being mistreated! But the point she came at me in her white SUV like she is going to abduct me! Love? Yes!

Relating! My classmate from middle school is a dominatrix these days! And the lady I loved in the 90's her husband put her in the trunk because he had high BP and she was yelling at him. He was taking her to my place in a help me manner! Life is funny, worth talking open about things! It's ok!

Wednesday, August 28, 2019

Wonder Woman and the Psychology of Domination and Submission and Growth

As it's said "In any given moment, we have two options: to step forward into growth, or to step back into safety. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again." - Abraham Maslow

Deviancy is the gateway to personal growth. On the other hand stagnation is death!
"What is the difference between a living thing and a dead thing? In the medical world, a clinical definition of death is a body that does not change. Change is life. Stagnation is death. If you don't change, you die. It's that simple. It's that scary." - Leonard Sweet
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/354134-what-is-the-difference-between-a-living-thing-and-a

As the poem "No Man is an Island."
"No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main;  if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as any manner of thy friends or of thine own were; any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind. And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee. 

Relating to what I say about Polyamory in that the point is to do better, stable, making it together. The love to accept and move to what is better for all making  "The point of the story is note a light starting up going to the 21st century a social change going on or a new world of psychology. Being real about each other having a normality without the deviancy. To respect or care about, equally, support as a extended family. A perfect foundation for all realistically!"

~~~~~Wonder Woman and the Psychology of Domination and Submission
William Moulton Marston (creator of Wonder Woman) and his wife, Sadie Elizabeth (Betty) Holloway, were committed to living unconventional lives. There can be little question that they succeeded. Their story is fascinating, and one marvels not only at the expansiveness of their personal, cultural, and political interests but also at the privacy they enjoyed during the early 20th century.

William studied philosophy, psychology, and law at Harvard University with the legendary—and legendarily sexist authoritarian—Hugo Münsterberg, who was brought to the U.S. by William James to set up one of the first psychology laboratories in the country [editor’s note: Münsterberg’s 1916 book Photoplay: A Psychological Study is one of the first film theory publications]. Münsterberg’s early work addressed sensation and perception, but by the time Marston matriculated the lab was focused on lie detection and the psychology of jury decision-making.

After attending law school and earning a doctorate in psychology, William published a book entitled Emotions of Normal People in 1928. He recounts a pivotal childhood memory in which his mother forced him to confront a neighborhood bully. What did he take from the episode? He felt that his mother’s domineering behavior had served to release his own latent capacity for dominance. More specifically, it was his submission that allowed her dominance to flow through him. “Dominance and submission,” he wrote, “are the ‘normal,’ strength-giving emotions, not ‘rage,’ or ‘fear.’”

The emotional dynamics of dominance and submission, from Marston’s viewpoint, were fundamental not only to animal life but to human nature, emerging in early childhood. On the basis of interviews conducted with prisoners in Texas, he concluded that there is a symbiotic relationship between strength and weakness. A “stronger force” gains energy by dominating a “weaker force,” but the latter is able to exert control over the former by drawing it into hot pursuit. In many cases, he writes, “the fugitive wants to be chased.” Years later, after being squeezed out of academia and working for a short time at Universal Studios, William put his theory of dominance and submission to the test not in a laboratory but in a comic book.

During his years as a psychology professor William fell in love with one of his students, Olive Byrne, who happened to be the niece of feminist icon, sex educator, and birth control activist Margaret Sanger. William and Elizabeth eventually invited Olive to live with them (she pretended to be Elizabeth’s widowed sister-in-law), and they enjoyed a clandestine, seemingly satisfactory polyamorous lifestyle until William died at the age of 53. In Jill Lepore’s scintillating book, The Secret History of Wonder Woman, it is hypothesized that Olive was the primary inspiration for the wildly popular, and controversial, comic book character who arrived on the American scene in 1941—just three years after Superman.

Wonder Woman was a radical, revolutionary kind of comic book that initially struck his partners as preposterous. But William, who wrote Wonder Woman under a pseudonym, was obviously onto something profoundly compelling. In the 1940s, the American public desperately wanted—without even knowing it—a sexy, scantily clad, powerful heroine who arrived mysteriously from an island of Amazons to “kill Nazis” and struggle for peace, justice, and women’s rights. Wonder Woman was subjected frequently to villainous sadomasochistic encounters—which alarmed the critics—and her powers were neutralized when men placed her in chains. But she always emerged victorious in the end.

William Moulton Marston died in 1947. He left behind two brilliant lovers, both in mourning, their lives forever intertwined. He lived long enough to see mass burnings of comic books in the U.S. but was spared the Warner Brothers’ backlash against his feminist message—and against his lurid exploration of bondage and discipline. In the 1950s and 1960s, Wonder Woman lost her edge completely; she was portrayed as a babysitter, a fashion model, a movie star, and a desperate gal obsessed with marriage. Fortunately, Ms. magazine and the “Women’s Lib” movement brought her back to life in the 1970s, and Lynda Carter took her to primetime television. Since then, the world’s most celebrated female superhero has been with us more or less as William, Elizabeth, and Olive imagined her. Against all odds, Wonder Woman slips her chains and runs away; in a state of compulsion, we cannot help but follow….

Monday, August 19, 2019

IQ rates are dropping in many developed countries - Social Settings?

IQ's are dropping and it does reflect society today pointing at peoples decision making skills is diminished shown by the crimes today running around being stupid and everything bad.

Like my college professor said education is like the water that covers the poop in the toilet the less you have the more the poop comes out making the surroundings nasty! But why is there less water? Is it our current social settings? It has many leads saying so!

