Thursday, August 17, 2017

Terence McKenna's Thoughts On Monogamy

Love really does not have boundaries.
For me I tend to fall in love easy. Ask me and I am all ready there.
I am Polyamorous so I won't break up with anyone.
If it don't work I believe you should agree it's not working and note 
there is no need to hate. We are adults so we should talk like adults.

In love it's worth the effort it's worth living. What would life be not living?!

Failure Is The Secret To Success

It's said "Anarchy is the best environment for personal growth."
In that you should know that one can not learn if they do not fail!
You can't have the good without the bad. With no bad then you would 
not know what good is! Life's benchmark!

~~~~~Is failure a positive opportunity to learn and grow, or is it a negative experience that hinders success? How parents answer that question has a big influence on how much children think they can improve their intelligence through hard work, a study says.

"Parents are a really critical force in child development when you think about how motivation and mindsets develop," says Kyla Haimovitz, a professor of psychology at Stanford University. She coauthored the study, published in Psychological Science with colleague Carol Dweck, who pioneered research on mindsets. "Parents have this powerful effect really early on and throughout childhood to send messages about what is failure, how to respond to it."

Although there's been a lot of research on how these forces play out, relatively little looks at what parents can do to motivate their kids in school, Haimovitz says. This study begins filling that gap.

"There is a fair amount of evidence showing that when children view their abilities as more malleable and something they can change over time, then they deal with obstacles in a more constructive way," says Gail Heyman, a professor of psychology at the University of California at San Diego who was not involved in this study.

School district threatens to sue Legislature failing to educate children

In Oklahoma the state Legislature not being able to fund education or
even know what they are doing is being sued!
"Lawmakers don't have a clue how to fund education."

Keeping the same system without thinking ahead is fail!
Albert Einstein -  Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and
expecting different results.

Expecting different results... In Oklahoma? They where back with the
cigarette tax, a Poverty Tax. Things for the poor to spend most of their money
on giving less money everywhere else, less sales all over. Where it would be better
to tax chardonnay wine being it would be from a better revenue source being
it won't be keeping the most poor from doing without being it took most of their 
food money for the cigarettes.

So really education in Oklahoma with the budget cuts that are cuts they 
can go to zero! "Reductionist go to zero!" I see like a form of consumer based 
pricing for education giving the kids lower education as you get what you pay
for. Noting why parents want their kid to go to a Harvard and not a JR college.
Higher education higher income. And better labor force!

It's time for action. I said this relating for healthcare that the government 
should of sued the states for not supporting it's people making a burden
for the healthcare system. Saying that the many poor people hurt ObamaCare
being all the sick people on it. Why did they get that way in the first place?
It's the same as funding education why are we here from a long time
of not having funding?

Anyway it's good and correct for school districts to sue! 
It's time, about time!!!!!

~~~~~Oklahoma City school district threatens to sue Legislature
Oklahoma City Public Schools is threatening legal action against the state Legislature for failing its "constitutional" and "moral" responsibilities to educate children, district leaders said Thursday.

The school board is expected to decide Monday night whether to begin interviewing law firms for the purpose of suing the Legislature, specifically, the speaker of the house and the senate president pro tem.

"Oklahoma's legislative leadership has failed at their constitutional responsibility to provide textbooks for every child and their moral responsibility to put Oklahoma's children and their education first," board member Mark Mann told reporters outside Sequoyah Elementary School.

"While doing so, they have obstructed the Oklahoma City Board of Education from performing our constitutional role as intended. This is unacceptable."

Mann, flanked by Superintendent Aurora Lora and several board members, said the district is "prepared to exhaust all efforts, including litigation, in our fight to provide a quality education for the children of Oklahoma City Public Schools."

In a resolution members will consider Monday, the school board alleges that legislative leadership "has continued to ignore the voices of individual legislators of both parties, the governor and the state superintendent of schools as they call for adequate funding."

The resolution also states that legislative leadership has "ignored their constitutional responsibility to provide textbooks for every child by eliminating the instructional materials line item budget."

Additionally, the document states that legislative leadership has cut funding to pay for "requirements established by the Legislature — thereby leaving huge underfunded liabilities for Oklahoma City Public Schools."

The Revolution Will Not Be Televised, No Confederate Monuments!

