Monday, January 29, 2018

Lovers In A Dangerous Time



Being in love in a dangerous time. I am talking about coming out Polyamorous!
And for the effort to do so on what agreements who is who to who. What is needed and
why. The point is to accept the needs and just doing it! Sitting all down doing a
relationship contract and a NDA to know the point of it and to build trust in all.
The NDA's time should be fading out as there should be more coming out
as the value of having a lover who makes you norm is worth being out as
the value of hiding is not healthy to your mental health. Open about it!
But the NDA is to protect all from the stupid around you till they grow up!

Lovers, love and that is really what matters building trust in each other and
growing! Being lovers in a dangerous time!

~~~~~Why be out?
When a person wears a wedding ring and says in casual conversation “My wife and I went to dinner last night,” that person is validating those social conventions. He could say that it’s nobody’s business how he conducts his romantic affairs, of course; but the simple act of wearing a wedding ring is a public declaration of a very specific kind of relationship. And it’s hard to talk about the things we do, even casually, without talking about the people we do them with, and what those people’s relationships are to us.

When folks at poly get-togethers talk about being closeted, by far and away the most common thing they talk about is being afraid of other people’s reactions to learning the truth. Essentially, it boils down to a very simple idea: “I want to control information so as to control the way people interact with me.” The fear of being shunned, and the extent to which people are willing to jump through hoops to control information and to create the impression of normalcy in order to avoid that fear, is sometimes quite remarkable.

I’ve never had the fear of how people will react to me for being polyamorous (or kinky or anything else). I’d like to think it’s because I’m, like, all evolved and stuff, but it’s really a lot simpler. I know what it’s like to be totally alienated from my peers. I know that I can survive it. I know that I can create my own social circles and my own family. I’ve met that monster under the bed. It has no power over me. If there’s a monster under my bed, it better pay me rent, just like anyone else living here.

I realize that I am in a privileged position about this. I work for myself; I don’t have to worry about a conservative employer firing me if they find out how I live my life. I’m not in the military. (Under the Uniform Code of Military Justice, adultery is a crime, punishable by dishonorable discharge, prison, or both.) I am not financially dependent on a family that would disown me if they found out. I don’t have children who might be vulnerable to being taken away, or an ex-spouse who can use polyamory against me in a custody hearing.

So I can be open about who I am, and I don’t have to worry about suffering for it.

And that’s kind of the point.

In a world where it really was nobody’s business how we conduct our private lives, nobody would have to worry about these things. Nobody would have to worry about getting fired or getting a dishonorable discharge or losing children because of being polyamorous. The fact that there are people who do have to worry about these things means that much of the world tries to make it their business how we conduct our romantic lives.

Polyamory, and homosexuality, and BDSM, and all kinds of other non-socially-sanctioned relationship structures are perceived negatively in part because people don’t often see them, and it’s easier to vilify something that you don’t see every day. Like the racists in Venango who’d never laid eyes on a black person, when you don’t have the experience of seeing something yourself, it’s easier to project all your own fears onto it.

When those of us who have a privileged enough position to be able to live openly choose to do so, we help create a visible face for polyamory that makes it that little bit harder for others to vilify or marginalize us. So in that sense, it very much is other people’s business what I get up to; by creating institutions that can be used against folks who are polyamorous, they’ve made it that way, whether we like it or not. By creating the social expectation that people in officially sanctioned relationships can advertise their relationship status but people who aren’t, can’t, they’ve made it that way. 

Columnist Dan Savage started a campaign aimed at teen gays and lesbians called “It Gets Better.” Part of the campaign is to do exactly what is talked about in this essay: namely, to speak up when we see something wrong.

If the alienated, disenfranchised me from 1977 could see the me from 2012, he’d be amazed. The person I am today is the person the elementary-school version of me fantasized about being, and more.

But it took a lot of work to get here. And that’s why it matters. By being open about who I am, not only do I live my life without compromise, exactly the way I want to; I help make it that much easier for other people who, right now, don’t have a social group where they belong. I think that everyone who, like me, is in a position to be able to be out without risk, does a service to others by choosing to be so. It does get better, because we make choices that help make it better.

Sunday, January 28, 2018

Wolf moons and the Triad moons



This year in January is a odd time! The full moon on the first of the year
is called by the Native Americans is called a Wolf moon! The wolves are out!
This month there are two! And also they are many, a triad!
Super Moon, Blue moon, Blood moon! And two wolfs watching!
"Blue moon, Super moon and blood moon combine to create moment not 
seen in the skies in more than 150 years."

What is it to see a Wolf? "Sensitivity about feelings of threat."

~~~~~Hoping for the best change! I was driving with my EX wife 
once and we saw a wolf on the side of the road. "Sensitivity about feelings of threat."
Aka change! I was with my EX wife and was in the middle again of our on and 
off again bounces with my Cherokee girlfriend... Threat! Ouch! 
I still love both, I'M poly and responsible! 
http://www.spiritanimal.info/wolf-spirit-animal
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2017/02/recurring-numbers-and-48.html

So because of the The Wolf Moons and a "super blue blood moon" for the 

new year in 2018 Jan 1 and Jan 31 this is something that does need to be noted 
as a hope of soul mates connecting or something outrageous and needed!
Change is needed and accepted!
https://www.timeanddate.com/astronomy/moon/wolf.html

~~~~~'Super blue blood moon': stargazers prepare for rare celestial event
A rare celestial event will grace the skies during the coming week when a blue moon and lunar eclipse combine with the moon being at its closest point to Earth, resulting in what is being called a “super blue blood moon”.

The trifecta will take place on 31 January and will be best visible from the western hemisphere. The last time the three elements combined at the same time was in 1866.

A “super blue blood moon” is the result of a blue moon – the second full moon in a calendar month – occurring at the same time as a super moon, when the moon is at perigee and about 14% brighter than usual, and a so-called blood moon – the moment during a lunar eclipse when the moon, in the Earth’s shadow, takes on a reddish tint.

Stargazers living in the US will be able to see the eclipse before sunrise on Wednesday, according to Nasa. For those in the Middle East, Asia, eastern Russia, Australia and New Zealand, the event will be visible during moonrise on the morning of 31 January.

“For the [continental] US, the viewing will be best in the west,” said Gordon Johnston, program executive and lunar blogger at Nasa. “Set your alarm early and go out and take a look.”
https://www.theguardian.com/science/2018/jan/28/super-blue-blood-moon-stargazers-gear-up-for-rare-celestial-event

Friday, January 26, 2018

Life is short, What runs your life, In the crossroads



There is the point to ask what is your insanity and to know why you
disable yourself being that way. Crossing the path to better living
is the road you may not see. In that crossroad listen to yourself!

Question what you learn because in life that helps in all ways.
Me? In High School I set my own alarm waking myself up for school
and I once went to the principal to gripe about my Teacher not teaching me enough.
So from that in college I learned you get what you put into it!
So I jumped into it! Reflecting about your road in life to say actions has others.
The Butterfly effect your insanity how it effects you and others down the road.

My past girlfriends kid got into trouble with drugs before.
We had to pick him up from jail after we got off work.
Him and her had that talk as where in the car driving home.
Him and her had that battle about being the jail life of being
someones bitch... In that never works talking about that.
So I stepped in pointing what he was doing was effecting his mom
and there needs to be a point to think about the actions of what he does.

There is that time to bust through it and fly like the Phoenix to the future
because life is too short for you and others!

Wednesday, January 24, 2018

Airplanes fly over walls, Trump’s Walls



There is a good question to ask when you went on vacation in your past
did you walk there? No not really! I guess you more likely went to a
airport to get on a plane to fly over to where you want to go.
I don't think Americans with their family would walk across
the desert going into Mexico. Well it's hot and they might die as most would.
Ah no fuck it lets go to the airport and fly there.
If you fly into Mexico well so do they fly into America over there!
And if you build the wall more would fly also because of it!

And so if people are that deficient where they can't figure that out
then what are they doing making laws for you?
It's more to the point of Trump and the backward thinkers making laws
for you like you can't think for yourself!

Like a woman saying thank you Mr Trump I didn't need to have
the rights to my own body, what was I thinking! Or a gay person not wanting
to have rights so they can harassed by small town xenophobic people
because they would look forward to it!

More reflecting for the need to go backward where life was bad,
hunting your own food where people struggled to make it, living
in their own personal hell and expecting others to be there also.
A speed bump for society as it slows progress! Sort of like the dark ages
where things where dark because of the lack in enlightenment!
Where most of those people died in a cornfield with no one knowing
who they were just some worker! Well what farmer is in the history books?

There is that time to not let these small town minded people in high office
to not make laws based on their xenophobia as it makes others pay for it!