~~~~~IQ rates are dropping in many developed countries and that doesn't bode well for humanity. People are getting dumber. That's not a judgment; it's a global fact. In a host of leading nations, IQ scores have started to decline.

Though there are legitimate questions about the relationship between IQ and intelligence, and broad recognition that success depends as much on other virtues like grit, IQ tests in use throughout the world today really do seem to capture something meaningful and durable. Decades of research have shown that individual IQ scores predict things such as educational achievement and longevity. More broadly, the average IQ score of a country is linked to economic growth and scientific innovation.

So if IQ scores are really dropping, that could not only mean 15 more seasons of the Kardashians, but also the potential end of progress on all these other fronts, ultimately leading to fewer scientific breakthroughs, stagnant economies and a general dimming of our collective future.
https://www.nbcnews.com/think/opinion/iq-rates-are-dropping-many-developed-countries-doesn-t-bode-ncna1008576

~~~~~Why do people leave children in hot cars? There's science behind it, researchers say. Every nine days, a child left in a hot car dies from heatstroke. Usually, it's the tragic result of a caretaker having a temporary, but common, stress-related memory failure. According to a national count of incidents, North Carolina ranks No. 6 in the country for the number of deaths since 1991 due to children being left in hot cars.

Neuroscientist David Diamond, psychology professor at the University of South Florida, studied the science behind forgotten baby syndrome.

"This is clearly related to the competition between the different brain memory systems," Diamond said. "We have a powerful autopilot brain memory system that gets us to do things automatically -- and in that process we lose awareness of other things in our mind, including that there's a child in the car."

According to Diamond, the part of the brain that interferes with our conscious awareness, like that our child is in the backseat, is called the basal ganglia.

"We have a memory system which is very primitive, and it allows us to do things subconsciously, automatically," Diamond said. "It allows us to go straight from home to work without thinking about it. This is called the basal ganglia...and it actually suppresses our conscious memory system. So that's why we go straight from work to home, and then realize once we get home and look in the refrigerator that we have forgotten to get the groceries because the basal ganglia can take over and suppress our hippocampus memory system."
https://www.wral.com/why-do-people-leave-children-in-hot-cars-there-s-science-behind-it-researchers-say/18531313

~~~~~Multitasking makes you stupid, studies find. Several scientific studies around the world have concluded the brain doesn't switch tasks like an expert juggler. Quite the opposite. It can reduce your IQ by as much as 10 points, cause mental blanks and reduce your productivity by 40 per cent.

What about women? They're legends at multitasking and concentrating on several things at once. Nope. Not a single psychological study concludes women are better at multitasking than men, and some research indicates they can be worse.
https://www.sltrib.com/news/education/2018/02/09/hate-has-regional-roots-in-poverty-and-lack-of-education-say-university-of-utah-researchers

~~~~~Trooper finds driver stopped on shoulder using eight phones for 'Pokemon Go'
A Washington State Patrol trooper checking on what he thought was a disabled vehicle discovered the driver had pulled over to play Pokemon Go -- on eight phones.
https://www.upi.com/Odd_News/2019/08/19/Trooper-finds-driver-stopped-on-shoulder-using-eight-phones-for-Pokemon-Go/2941566224748/?lh=6

~~~~~Study finds poverty reduces brain power. Poverty and the all-consuming fretting that comes with it require so much mental energy that the poor have little brain power left to devote to other areas of life, according to the findings of an international study published on Thursday.