People standing up against Trump and the stupidity of what laws
changes, loosing health care. Medicaid poor kids need, small town
health clinics closing. No wages going up in over 10 years now!
Business owners having to deal with consumer based pricing to their
$7 after taxes pay the people have. Big divide! 
St. Louis minimum wage will drop from $10 to $7.70
in that the workers all need to strike! That is a point of a Revolution!!!!!

It is a Revolution everywhere. No one likes Trump and what is going on!
"Nightmare nominee: Nobody likes Donald Trump. Not even white men."

No stupid Confederate flags flapping on the back of a rolling coal truck
or the KKK having their day on your day!
"Those who believe slavery was not a central point of conflict in the Civil War may wish to peruse the South Carolina, Georgia, Mississippi and Texas declarations of secession. Those documents all explicitly cite threats to slavery as reasons for secession. Mississippi's declaration goes so far as to say that “a blow at slavery is a blow at commerce and civilization."

Many say it's about states rights... But to ask why... 
Property Taxes on Slaves... Slavery! Without slaves there would
be no taxes!

Slaves where not brought up they where kept down.
Slaves where not free, slavery did not make salves free!

Celebrating people not being free is a view that needs to go!
It's time to grow up! Bring people up not keep them down! 

The removal of Confederate monuments is a needed thing

to grow up from the times of being kept down.

"The KKK rally in Charlottesville was outnumbered by counterprotesters
About 1,000 counterprotesters were there, said city spokeswoman Miriam Dickler.
Shouting "racists go home," the crowd drowned out the Klansmen's chants of "white power." Despite police lines, a few brief scuffles broke out. Counterprotesters tried to stop the Klansmen from entering and leaving the park, video showed."

No more Kellyanne Conway on TV!
When will Dick get down with Jane?
"Oh, see. Oh, see Jane. Funny, funny Jane." Oh please!
No one would care because everyone is looking for a brighter day!

Think about all of this!

Sunday, August 13, 2017

Family Budget on Children Wages, Panhandle

There are issues with adults making children wages.
Not being able to live normally as in not being able to get
a car with the banks under writer saying "Sorry your income is too low!
Yet alone have money for the tag. Noted a concern when I look for
a car the $400+ tag fee. So there are many cars with no bumpers in the
400,000 miles still on the road!

Other points is the unavailability to put in for retirement as there is really no
401K's in those low paying jobs and ending in not able to put in for retirement.
Small towns have many minimum wage retires making what they where
making 20 years ago. Worked hard made the same pay still living on it!

Walking without a car. I see that a lot everywhere in Oklahoma.
Voluntary repossession for food money. Cutting down your food cost.
In bad times I can cut my food cost to around $16 a week so to me
inflation is not a issue as I just won't buy the high dollar stuff.
Like when milk jumped to $4 a gallon I didn't drink milk for years.
No sales! "If they wanted me to buy that then they would of paid me better!"
Walk away!

So that is the main point here the lack of sales! "You can make it but they
can't afford it." Like how small towns bring in things the many can't afford.
So they don't go there. Or the rich people from other towns go there only to meet
the people in town driving cars with no bumpers. Or walk with no cars.
In that is a good thing needing more poverty crusades. As more poor people are
needed to just get some tea in those places dressed homeless!
To bring up the point of higher wages needed. And to show how lazy
the whole town is because of the masses of poor!
To show the town is not brought up yet!
It's like a protest over your pay but not at work!!!!

Anyway low pay these days is just a lot of people doing without living
a third world life style! No AC because you can't afford to use it.
You never needed it anyway there are many people elsewhere that
don't use it! Do you need it... NO!

"In many parts of the world, a lack in economic development might be to blame for a widespread absence of air-conditioning at the moment. However, that doesn't explain why even most Europeans ridicule Americans for their love of cooling and lack of heat tolerance."

But many in Europe and else where can't use AC as there would be no resources
to support it.

"The bottom line is that America's a big, rich, hot country," Cox told The Post. "But if the second, fourth, and fifth most populous nations -- India, Indonesia, and Brazil, all hot and humid were to use as much energy per capita for air-conditioning as does the U.S., it would require 100 percent of those countries' electricity supplies, plus all of the electricity generated by Mexico, the U.K., Italy, and the entire continent of Africa," he added.