~~~~~No, Mexico Is Not Paying For Trump’s Wall -- You Are
Remember that multi-billion-dollar “great wall” that presidential candidate Donald Trump said Mexico would pay for?

Well, it turns out that under President Donald Trump, you, the American taxpayer, will be paying for it instead.

A promise that Trump made the day he rode down his escalator in Trump Tower to announce his candidacy and then repeated, in city after city, has quietly fallen by the wayside. Proposals floated recently by the administration and congressional leaders vary from spending $1.6 billion in the coming year to start building the wall to the $20 billion that Senate Democratic leader Chuck Schumer offered to support last week.

So far, none of those plans appears to include any language that would seek reimbursement of the cost from Mexico, whose leaders have stated flatly that they would not be paying.

Trump’s chief of staff, John Kelly, conceded as much during a Fox News interview last week. “In one way or another, it’s possible that we could get the revenue from Mexico but not directly from their government,” he said.

He added that the U.S. could possibly recover some money through visa fees or through the ongoing renegotiations of the North American Free Trade Agreement. Kelly also said Trump’s thoughts about the wall were not “fully informed” during the campaign, and that the president had subsequently “adjusted” his views.

Trump, presumably in response to Kelly’s remarks to Fox and his reported statements to Democratic lawmakers earlier that Trump had “evolved” from his original position, insisted that his views on the wall had not changed one bit.

“The Wall is the Wall, it has never changed or evolved from the first day I conceived of it,” he wrote on Twitter the following morning.

Trump’s White House did not respond to queries about the issue.

Republicans who worked for Trump’s rivals during the presidential primary campaign said he got away with his “making Mexico pay” promise because no one took it seriously.

“It was just another laugh line,” said Rick Tyler, who worked for Texas Sen. Ted Cruz. “This is a great publicity stunt gone awry.”

“We thought it was preposterous,” said John Weaver, who ran Ohio Gov. John Kasich’s campaign, adding that he was more dismayed that Republicans in Congress went along with the idea.

“It’s one thing for this knucklehead to come down the escalator and say Mexico is going to pay for the wall. It’s another thing for these members of Congress to agree with him,” Weaver said. “Yeah, he’s a fool. But what are they?”

Unlike many of his campaign positions that were drafted weeks or months into his presidential run, Trump’s promise to build a structure along the southern border was central to his June 2015 candidacy announcement.

“I would build a great wall, and nobody builds walls better than me, believe me, and I’ll build them very inexpensively,” Trump boasted. “I will build a great, great wall on our southern border. And I will have Mexico pay for that wall. Mark my words.”

That vow drew an enthusiastic response, and Trump began including it in his standard stump speech. Often it would be in a call-and-response format, with Trump asking: “Who’s going to pay for the wall?” and the crowd shouting: “Mexico!”

Over the coming months, Trump explained that his wall would be at least 30 feet tall, and extend deep underground to prevent people from tunneling underneath it. At a December 2015 visit to Manassas, Virginia, Trump even went into construction details.

“It’s going to be made of hardened concrete, and it’s going to be made out of rebar. That’s steel,” Trump said in response to a boy’s question. “And we’re going to set (the rebar) in nice, heavy foundations.”

Trump’s commitment to forcing Mexico to pay, though, was called into question in August 2016 during his visit to that nation to meet with its president, Enrique Peña Nieto. The Mexican leader said later that he brought up the topic and stated clearly that Mexico would not pay for the wall, and that Trump did not try to pursue the matter.

And when the two leaders spoke by phone just a week into the Trump administration a year ago, Trump reportedly acknowledged that Mexico wouldn’t pay for the wall but asked Peña Nieto not to mention that publicly, so as to avoid embarrassing the new U.S. president.

“You cannot say anymore that the United States is going to pay for the wall. I am just going to say that we are working it out,” Trump said, according to a leaked transcript of the call. “Believe it or not, this is the least important thing that we are talking about, but politically this might be the most important (thing to) talk about.”

Since then, though, Trump has returned to claiming that Mexico would pay for the wall’s construction -– “in some fashion.”

“Mexico will pay. In some form, Mexico will pay for the wall,” Trump told reporters at a recent meeting with GOP lawmakers at the presidential retreat at Camp David.

Trump did not elaborate, so what precisely that “form” would be remains unclear.

Tyler said he doesn’t think any of those details matter. Most of the country dislikes and distrusts Trump, while his hardcore base of support ― the 25 to 30 percent of the nation that polls show still supports him strongly ― isn’t really interested in a wall as much as an end to undocumented immigration, Tyler said.

“They don’t care. His base is a group that feels like the reason their wages haven’t gone up all these years is illegal immigration and bad trade deals,” Tyler said. “That’s what they’ve been led to believe.”
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/trump-wall-taxpayers_us_5a676f92e4b0022830072ccf

Tuesday, January 23, 2018

The Cliff Of Normality

Walking down the path of life have you ever asked what is normality?
Normality is "The property of conforming to a norm." So what is norm
and why would you want to be norm?

All of this is just a point of thinking what is the prime point of the issue.
As in you have "a cliff of insanity" , but that is not the point as you really
have "a cliff of normality!" Insanity is just a personal / social conflict depending
on how far or how detrimental to society it is. Well you have to be fair to others
and if they are ok with it accepting it then it's not detrimental.

Balance is what you seek no mater how awkward it is anyway.
The point is to fix it as the point is to make life better!
About acceptance and if something is not there causing a
non acceptance then that is your cliff on insanity.

Having Normality is not really norm anyway!
"Deviancy? That is like the road less traveled.
And so is deviancy is the best environment for personal growth."

"In any given moment we have two options:
to step forward into growth or to step back into
safety." - Abraham Maslow

"A marriage can be like inbreeding the chromosomes are the same with
less diversity, sickly! Sometimes you need to add more chromosomesIn
to the mix for more support!"

And so is the point of normality mostly in the term "assimilation (sociology)"
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Normality
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Assimilation_(sociology)

"Cultural assimilation is the process by which a person's or group's culture come to
resemble those of another group. The term is used to refer to both individuals and
groups; the latter case can refer to either foreign immigrants or native residents that
come to be culturally dominated by another society."

Are you willing to just dissolve your life in normality sort of reflecting
the times of the dark ages where there where plenty workers that died
in the fields with no one knowing who there where.
Like spending all of your life at your desk then dying only to
be buried in the back with your desk!

No! I think I would step out in life like many did in history
and make a mark in history like they did in the past!
Catherine the great or Catherine the mediocre, what do you want?