The mental strain could be costing poor people up to 13 IQ (intelligence quotient) points and means they are more likely to make mistakes and bad decisions that amplify and perpetuate their financial woes, researchers found.
https://www.reuters.com/article/us-poverty-brain/study-finds-poverty-reduces-brain-power-idUSBRE97S10W20130829

***"Mistakes and bad decisions" is from having a lower IQ from what everything that caused it. And that like said is like the water that covers the poop in the toilet and the bad pops up more!

~~~~~Hate has regional roots in poverty and lack of education, say University of Utah researchers. Across the United States, hate groups are most active in areas with lower levels of education and ethnic diversity and a higher prevalence of poverty and conservative politics, according to a new study by geographers at the University of Utah.

But a closer analysis of individual U.S. counties reveals varied and unique regional patterns to what drives hate-group activity, the U. researchers found.

“There is no one specific cause of hate, though generally speaking, it typically stems from fear,” says their study, published Friday in Annals of the American Association of Geographers. “… Fear of change, fear of marginalization, fear of resource loss. These fears are different based on place.”

Hateful activity drops off, for example, as religious participation increases in areas along the West Coast and in the Intermountain West, the study found. Yet in the central and southeastern U.S. and along the East Coast, higher levels of religious faith correlate with more hate.
https://www.sltrib.com/news/education/2018/02/09/hate-has-regional-roots-in-poverty-and-lack-of-education-say-university-of-utah-researchers

A school is only good as the social environment it has around it

A school is only good as the social environment it has around it. Getting kids ready for the changing job skills  (The knowledge economy) with them at a high disadvantage ending in the rich having no one to hire letting the poor bring them down to their level is a true issue! Its a labor force issue! The environment being education is for the rich people not the poor limiting growth!

Who will have the job skills in a future where the jobs the kids will be going into does not exist yet if the kids are living in poverty? Good test scores are not going be there as it's like in high stakes testing vs being low in poverty is like being in a car race with people that walk without cars because they can't afford one or drive unsafe car with no bumper! You know what will happen. Expect low until the environment changes with better foundation raising minimum wage keeping the safety net, enforcing unions than people getting the lowest everything they can get pushing more minimum wage retirees living with nothing so they have nothing as you spend what you earn. And so to say you get what you pay for. Pay low get low!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Knowledge_economy

~~~~~POVERTY AND SCHOOL FUNDING: WHY LOW-INCOME STUDENTS OFTEN SUFFER.

While the current U.S. economy continues to improve, there is one area that is still feeling the squeeze from the recession years: K-12 public school spending. Recently, the Center on Budget and Policy Priorities found that 34 states are contributing less funding on a per student basis than they did prior to the recession years. Since states are responsible for 44 percent of total education funding in the U.S., these dismal numbers mean a continued crack down on school budgets despite an improving economy.  In extreme cases, like in Philadelphia and Chicago, individual districts have had to tap into other money and reserves to cover the basics of public education in their areas.

Low-Income Students Hardest Hit

This is a particular blow to areas with high rates of poverty.  Students in these areas not only suffer from lack of resources at home, but their schools must also scrape by on the minimum. It’s not a secret that poverty is a major problem in the United States.  The middle class seems to be disappearing and the gap is widening between the upper class and the lower class sectors of society.  The socioeconomic status of children and their families has a profound effect on the children’s education, even in a country that prides itself on equal opportunity and fair treatment of all.  Funding to low-income Title I schools has decreased since 2010 and a number of states have cut pre-K educational per student funding in recent years and many have had to reduce enrollment numbers.

In practical terms, these findings make sense. Property taxes pay much of public education costs and that revenue source is still low. Overall, the Center on Budget and Policy Priorities found that districts collected just over 2 percent lower on property taxes ending in March than in the year before. Furthering the problem is the fact that while states have been cut throat in reducing spending, they have not been as vigilant in raising revenue sources through taxes and fees.

Not Just a Student Problem

Less state spending on education certainly affects the learning experience but it also impacts other areas of the economy. Unemployed teachers and administrators have less to pump back into the economy and the viscous cycle of K-12 underfunding is furthered.  While unemployment is a factor in poverty for some, there are many who are employed and still live below the poverty line. A higher level of education is needed for high paying jobs that can support a family.  It is difficult to support a family with a minimum wage job, even when working full-time.  The conundrum is furthered when school funding is diminishing—removing one more source of hope for ending the cycle.

Children living in poverty often come to school without having had enough sleep, and without having had breakfast.  They often experience family violence, abuse, secondhand smoke, neglect, poor clothing and shoes.  Even though they have limited experiences in the world, they may not be able to pay for field trips and cannot pay for extracurricular activities of any kind, which could actually expand their experience base.  This is the frightening reality for millions of children, and teachers are very likely to have impoverished students in their class.  But, without the necessary resources to address these concerns, little improvement will be seen.

If we cannot fully fund our public schools how can we expect things like the achievement gap to close or high school graduation rates to rise? It was understandable that budgets had to be slashed when the bottom dropped out of the economy but now that we are in a more stable place, it is time to get back to funding what matters most: the education of our K-12 students.
https://www.theedadvocate.org/poverty-and-school-funding-why-low-income-students-often-suffer