"Obama: ‘Planet Will Boil Over’ If Everyone Has A Car, A/C, And Big House."
Is true!

So in America the poor is really poor in that many live like Europeans but
in America in the lack of sales is a no growth as the many poor do without
knowing they never needed it anyway.
Like with me I haven't seen a movie since 2003 because of the cost but noticing
I don't need it's view. "We have to create culture." - Terence McKenna

Where is this going? Low pay is not good for growth. Noted as why small towns
have nothing because they make nothing. High prices goes away to consumer based
pricing of low pay the many in small towns get. They can't grow if the people don't
grow because they make Children wages.

Makes Children wages, lives like a Child! Pay peanuts get monkey's!
Noted issues in Oklahoma and why I think it's ok to panhandle for what you
want. Many construction workers work in the heat for beer in reality and so
should a panhandlers as they are out in the heat also.
They need to be real about it, it's about the beer ok! So with that with the
low wages does it have the value? is it worth being suck at work for 8 hours
a day making $7 after taxes? Would a panhandler be willing for that?
With the low pay you get monkeys so to me with issues of the labor force on
who will pass the background checks for work there are many panhandlers
that could work for the low pay. Always good for the workplace!

It's ok to panhandle for what you want! It's a job also,
being the poor just gets what they need as they are not paid to consume!

So what do you need to live on? To me it's funny as I make nothing.
I know they have to raise the pay sometime they can't have all the
poor bring it down to their level because of consumer based pricing
over the poor that does without! 

~~~~~Family Budget Calculator

~~~~~Can 2 Parents, 2 Kids Live on Minimum Wage? Not Even Close: Report
No matter where they live in the United States, minimum wage workers with kids earn far less than they need to make ends meet, a new report shows.

The Libertine, accepting her for whoever she is

A good point in life is to talk! What are your hopes, dreams and desires.
Having your needs accepted is the point. If you can't talk or be accepted 
for who you are then... People in hell want ice and how long do you wait?
It's better to talk and make those agreements. Accepting each other is for
each other it's about that love!

Or to say what are you waiting for, if someone loves you let them in
for that talk!

That is the point it's ok to be open with each other.
To have that talk in life is needed. To accept her for whoever she is!
No one really cares anyway!

~~~~~The Libertine (1969 film)
This is a sex comedy film about Mimi (Catherine Spaak), a young widow who discovers that her recently deceased husband kept a secret apartment for his kinky desires. Frustrated that he did not explore his sexual fantasies with his wife, she embarks on a quest to understand perversion and sexuality. She uses her late husband's apartment to seduce various men, each time learning more about the depths of human pleasure, as well as the extent of the sexual double standard for women (late in the film, she states, "I notice men only call me a whore when I say no. Or stop saying yes."

Finally, she meets the man who shares himself fully with her, appreciates her sexual daring and accepts her for whoever she is.

Saturday, August 12, 2017

Love has no boundaries, The Love Project

Love is timeless so in view it's best to just be open about things.
Why just waste time, time away when you will open about things
when you get older.

There is that point to grab life by the horns,
and you can't win the lottery if you don't buy a ticket!
It's about those things that have meaning to point about love 
not having boundaries! About that love and support regardless
as life has that long road!

~~~~~New Sexual Revolution: Polyamory May Be Good for You
On Valentine's Day, images of couples are everywhere. They're buying each other diamond rings, making eyes over expensive restaurant meals and canoodling over chocolate-covered strawberries and champagne. But two-by-two isn't the only way to go through life. In fact, an estimated 4 to 5 percent of Americans are looking outside their relationship for love and sex — with their partner's full permission.

These consensually nonmonogamous relationships, as they're called, don't conform to the cultural norm of a handholding couple in love for life. They come in a dizzying array of forms, from occasional "swinging" and open relationships to long-term commitments among multiple people. Now, social scientists embarking on brand-new research into these types of relationships are finding that they may challenge the ways we think of jealousy, commitment and love. They may even change monogamy for the better.

"People in these relationships really communicate. They communicate to death," said Bjarne Holmes, a psychologist at Champlain College in Vermont. All of that negotiation may hold a lesson for the monogamously inclined, Holmes told LiveScience.
"They are potentially doing quite a lot of things that could turn out to be things that if people who are practicing monogamy did more of, their relationships would actually be better off," Holmes said.