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
The mediocre mind is incapable of understanding the man who refuses to bow
blindly to conventional prejudices and chooses instead to express his opinions
courageously and honestly." - Albert Einstein

~~~~~What Really is Normality?
In terms of nature, every person is born with a set of emotions, for example: love, jealousy, anger, etc. Although it is considered normal to possess such qualities, the issue arises over the matter of expressing these emotions. How far can a person go in expressing their anger while staying in the realm of normality? Who draws that boundary? It is all based on perception and opinion. It is impossible to create a universal definition of normality. Therefore, I put forward the idea that since each person is, by nature, distinct, no one should be dictated to ‘act normal’- in this case we will use the general definition of normal, that only one who conforms to societal norms is considered normal.

When everyone is born different, why should we not strive act differently rather than attempt to imitate others? By encouraging this perceived normal behavior, we suppress the mindset of individuals. They are forced to think and work inside the framework created by society- to adopt similar ideas, beliefs and professions. This creates imbalance in society, as the extremes would not exist. What would happen to the exceptional people if everyone is expected to act normal? The uniqueness of each individual becomes suppressed by society. If, contrarily, people are encouraged to act differently, we can have a range of different ideas and theories. Adopting the perceived ‘normal’ behavior makes our lifestyles monotonous and repetitive. What would differentiate each person from the next?

I believe that people must fill all sides of a scale, the “normal” center and two extremes on either end- this creates a balance. Individuals must be fostered to think differently, and new ideas will flourish.  Let us not use the ‘cookie-cutter’ mentality; individuals cannot simply be shaped according to what the society perceives to be normal, leaving out those with conflicting views and ideas as outcasts. The idea of normality is an illusion – each member of society, by nature, is different and distinct in their own way. This diversity is what makes societies great.
http://disinfo.com/2016/01/what-is-normality

Also relating is the story or point of "Rounded Are The Rocks"
Noting the point of "Normality is a paved road: It's comfortable 
to walk but no flowers grow on it."

Rounded are the rocks upon the beach
That take the pounding of the waves
It never ceases, never stops
The crashing sounds of thunderous water as it hits
Against the shore
Only to pound once more

Silently and safely quiet
Far from shoreline battle fronts
All is well and no one thinks
Of danger ever lurking here Peaceful inlet well protected
The rocks are sharp and unaffected
There's no pounding waves to round them
Only bleeding feet have found them.

Thursday, January 18, 2018

Sorry but I run because life is too short

As many know I am a lover of life and I see love as no boundaries.
No matter how fucked up it might seem... In value life is short for not
being fucked up. My past loves where far out there, so the value of love,
love missed and regret, rules. I have to teach for others to know to make that effort!
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2017/09/where-have-i-been-mirror-mirror-on-rocks.html

Why? I talked to a girl at work about a half hawk once. And she smiled at me.
You have to understand I fall in love easy! She was 18 and so I thought about it
she was young for me but that was ok. Well in reality I should of hooked up with
her because she ended up being killed. This is one of those things that
is in my life the asked question, would I of saved her if she was with me?
Yes I would of put her in a better environment. I didn't know at the time but it hurts!

Thinking about something without emotions blocking the thought.
I hit on a lady once only afterwards finding out she is going through a divorce.
I didn't know! But I hope thinking about it she knows she has value and not
a piece of crap. Damn she was not even divorced yet and has a guy interested!
Damn she's good! But life is strange like that! I am interested! 
We both hurt and life is too short!

I also fell for another lady that I got hit by cupid with I seen her jump up and
down venting a few times. I was in a room once and I heard her walk on a cat
walk outside the building I knew it was her I recognized her walk. My ears got 
pointed and my tail got fluffy! I pulled up my pants and said hi when she came in
the building. As she was leaving I asked her if she was coming back to my building. 
Yes I was begging her. Please come back!!! It's love!

As for me I still support my EX wife being her life is too short. She is 73 and has 
health issues so she may not be around long. She is my EX and we don't get along but
I support her. Love is not finite. I'm 48!

And I also fell for a married gypsy lady, that I need in my life also. 
She ran over my toes and almost me by accident. And appropriately
I got on my knees and begged her to come back, I love her!
It brings up the point when is my time up? Life is short to not love!

Polyamory! Life is too short to put boundaries on love, you are just hurting
yourself and others also. There is the point to love and support being it's worth!
No man is an island. No one is self-sufficient; everyone relies on others.
We all are not islands! Deep and needed things to think about as the song.

Beastie Boys to publish long-awaited memoir and Brass Monkey



There is always the point to treat others fair and the Beastie Boys brings up that point 
from time to time! I remember the song Brass Monkey when I was a dishwasher. 
A worker brought his boombox once and played that tape. The song always hit me 
as funny, working as a dishwasher with dishes flying everywhere!

 ~~~~~Beastie Boys to publish long-awaited memoir
The two remaining members of the Beastie Boys, Michael “Mike D” Diamond and Adam “Ad-Rock” Horovitz, are to publish a memoir chronicling the history of the New York hip-hop trio.

The publication follows a 2013 book deal. In an interview on Beats 1, Diamond said: “Like many things we embark on, there are many false starts and, honestly, [there were] directions we went in that we realised were not the directions we should be going in.” He said the book will finally be published in autumn 2018.

He said it would be “unlike any other music book”, and gave hints as to what it might contain: “To tell our story, we have to give the cultural history of where we came from. New York City in the 80s, you had all these incredible, exciting music, art, film. All of that sort of has to converge to be able to explain [our story]. We just had the good fortune of being around all of it, so I think that’s number one.” Diamond added: “It’s kinda surreal what happens in bands’ lives, so you have to use all dimensions to tell the story more accurately.”

The core lineup of the Beastie Boys, with Diamond, Horovitz and Adam “MCA” Yauch – who died of cancer in 2012 aged 47 – formed in 1983, and blended punk-rock with hip-hop to become one of the most original and beloved rap groups of all time. Their albums Licensed to Ill, Ill Communication, Hello Nasty and To the 5 Boroughs reached No 1 in the US, and they have sold more than 50m albums worldwide.

In 2014, Diamond said the band was effectively over following Yauch’s death. “We have not been able to tour since MCA, Adam Yauch, died,” he said. “We can’t make new music.”
https://www.theguardian.com/music/2018/jan/18/beastie-boys-to-publish-long-awaited-memoir

Monday, January 15, 2018

Your Keys in a Fishbowl, Swinging



Back in the 90's I worked in a hotel. I found out about a swingers club. 
I called their number a few times wanting to see what it was about without knowing 
what would happen. No answer! Being in a hotel I would of fit in. Like in the 
"What happens in the hotel stays in the hotel." 
I was known from the hotel so I was ok!

Or "If it happens keep it there, don't take it to work!" I worked at a country club
for a bit. I had that talk with the banquet manager and got to read "The black book."
It is just rules for relations. As in I was warned about if a rich lady wanted to take me
to Hedonism III it was up to me but "If it happens keep it there, don't take it to work!"
Many rich women went there with a once a year lover "To get their oats" as I was told!
Well I was young with a butt and so they expected something would happen so
they warned me because of all the money in the country club. Bragging $1 billion
of worth and so if I get shagged by a rich lady "Shh Bby Is Ok!" it might be bad
ruffling feathers depending who or who's might be bad so shh! 
It was ok and expected. Nothing happened, sad, sad... but now I know! 
They where protecting the club!
http://knowyourmeme.com/memes/shh-bby-is-ok
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedonism_Resorts

At the hotel I worked at I heard from another hotel worker about something called 
the "Concorde Club" in Oklahoma. AKA Swingers club. At the time people where
partying like it's 1999! And this was just another funny thing going on at the time 
to me.

I was cleaning up after a banquet and the mic was still on and running, 
so with no customers in the room just workers I got on the mic and said,
"The first annual meeting of the Concorde Club is now in session
the honorable **** presiding!" and went boom, boom with a coffee cup.
This guy and his wife poked their heads in the room and looked at me he said
"He said it!" And she looked sort of disused and shocked that I said it.
I guess they knew about it also! It was just too funny for me but told them
sorry!