Friday, August 11, 2017

How to recognize a past life connection

~~~~~How to recognize a past life connection
We’ve all been in the situation where we’ve met someone new but have this immediate and deep connection – sometimes to the point of being able to anticipate what they are going to say next – or feeling as if they’ve been in our life forever. Often this can mean they have been in a spiritual sense as this kind of ‘instant karma’ we feel with certain people is exactly that. A karmic, past life connection and the level of comfort and feeling we already ‘know’ someone is merely our shared history catching up with us and playing out in this lifetime.

These kind of past-life connections are easy to spot but what about others that may also stretch across several lifetimes and involve soul promises, but which may not be quite so obvious? How do we recognize them?

First of all, we need to understand that often the souls with whom we have the deepest connection and with whom we have chosen to learn and grow with are the ones who are there to teach us the most profound lessons. And sometimes these lessons are not easy. Just because you have known one another in a past life does not mean it will all be love and happy endings in this one. There can be many reasons for this. One or both of us can fail to learn the lesson or forgive on a soul level. Until this happens we will keep coming back – like students who have to re-take an exam, until we get it ‘right’. Also, we often have themes we have chosen to work through in this life and we may have several ‘soul mates’ – and I use that term in the broadest possible sense as a ‘soul mate’ is not necessarily a romantic partner but someone with whom we have chosen to form a connection with over several lifetimes; who have chosen to appear at various times in our life in order to help us learn a particular lesson. So, this all this in mind, what are the signs we should look for in even our most challenging relationships that we may have a strong past life connection with someone?

Look for the lesson. Are you learning something about yourself? Either in relationship to other people or your own behavior? If you’re being challenged in some way – either positively or even negatively, this is one sign that there is an important soul connection here. The bigger the challenge and the more you have to grow on a soul level to meet it, then the number of lifetimes you have spent with this person increases. Remember – this goes for negative experiences as well as positive ones because often we learn more from failures than we do our successes.

Is the situation you’re in with this person part of a recurring theme for you? While you may not feel you have known this person before, does the situation you’re in feel oh so familiar? Is history repeating itself in some way yet again? We all come into this lifetime with set learning tasks. Sometimes we learn the lesson the first time – but if we don’t, then we are set to repeat it until we do. If you find yourself back in a situation that is repeating a past experience but with a completely different person then this is another sign of a deep past-life connection. As you failed to learn the lesson in the past, a new ‘teacher’ has appeared. Once you begin to recognize you and not the other person, are the common denominator, you will begin to release the lesson and your situation with them will transform – either by them leaving your life and you will have no more ‘lessons’ of this nature or by your relationship continuing but now on an entirely different level.

Is someone helping you for no apparent reason? Someone gives you a helping hand in some way with no expectation of anything in return. This could be a business mentor, a teacher or someone who offers you something you badly need right when you need it – and doesn’t necessarily expect to be paid back. This is a sure sign that this is someone you have helped in a past life, paying you forward in this one.

Is anything owed or left over after the relationship is over? You owe them something or they owe you. Or they’ve left something with you. This can be anything from a book, to money, a child or even a horse. Whatever it is, you or they aren’t going to get it back or take it back – not in this lifetime anyway!

Remember, past life soul promises are complex but look for these key signs as to clues you may have deep connections to people you wouldn’t have dreamed were that important!

Wednesday, August 9, 2017

HCCI types and why

With the importance of global warming to not do any more
damage a change to a good source of the damage being caused needs
to be changed. So less vehicle emissions is needed.

So for me I see it for a win to "cut back" your spark plugs.
Or get a side gaped type plug for your engine.
Burring more fuel makes more power anyway along
with better MPG and helping on emissions.

Other than spark plug types in that I would like to see more
work done on their usage for better combustion for lower
emissions and MPG. More side gaped plugs types used
and higher voltage for the combustion in designing the engine
done by the automakers.

For engine makers there has been a push for HCCI engines.
Those engines are up in a higher emission standard and efficiency.
In America HCCI engines are coming out. Also Japan are working
on a type. A HCCI type engine in a semi truck would help in
delivery cost for small businesses. (Walmart makes $500 billion a year
fuel for trucks is not a issue.)

~~~~~Exploring the Next Frontier in Efficiency with the
Opposed-Piston Engine.
The Achates Power Opposed Piston Engine delivers
a demonstrable incremental improvement in brake
thermal efficiency compared with the most advanced
conventional four-stroke engines. With the
elimination of components such as the entire
cylinder head and valvetrain, the Achates Power OP
Engine is also less complex and costly to produce.

After a brief overview of the opposed-piston
architecture’s inherent efficiency benefits this
technical paper features detailed performance and
emissions results of a multi-cylinder 4.9L Achates
Power opposed-piston engine tested on
dynamometer and configured to meet current
commercial truck requirements.

The second part of this paper presents the results
from testing various transient test-cycles on the
multi-cylinder 4.9L engine including aftertreatment

After a brief description of a light duty engine
concept and how it improves fuel consumption by
30% over an advanced light duty diesel 4-stroke
engine the paper discusses the next step in
technology development for the OP engine:
The gasoline compression ignition opposed piston

~~~~~Mazda announces breakthrough in long-coveted engine technology
A homogeneous charge compression ignition (HCCI) engine ignites petrol through compression, eliminating spark plugs. Its fuel economy potentially matches that of a diesel engine without high emissions of nitrogen oxides or sooty particulates.

Mazda's engine employs spark plugs under certain conditions, such as at low temperatures, to overcome technical hurdles that have hampered commercialization of the technology.

Sunday, August 6, 2017

Woman Addicted to Porn, Gay Porn

Women having a stash of porn? Yes many do! My EX girlfriend had a
stash. She let me know she has a stash when I showed her how to
de-fragment in safe mode by hitting F8 in restart on Windows XP.
You could access all files that way. She didn't know that so she
had to move her files around to hide them better.

It was kind of funny at the time and I was not surprised.
It's ok! I was glad she got open to me about them. 
I wanted her to not feel stressed about hiding the fact she did!
I was ok with her looking at porn. Many guys are ok with it
as long as there is a openness about it. Why have it, why feel that way
the stress of hiding it... Really it's ok!
About her needs, desires is better than being a zombie.
Not the me, my, I, narcissistic male there is more out there then 
themselves! Yes others have porn also even women!

Most women get turned on by watching gay porn. (Guy on Guy)
My other ex girlfriend a hairdresser talked to me about that on the part 
about being turned on by it. I'm not gay but she liked seeing gay porn.
She went to gay bars as a sanctuary. In fact many women do even though
they are straight as men don't hit on women at a gay bar. They are safe there.
But women like gay porn, it's a fact!

~~~~~It’s past two a.m. and my husband’s breathing has become long and even. An opportunity presents itself. I slip my right hand down my pajama pants and move slowly, careful not to bump my elbow into his side rib, or bring my hips into it. Too much movement or sound will wake him, and to be found out for something like this is not just embarrassing but potentially destructive. He’ll think he doesn't satisfy me, and men do not like feeling inadequate, especially when it comes to matters of the bedroom. Or maybe he’ll feel sorry for me. And who wants to fuck someone they pity?

Acceptance is needed in relationships if you can't accept needs and desires of each other
then what kind of relationships is it? I accepted my ex girlfriends desires and needs.
That is a keystone of life. It makes her who she is!

Saturday, August 5, 2017

Strange Attractors, Slightly disturbed but thats ok, Grow Love

As a point, life is never what it seems. There is the saying "No man is an island.
No one is self-sufficient; everyone relies on others." This is also true in science, math
and life! Or the point of Quantum entanglement "For example, if a pair of particles are
generated in such a way that their total spin is known to be zero, and one particle is
found to have clockwise spin on a certain axis, the spin of the other particle,
measured on the same axis, will be found to be counterclockwise, as to be
expected due to their entanglement."

And in math and life related there is more than many thinks.
"In other words, a statement is made. It can be anything.
All greys are non-­‐X. This is just a statement, we don’t yet know
what this is going to be about. All greys are non-­‐ X. All greens are
F-­‐Sub-­‐1. What we’re putting in place are a set of statements that
appear nonsensical, but what we will assert is, that we should seek
a relationship between them and that will then show us something.
And this is how mathematics really works.
It has very little to do with number.
It has to do with the conceptualizing of relationships."