Also funny and close to the story here. I got a call from a worker at another hotel
laughing hysterically. His hotel had a something going on with ads in the paper etc.
"Swingers Club!" It was a swing dance club!!!! And he said people where comming
in looking around then they would leave. This was happening over and over again!
So he called me and I came over so see this and sure enough more people came in
and took off! It's just something that hit me as funny. People are human and
thats a good thing! Thinking about it they did have a Fishbowl at a table in front.
It was tickets for a prize but still! If I see a fishbow l can not say I won't 
drop my keys in it needing to hear that "Shh Bby Is Ok!"

~~~~~News blooper: Global Calgary anchors lose it over ‘swinging’ mistake
Global Calgary meteorologist Jordan Witzel could barely keep it together on 
Tuesday when he thought Canadians were being encouraged to swap sexual partners.

Witzel was introducing the ParticiPACTION 150 Play List activity of the day but became confused when he saw the activity was “swinging,” mistaking it for something other than the playground pastime.

Witzel’s mix-up caused anchors Scott Fee and Amber Schinkel to dissolve into laughter.
https://globalnews.ca/news/3541634/news-blooper-global-calgary-anchors-lose-it-over-swinging-mistake

Note, swingers is a "Is A Broad Umbrella Term." It's what the agreement is about.
Who, is who, to who. Swingers is not only sex as all things have a reason!
It needs to be looked at like group therapy as the point is to be better not worse!
http://www.cracked.com/blog/my-wife-i-are-swingers-heres-what-its-actually-like

Saturday, January 13, 2018

My past life memory relating to Cuttlefish behavior



This is something I do find funny. I have a past life memory as a fish!
A Pikaia from the Cambrian Period and more? Well yes I do!
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2013/11/my-past-life-memory-really.html

But also relating is my personality trait is plasticity! I change to needs and 
I'm entertaining in a challenge. Might be the same as the Cuttlefish
relating to my past life into today? 
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2016/09/visual-spatial-intelligence-test-or-who.html

Personality traits are the spice of life. As I say about myself a lot, my trait is being  
flexible sort of with plasticity! I change if needed to Alpha, Beta, Nu or Zeta.
I will fit in and if in a bad time I will be Alpha as in the time at a Hotel I worked at
the Banquet manager nicely quit and being she was also running the hotel and
being everyone was in a training camp in another state at the time, I kicked in!
Until they put the security guy in charge after his time off. But the boss let me 
run it till then. So yes I am capable from jumping from Zeta to Alpha,
boom if needed!
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/09/the-female-alpha.html

So relating to my past life memory and the trait of the Cuttlefish it seems
to reflect of how I am and for me i'm not surprised!

Also Psychedelics do make us grow. It helps to repair the brain or jump starts 
the brain in a early age in a therapist supervised session. 
Noting a homeless person slipped me LSD when I was a kid
I acknowledge that it might of helped me in my multiple intelligences that set
my thinking in a multiple format. Or brought me questions and set me on a path
as I wondered what the hell that was. Either way Growth!

Also as a kid I have to mention that when I was a kid my "Object Permanence" 
happened far sooner than expected. I am advanced in that cognitive stage when 
I was a kid. I remember playing ball and slightly seeing the ball go under a couch.
I knew it was out of sight so it was gone to me but also knew it went under there.
My first paradox in life!

So I put my hand under the couch not sure if my hand would disappear and I felt
something and I pulled it out and when I looked at it. It was my ball and at that 
moment it set off a something like a seizure. I remember shaking bad, like my 
neurons had a massive connection wire up at that moment, like a PC reboot. 
Boom, boom norm, just like that. 

We all have a bit of the Cambrian Period in us being the ability to
breath air. How did we breath air if there was nothing but fish in the sea
back then? Anyway these things make me ponder the meaning of life!

Friday, January 12, 2018

Sam's Club store closings

The wages are growing and so people spend what they earn.
Give times are changing as more people shop online more local
places, malls are not doing so well... Depending how brought up your town is.
If the people can afford the technology then they are more prone to have the money
and means to shop more online. Not so good for local sales.

But Walmart is closing Sam's clubs. Something relates if it's because of the cost
of Sam's club of the many not having the money to go there.
"Sam's Club is not a cheapest-of-the-cheap outlet. You need a membership to shop
there, a privilege that comes with a $45 yearly membership fee.
That's cheaper than Costco's $55 a year, but it's still an expense."
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/05/16/sams-club-vs-costco_n_5332306.html

But noted Walmart makes around $500 billion a year in sales so the point of hurting
because of the lack of sales is iffy! And Walmart can pay their workers $12 a hour
and have it covered by their sales revenue. You know the money Walmart makes
and so is the questions of what is going on.

I would advise Walmart in this time where the time for the wages to grow
for people to spend what they earn. Walmart needs to be more transparent
as people are watching what is going on!

~~~~~Sam's Club store closings are a PR mess on Walmart's big day
The company announced that it will raise its minimum wage to $11, hand out bonuses of up to $1,000 and expand its parental and maternity leave policy, partly as a result of the new lower corporate tax rate.

Ivanka Trump tweeted that "America is on a roll," and Treasury Secretary Steven Mnuchin thanked Walmart from the White House briefing room.

But while the praise was pouring in, something else was happening. According to local news reports, some workers and customers were showing up at Sam's Club, the buy-in-bulk warehouse owned by Walmart (WMT), to find stores had shut their doors.

On its big day, the largest private employer in America had a public relations mess on its hands.

News dribbled out on social media, where some people said they had been laid off suddenly. Some of the details were filled in by notices posted on state government websites in accordance with the Worker Adjustment and Retraining Notification Act. Only late in the day -- in a reply to a question someone asked on Twitter -- did Sam's Club say that 53 stores were closing and 10 being converted to fulfillment centers.

Throughout the day, Walmart did not make a public statement and did not return repeated requests for comment from CNNMoney. Then, on Thursday evening, the company released a statement revising the number of locations affected. It said 63 stores would be closed and up to 12 of those transformed into fulfillment centers.

Walmart still didn't say how many people were losing their jobs, but estimates that about 9,450 people are employed across the 63 locations.

"This is a fantastic example of a company just not realizing exactly how quickly information travels," said Ed Zitron, founder of the media relations company EZPR.

Executives may have figured that by not announcing the store closures, they could bury the news, he said.

"They're trying to pull the wool over people's eyes," he said. "They just made a rapid miscalculation."

On Twitter, customers demanded to know what would happen to their memberships. Sam's Club invited them to send a private message for help, and offered a prepared statement:

"After a thorough review of our existing portfolio, we've decided to close a series of clubs and better align our locations with our strategy."

Other details came out in pieces.

"Pharmacies will stay open for at least two weeks, and we will work with each state's Board of Pharmacy to help guide this transition," the company tweeted at one person. "You will also be contacted about your prescriptions and transitioning them to another club."

"Transforming our business means managing our real estate portfolio and Walmart needs a strong fleet of Sam's Clubs that are fit for the future," said John Furner, president and CEO of Sam's Club, in the statement. "We know this is difficult news for our associates and we are working to place as many of them as possible at nearby locations."

In its statement, Walmart said that affected employees will receive the bonuses, as well as 60 days of pay and severance if eligible.

Bryan Reber, a professor at the University of Georgia who studies crisis communication, said Walmart could have basked in a day of positive news coverage, but "now the whole focus of the story shifts."

"It seems like if you're going to combine the two, you would first shutter the stores and then try to shift focus by announcing the raises and the bonuses," he said. "But to do both in the same day seems baffling to me."