Conceptualizing of relationships? This is the point of life!
Ever thought of strange attractors... I have a lot!
"In the mathematical field of dynamical systems, an attractor is a set of numerical
values toward which a system tends to evolve, for a wide variety of starting
conditions of the system. System values that get close enough to the attractor
values remain close even if slightly disturbed." Like Love!

Slightly disturbed and staying close, remaining close?
Well there a reason or cause for being such and is as I see a
keystone of life a needed thing. Why does it have to me a negative thing?
Slightly disturbed leads to growth! "Chaos is the environment that 
we all thrive."
It will push you to the growth or what is better!
As we can be lonely together in the ocean in separate boats only to
say enough holding up a white flag and throwing rope for the other
because we are not islands! 

Being of all of above that was said as "No man is an island."
and "One particle is found to be clockwise so the other is found to be
counterclockwise as to be expected due to their entanglement."
There is a entanglement! Also points to "System values that get close
enough to the attractor values remain close even if slightly disturbed."
To remain close even if slightly disturbed is correct because we are
Strange Attractors! There is that point in life to accept it because it's true!

Not accepting is makes your own tyranny! Accepting it frees you!
It's about that fear and getting over that wall!

~~~~~Nature loves courage. You make the commitment and nature will respond to that commitment by removing impossible obstacles. Dream the impossible dream and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the trick. This is what all these teachers and philosophers who really counted, who really touched the alchemical gold, this is what they understood. This is the shamanic dance in the waterfall. This is how magic is done. By hurling yourself into the abyss and discovering 
it's a feather bed.

~~~~~Loving unconditionally is more a behavior versus a feeling. Loving is the act of extending ourselves, vulnerabilities and all, into uncharted emotional territory with the belief that regardless of the outcome, we want to benefit another person. Imagine love as a behavior in and of itself, with the satisfaction being that feeling you get when you act a certain way for them, not when someone else acts a certain way to you. This becomes a pure act of generosity.

Polyamory - Going open into the 21st century

The point of the story is note a light starting up going to the 21st century
a social change going on or a new world of psychology.
Being real about each other having a normality without the deviancy.
To respect or care about, equally, support as a extended family.
A perfect foundation for all realistically!

It's time to grow up and in polygamous terms open the box and let it out.

Like climbing up a cliff, it's worth it in the end knowing you have many people

there supporting you. Knowing climbing a cliff takes work from all.
Something to think about! Knowing your wife is on top of the cliff and she is
supported by all is worth a lot! Like her significant others and husband are her
safety-net so she able to go farther and higher with no worry!

She can't make it there if someone drops out!

As the point is about her as a person on how the support makes her
a better person making all better loosing nothing but gaining more before
she turns 70! Life is short, getting older is no fun!

"Elisabeth Sheff, a sociologist who interviewed 40 polyamorous people over the course

of several years for her recent book, The Polyamorists Next Door, says that
polyamorous configurations with more than three people tend to be rarer and have
more turnover. “Polys” are more likely to be liberal and educated, she said, and in the
rare cases that they do practice religion, it’s usually paganism or Unitarian Universalism."

"It actually adds value to our lives to be in a relationship with other people,"

Sheila explains. "I've seen positive outcomes from my husband being with
someone who makes him happy. For me it's a win-win.

The view is like group therapy in a way and there is gold at the end!

When you love someone it's there and they are worth it!
"Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."

People do have needs to balance their life and in these days times are changing
and times are getting balanced. In the western days in some women had hysteria.
Now is seems women have hysteria and do nothing about it they make it
their lifestyle. Even it's noted even cave women had lovers being it gave her
protection, more food and all around better life vs the times.
It's wired into their nature. They had to reproduce or die of extinction.

This is also reflecting of the ALPHA female today in trait. The cavewoman acted 
upon and took care of her needs.  An ALPHA would require more than one person,
as she is ALPHA and in view a taller woman being it would be needed for two males
to stand on shoulders to get up to her level. More than one by trait and is ok!
It is best to team up on a ALPHA being the higher level of being one. 
More support is needed and should be understood because of the trait. 
 "A study has found evidence of ‘alpha cave women’ 
roaming the plains and calling the shots while the menfolk slobbed at home."