Ronn Torossian, CEO of the public relations agency 5WPR, disagreed. Sharing good news and bad news together softens the blow of the negative, he said. But he agreed that Walmart should have led with the store closures, and discussed the raises and bonuses later.

And Walmart should have put out news of the store closures themselves, rather than sporadically respond to Twitter questions, he said. Still, he thinks the bad press will blow over quickly: Many retailers are struggling, so news of store closings shouldn't come as a shock or be seen as unreasonable.

There's no easy way to lay people off, but "you have to communicate with people," added Thom Fladung, managing partner of Hennes Communications, which specializes in crisis communication. "You have to be available to answer their questions, even if it's painful."

Otherwise, people have to fill in the gaps themselves -- and that's bad for everyone.

"The result is a vacuum," he said, "and what fills a vacuum is anger and rumors."

Walmart representative Greg Hitt told CNNMoney that the company did not intend to make both announcements on the same day. "The tax issue has been a floating target for some time, in terms of when we would actually discuss it," he said. "Both of those actions or announcements originated in different parts of the business."

Hitt said he made the decision to stop responding to press until the company finished its press release. The company has no plans to share a list of store closures, he said.
http://money.cnn.com/2018/01/11/news/companies/walmart-sams-club-pr-mess/index.html

Thursday, January 11, 2018

Advisement Trump on Shithole Countries! Trump Burped his Ostomy Bag

Trump said himself:
Why do we want all these people from 'shithole countries'
coming here?

One person briefed on the meeting said when Durbin got to Haiti, Trump began to ask why we want people from Haiti and more Africans in the US and added that the US should get more people from countries like Norway.

A person familiar with what was said at the meeting told CNN that Trump also said: "Why do we need more Haitians? Take them out."
http://www.cnn.com/2018/01/11/politics/immigrants-shithole-countries-trump/index.html

I need to note about the Nordic model in that Trump said we need more people from
Norway in how the Republicans are is a paradox! Note what Trump said vs the
Nordic model. It's not reflecting what they want!

"While there are differences among different Nordic countries, they all share a broad
commitment to social cohesion, a universal nature of welfare provision in order to 
safeguard individualism by providing protection for vulnerable individuals and groups 
in society and maximizing public participation in social decision-making. 
It is characterized by flexibility and openness to innovation in the provision of welfare. 
The Nordic welfare systems are mainly funded through taxation."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nordic_model

So from that I need to bring up the quote on the statue of liberty!

"Not like the brazen giant of Greek fame,
With conquering limbs astride from land to land;
Here at our sea-washed, sunset gates shall stand
A mighty woman with a torch, whose flame
Is the imprisoned lightning, and her name
Mother of Exiles. From her beacon-hand
Glows world-wide welcome; her mild eyes command
The air-bridged harbor that twin cities frame.
“Keep, ancient lands, your storied pomp!” cries she
With silent lips. “Give me your tired, your poor,
Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free,
The wretched refuse of your teeming shore.
Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed to me,
I lift my lamp beside the golden door!”
https://www.howtallisthestatueofliberty.org/what-is-the-quote-on-the-statue-of-liberty

What Trump said is norm from many conservatives. It's very Xenophobic!
Noted in the over concern to build a wall in Mexico!
Why most go to Airports to fly over the wall into America and never come back.
The Wall really has no meaning. But it's why the need for the wall?
Drugs? Do you get drugs from a street dealer with the Mexico drugs or
do you go to the Doctor then a weed shop in America! Many now do
get the drugs from America!

Also I need to say that the American Indians should build a Wall
to keep us out. We are in their country, America by proxy belongs to the
Native Americans! We are the immigrants! Build the Wall!!!!!!

All is true and as a advisement the GOP, Republicans are not going to do
good next time around! As I say you cant have the good without the bad.
Sometimes you have to let the bad happen so it can be recognized of it's
worth and to expose the Trump supporters who thinks this is the best thing.
As they go off the cliff like the lemmings, it is best to let them.
In a way it's a cleansing of the temple thus making room for better things!
Lowering taxes all to the bottom so corporations blow up one by one!
You need to let the stupidity take itself out to rid of the wage bottleneck
and all the backward!

So all that Trump said, the GOP, Conservatives living acting in their
Xenophobia, Racist ways and or just bad gas needing deodorant!
Let them know!

It sucks to have that Burped Ostomy Bag full of the nasty Trump has.
Sucks but now you know! They can't help it but Trump can!

Wednesday, January 10, 2018

Blue Devil Cocktail Recipe for Unexpected Lovers


~~~~~HOW TO MAKE A BLUE DEVIL COCKTAIL
Ingredients

lime juice
confectioner sugar
1 oz light Bacardi Rum
1/2 oz blue curacao
1 oz orange juice
Directions

Rim a cocktail glass with the lime juice and confectioners sugar.
In a shaker filled with ice add the rum, curacao, and orange juice.
Shake until well chilled.
Pour into a cocktail glass filled with ice.
Garnish with a slice of lime.
https://flouronmyface.com/blue-devil-cocktail
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Curaçao_(liqueur)



A slice of lime for Unexpected Lovers...

VooDoo Woman, Catnip, Luck in Love Affairs, Irresistible and The Wolf Moons



I am a lover so in the point of me burning catnip here and there.
I was wondering what if the Gypsy lady I love at the time did have
Catnip in her pocket?  Oh yes, oh please but it's more than that!
(Humanism, metaphysics, quantum entanglement I don't know!)

"Really important meetings are planned by the souls long before the bodies 
see each other."

"Generally speaking, these meetings occur when we reach a limit, when we 
need to die and be reborn emotionally. These meetings are waiting for us, 
but more often than not, we avoid them happening. If we are desperate, 
though, if we have nothing to lose, or if we are full of enthusiasm for life, 
then the unknown reveals itself, and our universe changes direction."
Paulo Coelho 
https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/203508-really-important-meetings-are-planned-by-the-souls-long-before

So for me I don't know but I see it enough to take it as it is. Life is strange so.... 
I was at the store once and as I came around the aisle there was a lady
with wide eyes laughing at me. She just opened a bag of catnip before I came
around the corner!

VooDoo Woman? What ever it is the intent should be pure about love.
Things that take you higher on a different plane.
Love is for the better of the good and the catnip does what it does so well! So... 
If it helps keep the catnip in your pocket? I'm by your side!
"Attracted to you like a Cat to CATNIP."

It's about that Love and Belongingness!
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2017/08/her-dog-man-love-and-belongingness.html

Also because of the The Wolf Moons and a "super blue blood moon" for the 
new year in 2018 Jan 1 and Jan 31 this is something that does need to be noted 
as a hope of soul mates connecting or something outrageous and needed!
https://www.timeanddate.com/astronomy/moon/wolf.html

~~~~~Magickal Uses of Catnip
In Voodoo- CATNIP LEAVES are used by many folks for Luck in Love Affairs. CATNIP is called a Woman’s Love Herb because it is said to make women enticing and charming to thus to make men ready and increase their nature – and for this reason, we hear that women use it to aid in bringing about relations.  If you carry CATNIP in a flannel bag, the man you want will be attracted to you like a Cat to CATNIP. They also say that you can use it in an herbal bath, sprinkle it at the 4 corners of the bed, or burn it with incense to attract a new lover. Another way we have heard to employ it is to soak CATNIP LEAVES in whiskey and sprinkle the liquid on your doorstep for 21 days, starting on the full moon!

Remember that concentrating on your intentions when crafting magickal items imbues that piece with the magick. Catnip is also used in love spells, often as an ingredient in mojo bags or candle magick. Just as the cat finds this herb intoxicating and irresistible, so will the one you target in love magick, using catnip to draw them to you.



http://www.moongiant.com/Full_Moon_New_Moon_Calendar.php
http://herbalriot.tumblr.com/post/65354528719/magical-uses-of-catnip
http://herbalriot.tumblr.com/post/67666214156/magickal-uses-of-catnip

http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2014/12/healing-with-catnip.html

Why Conservatives Blame Poverty on the Poor and the DUR



There is always the need to be the thinking man. As in to question what
is said or what you where taught. All things happen for a reason.
To say "What it is, is what it is" is really stupid! There is the point to note
that you might be fucked! Might want to think about it! 
"Hold on a minute, somethings slapping my ass!"

Well all things happen for a reason, might we ask why!
Well like we need to know why that happen so it doesn't 
happen to us! Not to just look at it then just go on.
Well it would be disturbing to see people walking around 
with something slapping their ass!

Being like that keeps the issues going of your town not
being brought up yet! The wages dictates the town you live in. 
Small towns are small for a reason. Make nothing, got nothing.
If the wages don't grow nor does the town. Wages makes the town!

It's also like the term "Big City Bright Lights."
No! it has nothing to do with lights... It's about enlightenment!
Like the Dark Ages was not because it was dark with no lights!
Noting the lack of enlightenment is because they could never
afford it anyway. Grants and others do not pay for rent food etc.
There was a guy in college that found the holy grail. How to go to college
and not quit to get a job to pay the bills get food, rent. He saved up money
over years and became homeless living in a homeless center with no bills etc.
So in reality enlightenment cost money one way or another!
The wages comes first then the enlightenment!

But to ask why this is happening is needed and helps all vs not taking
everyone down with them!

~~~~~Why Conservatives Blame Poverty on the Poor
Scapegoat, prophet, moron, rogue—the poor white is a shapeshifter. He changes forms as the needs of his beholders change. When liberals need to blame a class for Donald Trump’s presidency, the poor white will do; never mind that two-thirds of all Trump supporters made $50,000 or more a year. When conservatives need to cast liberals as aloof elitists they appoint themselves the poor white’s defenders—until their ideology is threatened, and then it is time to take out the trash.

In a recent piece for National Review, Kevin Williamson chooses the latter, though he makes a few sound observations before settling on the poor-bashing. Central to Williamson’s argument is the existence of a phenomenon he calls “acting white,” a performative affect infecting the conservative class. This performance, he claims, assumes that authenticity “is not to be found in any of the great contemporary American business success stories, or in intellectual life, or in the great cultural institutions, but in the suburban-to-rural environs in which the white underclass largely makes its home.” It involves conservatives painting poor whites as this country’s principal victims and “valorizing” their “underclass dysfunction.”

There’s some validity to this observation. We can see it in the mutant campaign of Ed Gillespie, a moderate Republican who now panders to Trumpists so he can become Virginia’s governor. It is present in Roy Moore’s success in Alabama’s Republican primary for Senate, and it is embodied by Sarah Palin, who owes her lingering D-list celebrity status to a conservative movement once convinced of her blue collar bonafides. Beyond this, however, Williamson fears to tread. He will not indict the extreme free-market obsession rotting the conservative movement from the inside out, so the poor white must answer for his personal deficiencies.

“The more you know about that world, the less sympathetic you’ll be to it,” he asserts. “What the Trump-style would-be tribunes of the plebs most have in common with self-appointed progressive advocates for the poor is ignorance of the actual subject matter.” Once you know anything at all about that white underclass, he implies, you’ll be as harsh on them as he is.

Why the animosity? He gives up the game soon enough. “It weren’t the scheming Chinaman what stole ol’ Bubba’s job down Bovina, ‘cause ol’ Bubba didn’t really have him a job to steal,” he writes. “And it isn’t capitalism that made rural Appalachia or small-town Texas what it is.” But if the problem actually was capitalism, would Williamson be able to admit it?

When we speak of the American working class we speak mostly of people of color. There is a historical malice behind the idea that poverty is cultural, since it has been used as a tool to blame blacks and other minority groups for their own poverty. But that same malice is evident in cultural critiques of white poverty.

Williamson has earned praise for attacking the conservative fetishization of downscale white culture, but his underlying argument is not original. It’s a recitation of familiar conservative tropes. “People really do make decisions, and, whether they intend it or not, they contribute to the sometimes difficult conditions in which those decisions have to be made,” he argues.

As proof, he cites his mother and her poor life choices, which once kept him from his childhood home—a rhetorical sleight of hand that we could call the J.D. Vance maneuver, after the author of another book that castigates poor whites for being poor. Later, upon helping his mother and her fourth husband with their financials, Williamson found them in dire shape. “Of course they were almost dead broke—their bingo and cigarette outlays alone were crushing, and they’d bought a Cadillac and paid for it with a credit card,” he gripes.

Williamson glancingly acknowledges “external forces, economic and otherwise,” that might contribute to poverty, but asserts that it is not the case that the people he grew up with were “only leaves on the wind.” In downplaying those external forces, Williamson excludes a body of research on the relationship between poverty and poor decision-making skills. “In a series of experiments run by researchers at Princeton, Harvard, and the University of Warwick, low-income people who were primed to think about financial problems performed poorly on a series of cognition tests, saddled with a mental load that was the equivalent of losing an entire night’s sleep,” CityLab reported in 2013. “Being poor means, as the authors write, ‘coping with not just a shortfall of money, but also with a concurrent shortfall of cognitive resources.’” Poverty doesn’t make you stupid; in fact, surviving it requires a certain ingenuity. And that takes up space in the brain.

In an essay for Nautilus about his own impoverished upbringing, Christian Cooper cited emerging—and controversial—science about the epigenetics of poverty. The research is still in natal stages, but it has produced some early evidence that mothers can pass stress, including stress inflicted by poverty, to their children. “The uglier converse of the bootstrap hypothesis—that those who fail to transcend their circumstances deserve them—makes even less sense in the face of the grim biology of poverty,” he explained. “When the firing gun goes off, the poor are well behind the start line.”

Certain financial decisions, like the ones Williamson attributes to his mother, can certainly deepen poverty. But those decisions are rarely why a person enters poverty, and when the working poor can’t access a living wage or safe, affordable housing, credit cards look like an open door, not a trap.

The task of politics is to provide poor whites with the true reasons for their poverty, and with a means to address them. This is beyond the average conservative, as Williamson amply demonstrates. Conservatives like Williamson and J.D. Vance lean on cultural deficiencies because they’re convinced “it isn’t capitalism that made rural Appalachia or small-town Texas what it is.” At the heart of their arguments is a species of narcissism. I made it. I escaped poverty. Succeed by being like me. They are too personally invested in the myth of meritocracy to admit what the poor already know, which is that there’s no such thing.

“Feeding such people the lie that their problems are mainly external in origin—that they are the victims of scheming elites, immigrants, black welfare malingerers, superabundantly fecund Mexicans, capitalism with Chinese characteristics, Walmart, Wall Street, their neighbors—is the political equivalent of selling them heroin,” Williamson says. “The opposite message—that life is hard and unfair, that what is not necessarily your fault may yet be your problem, that you must act and bear responsibility for your actions—is what conservatism used to offer, before it became a white-minstrel show.”

So close, yet so deliberately far. Black welfare recipients aren’t the problem; Mexicans aren’t the problem; immigration isn’t the problem. But low wages, a shrinking safety net, subprime mortgages, unattainable health care, impoverished local schools, among all the other locks that trap the poor in place, can and should be pinned to the very system conservatives want to defend. Williamson fixates on the willful stupidity of the poor because he must. If he didn’t, he’d have to indict his own ideology.

Monday, January 8, 2018

Oprah for A New Day would be better



Oprah for president would be a good counteract for normality that Trump
fucked up! Oprah is forward thinking and is not unstable making everyone
worry about what is said on Twitter. For me I would like to see Oprah go for it!
Why? Look ahead to what we all will have to replace the aging politicians.
Oprah would be a good foundation for America for growth down the road!

It's not about illness or a lack of education keeping people from being the 
president there is always smart people advisers in the background running 
things. Trump has backward goals and people the same. It's about the goal!
Dur, the government is run not only by the president. It's about the goal!
No one is an island!

Oprah for President!
Not the Other New Day! 

I am ok with the A New Day because of not doing things that put us all
in a mess in the first place. There would be more growth with Oprah!
The point is to do better. What is better for the country!