Also a three is good for the female being the support but also in the decision
making of the family relating to the cavewoman calling the shots in the past.
"In fact if the wife gets a lover and grooms him into her 
second husband she would be the boss as the two husbands decision making 
in the family would be canceled out as one husband might decide on ( - ) as 
the other goes ( + ) this ( = 0 ) so the wife decides for progress and no pain!"

But the point is what people think or know about the past can
be like a coloring book when looking at what really was going on.
Like finding out Hoover wore a dress and about the Coolidge effect etc...
And the 60's the push for rights with "Free Love!" People having many wives
in the Bible times give women where property and came with the house back then,
if you had many houses you had many wives.

Humans behave badly. Well if we did not we all would not of been here today!

We would of been eaten by a saber tooth tiger because there would of been
more of them than us. It was a race back then to populate! We won!

Then you look into Havelock Ellis and his marriage.

"In November 1891, at the age of 32, and reportedly still a virgin, Ellis married the
English writer and proponent of women's rights, Edith Lees. From the beginning, their
marriage was unconventional, as Edith Lees was openly lesbian.
At the end of the honeymoon, Ellis went back to his bachelor rooms in Paddington.
She lived at Fellowship House. Their "open marriage" was the central subject in Ellis's
autobiography, My Life."

"According to Ellis in My Life, his friends were much amused at his being considered an

expert on sex. Some knew that he suffered from impotence until the age of 60.
He then discovered that he could become aroused by the sight of a woman urinating.
Ellis named this "undinism". After his wife, Edith Lees, died, Ellis formed a relationship
with a French woman called Françoise Lafitte."

Bertrand Russell also had connections with Lady Ottoline Morrell,

the actress Lady Constance Malleson and Vivienne Haigh-wood.
"He soon fell in love with the puritanical, high-minded Alys, who was a graduate
of Bryn Mawr College near Philadelphia, and, contrary to his grandmother's wishes,
married her on 13 December 1894. Their marriage began to fall apart in 1901
when it occurred to Russell, while he was cycling, that he no longer loved her.
She asked him if he loved her and he replied that he didn't.

Russell also disliked Alys's mother, finding her controlling and cruel.
It was to be a hollow shell of a marriage and they finally divorced in 1921,
after a lengthy period of separation.
During this period, Russell had passionate (and often simultaneous) affairs with
a number of women, including Lady Ottoline Morrell and the actress
Lady Constance Malleson. Some have suggested that at this point he had an affair 
with Vivienne Haigh-Wood, the English governess and writer, and first wife of 
T. S. Eliot.

"In all affairs it's a healthy thing now and then to hang a question mark on the 

things you have long taken for granted."

"The secret of happiness is this: let your interests be as wide as possible,
and let your reactions to the things and persons that interest you be as far
as possible friendly rather than hostile."

Also noted, the life changing read of the Chapters.
The Conquest of Happiness (1930) is a book by Bertrand Russell.

Lady Ottoline Morrell:

"In February 1902, she married the MP Philip Morrell, with whom she shared a
passion for art and a strong interest in Liberal politics. They shared what would
now be known as an open marriage for the rest of their lives."

Lady Constance Malleson:

"During the First World War, her pacifist opinions brought her into contact with
Bertrand Russell, whose mistress she soon became
(having agreed with her husband on an "open marriage").
In 1923, she was divorced from Malleson. Her interest in social reform led her
to travel abroad, and she carried out lecture tours in Scandinavia in the
1930s and 1940s."

Vivienne Haigh-Wood:
Haigh-Wood met Eliot in Oxford in March 1915, while he was studying philosophy at Merton College and she was working as a governess in Cambridge. They were married in Hampstead Register Office three months later. They remained married until her death in 1947, but Haigh-Wood's poor physical and mental health, and Eliot's apparent intolerance of it, produced a stormy relationship, made worse by her apparently having an affair with the philosopher Bertrand Russell.
Eliot arranged for a formal separation in February 1933, and thereafter shunned her entirely, hiding from her and instructing his friends – including members of the Bloomsbury Group and the publisher Faber & Faber, where he was a director – not to tell her where he was. Her brother had her committed to an asylum in 1938, after she was found wandering the streets of London at five o'clock in the morning, apparently asking whether Eliot had been beheaded. Apart from one escape attempt, she remained there until she died nine years later at the age of 58; she was said to have suffered a heart attack, although there is a suspicion that she took an overdose. Eliot won the Nobel Prize for Literature the following year.
Carole Seymour-Jones writes that it was out of the turmoil of the marriage that Eliot produced The Waste Land, one of the 20th century's finest poems. Eliot's sister-in-law, Theresa, said of the relationship: "Vivienne ruined Tom as a man, but she made him as a poet."
*Note Russell in view was her therapist keeping her together.