~~~~~Sources: Oprah Winfrey 'actively thinking' about running for president
Oprah Winfrey is "actively thinking" about running for president, two of her close friends told CNN Monday.
http://money.cnn.com/2018/01/08/media/oprah-golden-globes/index.html

Sunday, January 7, 2018

Our Narcissist In Chief Trump

There are issues with the mentally ill, if it impedes your functioning
in society. The mentally ill do function in the world but then they
don't hold up the worlds biggest job with access to "The Red Button on the desk!"

Trump is ill he said it himself about being a germaphobe.
"At his first press conference since the election, President-elect Donald Trump batted
off allegations that Russia gathered potentially compromising information on him.
'I'm also very much of a germaphobe," Trump said. 'Believe me.'"
https://www.washingtonpost.com/video/politics/trump-says-he-is-very-much-of-a-germaphobe/2017/01/12/1e4af06c-d8b0-11e6-a0e6-d502d6751bc8_video.html

Being a germaphobe does not makes a bad President. In Americas past we had
many Presidents that had some kind of problem. Hover wore a dress, Coolidge
was a perv! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect
Clinton has his fun on his own private time. 

Mental illness or your education or other hard factors does not keep you
from being a president. There is always smart people you can hire, advisers
that runs the government full time. What matters is the effects of others,
not keeping what is around you stable. Not cutting taxes to people that need
their tax dollars to help pay the rent, electric bills food stamps etc, because they 
make children wages and are not able to function as norm relating to the
labor force. Low pay low everything! Why let the poor take you down with them?
Yes but to be the president you need to know if it didn't work all the times you
did it then don't do it! You just need to at the effect of actions, ask why is that?
Everything happens for a reason we might want to know so we don't do that again!
That is the lightning of a president able to think going forward not backward! 

~~~~~Our Narcissist In Chief
This past week, with “Fire and Fury,” Michael Wolff provoked a media tsunami by depicting a dangerously ignorant and volatile president. But, however intriguing, his anecdotes told us nothing new – except how late we were to confront the klieg-lit symptoms of instability radiating from Donald Trump.

They were always there ― Trump’s party and the media simply averted their eyes. Over 19 months ago, in these pages, I courted considerable controversy ― and journalistic opprobrium ― by warning that Donald Trump was ”too sick to lead.”

Why? By then Trump’s trajectory as America’s would-be president seemed too obvious to ignore.

“One can forecast,” I wrote in early June 2016, “the inevitable day-to-day damage to our country – the lashings out, the abuses of power, the mercurial and confidence-destroying lies and changes of mind, the havoc his distorted lens would wreak upon our institutions and our spirit. But most dangerous of all is the collision between a volatile world, a leader unable to perceive external reality, and the often unbearable pressures of the presidency. That Trump’s judgment would crack time and again is certain – the only question is how dangerous the moment.”

This was not augury. The behaviors, and the dangers they foreordained, were there for all to see. A lifetime of public statements and actions – and a year of campaigning for president – had painted an indelible portrait of a pathological narcissist whose inner landscape would never change.

The presidency has not transformed him; he has transformed the office. However defined, Trump’s sickness is now ours.
In light of this history, it seemed insufficient  for journalists to merely catalogue Trump’s behaviors as they occurred, isolating them from context. And it struck me as an outright disservice to normalize the abnormal by jamming him into the usual analytic boxes of strategy, political typology, tactical unorthodoxy, or even his intuitive grasp of how to transfix the media while touching the pulse of our discontents.

What then? Taking the man whole, I contended, ”[t]here is only one organizing principle which makes sense of his wildly oscillating utterances and behavior – the clinical definition of narcissistic personality disorder.”

Using the Mayo Clinic’s formulation, “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others,” the narrative began: “This is bad enough in selecting a spouse or a friend. But when applied to a prospective president, the symptoms are disqualifying.”

To now reread the behavioral markers I listed is eerie, for they could serve as a précis for Trump’s first year in office:

An exaggerated sense of self-importance. An unwarranted belief in your own superiority. A preoccupation with fantasies of your own success, power and brilliance. An unreasoning fury at people you perceive as thwarting your wishes or desires. A tendency to act on impulse…

A need to always be right. An inability to tolerate criticism or critics... A compulsion to conform your ever–shifting sense of “reality” to satisfy your inner requirements... A tendency to lie so frequently and routinely that objective truth loses all meaning.”

Particularly damning were psychological characteristics which, inevitably, would inflame already volatile situations while impairing Trump’s judgment in the crucible of crisis:

A belief that you are above the rules. An array of inconsistent statements and behaviors driven by your needs in the moment. An inability to assess the consequences of your actions in new or complex situations. In sum, an incapacity to separate the world from your own psychodrama.

If, as seemed apt, one ascribed these qualities to Trump, it was imperative to address the GOP’s delusional rationalization that Trump would “grow” in office or fulfill his risible promise to become more “presidential.” As I wrote then: “By the consensus of mental health experts, [his] emotional impairment has a last fatal ingredient – there is no cure. For a man like Donald Trump, life offers no lessons, no path forward save to continue as you have until, like Icarus, you fly too close to the sun.”

Finally, the argument distilled the “central problem of Trump’s warped psychology – he believes that filling the presidency requires nothing but the wonder of himself.”

In short, the guardrails were illusory. It required no great leap of imagination to foresee the potential tragedy a Trump presidency could visit on America: a major party, hungry for power, tethered to an unstable president it lacked the means, or the will, to control.

But at the time, many objected that I was violating a cardinal rule of journalistic commentary – opining on the mental health of a presidential candidate. Frequently, they cited the “Goldwater Rule,” an ethical stricture emanating from a malign attack on Barry Goldwater, restraining psychiatrists from commenting on the apparent fitness of public figures.

It was enough, they insisted, to record specific behaviors and let the voters judge. And so, as I wrote in that same article, all too many in the media “breathlessly parsed [ Trump’s] every move as if he were something grander, yet more normal, than a mentally disordered demagogue bereft of principles and starved for adulation.”

Five months later, the electorate made Donald Trump the world’s most powerful man.
 do not reprise my analysis of June 2016 simply to make a point, as president Trump has made it for me. Rather I am urging that we now must place our president’s psychological unfitness, squarely and unambiguously, at the heart of our political discussion ― journalistic constraints or psychiatric guidelines notwithstanding.

We have learned who our president is, and the stakes transcend politesse. The presidency has not transformed him; he has transformed the office. However defined, Trump’s sickness is now ours.

He erases the line between truth and lies. He rejects the existence of objective fact as a basis for political discourse. He undermines respect for democracy, civil liberties, and a free press. He treats the rule of law with contempt. He discredits any source of information which threatens his alternative reality.

He makes no distinction between his office and himself. He uses the presidency to unleash his infinite anger and paranoia. He spreads misogyny and exacerbates racial, ethnic and religious divisions for political gain.

He traffics in patent falsehoods and fake conspiracies. He erodes our communal understanding and demeans the very idea of democratic leadership. He governs to serve the warped psychology and infinite self-absorption which is the essence of his presidency.

It is long past time for anyone with a public voice and a conscience ... to explicitly and unequivocally embrace the need to curb an irretrievably unstable president.
From this fever swamp of dysfunction emerges two existential threats.

First, that Russia attacked our presidential election to benefit Trump is beyond doubt. Yet Trump denies it, unleashing a fusillade of lies and slander against our intelligence agencies and anyone else who questions him. Equally destructive, he refuses to acknowledge the certainty that Russia will continue its attack through 2018 and beyond – including, potentially, undermining the credibility of our elections by attacking voting machines.

Trump’s unwillingness to defend American democracy against a hostile foreign power betrays the most basic obligation of a president. Indeed, his war against those charged with investigating the connection between his campaign and Russia – and his obsessive efforts to obstruct it – raise the inescapable question of whether America’s president is a knowing pawn of Russia.

Second, Trump has unfettered authority to order a nuclear strike. Knowledgeable officials from Senator Bob Corker to James Clapper, the former director of national intelligence, question his psychological fitness to control our nuclear arsenal. We have no institutional defense against instantaneous catastrophe.

This puts the question of Trump’s mental fitness in sharp relief. We have seen him as president for a year now, and the evidence is inescapable; psychologically and temperamentally, Trump is unfit to wield the awesome powers we gave him.

However belatedly, more of us are prepared to confront that reality. In December, a group of lawmakers ― all but one Democrats ― received a private briefing from a prominent psychologist, Bandy X. Lee, who warned that Trump is “going to unravel, and we are seeing the signs.” As though to confirm this, Trump reacted to “Fire and Fury” by foregoing the graceful silence one would expect from a president in a spasm of bizarre tweets ― announcing that “throughout my life, my two greatest assets have been mental stability and being, like, really smart” and, indeed, that he is a “genius... and a very stable genius at that!”

Increasingly, commentators are questioning Trump’s stability; a recent poll shows that 51 percent of Americans believe that Trump is mentally unbalanced. Shedding their professional strictures, numerous mental health professionals have warned against risks of maintaining him in office.

The grounds range from concerns about a profound character disorder to questions about his neurological condition. Lee, the editor of a book on the subject, recently wrote the New York Times:

We are currently witnessing more than his usual state of instability – in fact, a pattern of decompensation: increasing loss of touch with reality, marked signs of volatility and unpredictable behavior, and an attraction to violence as a means of coping. These characteristics place our country and the world at extreme risk of danger.

What more, one must ask, do we need? Nothing. It is long past time for anyone with a public voice and a conscience ― officeholders, commentators, mental health professionals and civic leaders ― to explicitly and unequivocally embrace the need to curb an irretrievably unstable president.

The obvious solution is impeachment. But Congress will block such an effort as long as Republicans control it ― which they will through 2018 and, perhaps, beyond. As in 2016, elected Republicans show little sign of having the patriotism or courage to face the dire reality of the man who leads them.

In the meanwhile, there are two legislative initiatives that can help call out congressional Republicans and focus public opinion on Trump’s mental state and, thereby, on the need to circumscribe the risks posed by three more years of his presidency.

One is Senate bills aimed at preventing Trump from arbitrarily firing Special Counsel Robert Mueller. The other is suggested legislation requiring that members of the House and Senate consent before a president can launch a unilateral nuclear strike.

Neither proposal is perfect; neither, in the short term, will pass. But the case for both is compelling. And pressing them gives voice to an urgent concern ― that our political leaders and institutions must protect us from a president psychologically unable to protect us from himself. If nothing else, the election of 2016 should have taught us that euphemizing the nature of this man is an inexcusable act of political and journalistic dereliction.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/our-narcissist-in-chief_us_5a51b157e4b089e14dbb67fa?ncid=inblnkushpmg00000009

Thursday, January 4, 2018

Other stores break their leases or negotiate much cheaper rent.



Way back in the 80's I remember shopping in a mall looking for a soft white woven
cotton boxy linen jacket. And at the time the store manager came in the store
saying they where closing, everyone out of the store. It turns out a store closed and 
the mall owners where in meeting wanting the other stores to make up the loss by
paying higher rent. Nope, that mall ended that day I was there!

The one brought down the many. A mall in the 80's closed because,
one thing leads to another.

The mall in my town might be closing or not. I am sure it has to do with
a debate about rent. It's the issues other malls are having now so I guess
it might be the same in my town. Stores wants lower rent due to the lack
of sales because the lack of wage growth. But the property holders /
retail real estate platforms wants higher rent because of lower taxes coming.
So you see there is a battle and will the mall close? No one knows, but still
there is issues going on!

But to advise I would note because of minimum wage going up oneway
or another I would stick with lower rent because of that.
Higher wages is more money to burn. Spending what you earn
not staying home is better for growth! Low rent at the malls could free
up money for sales ads, lower prices to bring in those people with
money to burn! Lower Rent!!!!!!!

~~~~~America's malls are rotting away
The worst is yet to come for American shopping malls.
As Macy's, JCPenney, Sears and other major department stores close their doors, the malls that housed those stores are facing a serious crisis.

That's because when so-called anchor tenants leave a mall, it opens the door for other stores to break their leases or negotiate much cheaper rent.

As one big store closes, it can take several smaller stores along with it like a house of cards. Experts predict that a quarter of American malls will close in five years -- around 300 out of 1,100 that currently exist.

"When anchor stores close, it causes big problems for mall owners and other retailers in the mall," says Howard Davidowitz, chairman of New York-based retail consulting and investment banking firm Davidowitz & Associates. "And I'd say this problem is only in its second inning."

Retailers often sign co-tenancy agreements in their leases with malls, allowing them to reduce their rent or get out of a lease if a big store closes.

That's because the smaller retailers next to anchor stores no longer benefit from the foot traffic that the major retailers received, according to Garrick Brown, vice president of retail research for Cushman & Wakefield.

Brown said he expects the weakest malls to enter "death spirals."

Many former anchor tenants are closing hundreds of stores as Amazon (AMZN) eats 
their lunch.

Sears (SHLD), which had operated nearly 3,800 stores as recently as a decade ago is now down to 1,104 stores. Macy's (M) closed 68 stores this year, and JCPenney (JCP) was set to shutter 128.

It's not just department stores that have mall owners worried.

When Starbucks (SBUX) announced that it was closing its Teavana tea line and wanted to shutter all of its stores, mall operator Simon Property Group (SPG) countered with a lawsuit. Simon cited in part the effect the store closures might have on other mall tenants.

Earlier this month, a judge upheld Simons' suit, ordering Teavana to keep 77 of its 
stores open. Some successful malls may be able to survive if they can convert 
department stores' spaces into better attractions for consumers.

Many big tenants were getting discounted rates on their leases, and malls may be able to charge higher rates to new tenants, according to Brown and Davidowitz.

"There will be a new push to get food halls and entertainment in malls, and make it more of an experience that will draw people in," Brown says.

However, even if new tenants can pay more for the space, smaller "specialty" stores can still break their leases if an anchor store leaves.

It's also unlikely that underperforming malls will be able to attract crowds anyway.
Experts classify malls into "A" "B" "C" and "D" grades characterized in part by sales per square footage of the malls. "B" malls and below are going to have a particularly hard time with the financial burden of the changing mall landscape, according to Brown.

The retail loan default rate is currently hovering around 5%, but Brown expects that number to triple.

And with defaults come bankruptcies -- lots an lots of bankruptcies. More than 300 retailers have already filed for bankruptcy this year.

"If that's not an apocalypse then I don't know what is," says Davidowitz.
http://money.cnn.com/2017/12/12/news/companies/mall-closing/index.html?category=companies