Einstein admitted he spent time with six other women while married. Poly 6 times!

And Catherine The Great having 22 male lovers during her long life.

She was partial to handsome young men. She died in her bed, after a stroke.
It's just a matter what part of reality offends people, or knowing how short life is,
or that others are needed for others!
What part of the 22 male lovers supporting her, making her "The Great"
is not understood?

Bob Marley had a open marriage.

Sexuality of Abraham Lincoln?

The respected push and effort for the times, showing the need to push on and proceed!

Oscar Wilde! "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars."

George Borrow? "Borrow depicts an old man (Taylor) and a young man (Borrow)

discussing the merits of German literature, including Goethe's  
The Sorrows of Young Werther. Taylor confesses himself to be no admirer of either  
The Sorrows of Young Werther or its author but nevertheless states.
It is good to be a German (for) the Germans are the most
philosophical people in the world."

Hoover wore a dress! "Quoted Susan L. Rosenstiel, a former wife of Lewis S. Rosenstiel,

chairman of Schenley Industries Inc., as saying that in 1958, she was at a party at the
Plaza Hotel where Hoover engaged in cross-dressing in front of her then-husband and
Roy Cohn, former counsel to Senator Joe McCarthy."

Also "For example, on June 13, 1958, the head of the Washington field office informed

Hoover that, prior to marrying a member of Congress, the member’s wife had been
“having an affair with a Negro [and] also at one time carried on an affair with a
House Post Office employee.” More recently, the report said, the congressman’s wife
“endeavored to have an affair with [an] Indonesian, who declined.”

Calvin Coolidge, (The Coolidge Effect?)

Behavioral endocrinologist Frank A. Beach first mentioned the term
"Coolidge effect" in publication in 1955, crediting one of his students with
suggesting the term at a psychology conference. He attributed the neologism to:
an old joke about Calvin Coolidge when he was President The President and
Mrs. Coolidge were being shown [separately] around an experimental
government farm. When [Mrs. Coolidge] came to the chicken yard she noticed
that a rooster was mating very frequently. She asked the attendant how often that
happened and was told, "Dozens of times each day." Mrs. Coolidge said,
"Tell that to the President when he comes by." Upon being told, the President 
asked, "Same hen every time?" The reply was, "Oh, no, Mr. President, 
a different hen every time." President: "Tell that to Mrs. Coolidge."

It's all nothing new from the past, we grew up about it and now we are moving ahead.
Facts are facts times are changing. Like women getting the right to vote and now.

Also it's like growing up, like the life changing times of picking up your date on a

riding lawn mower and her understanding because she is broke herself.
So there is no stress of a first date!

Being Polyamory is overall the best for kids in a Poly family.

There is more income coming into the family, support more watching
eyes for the kids no abuse as one or the other would stop it.
A safety shell for kids being the more than one in the household.
Over time the trust the kid has to talk about issues depending on one
parent or another of issue the kid has.

And in all that the kid when he grows up and learns / wakes up about what

was going on more likely will see how he was raised supported more than many
other kids where.

And from my time I spent in hotels I have a few stories or heard a few from others,
shows life from the 90's! It's a funny hidden world.

Also noted now like some stories that where on CNN.
Smart people have a grip probably more than they did in the 90's.
"For the monthly Bronze Party" Oklahoma had their "Concord Club"
in the 90's I found out about in when I worked in hotels, it was just too
funny for the time. Everyone was going nuts like that in 1999 into 2000,
hotels where the playground for the rich at that time.

I thought about looking to see what was going on at the "Concord Club"
but really what if you see someone you know? Well what would you do?
That was in the 90's and now for the CNN story running shows the times
are getting out of the dark!

Even Korea legalized adultery! I'm not surprised my college friend
had a hagwon job there in the 90's he told me some stories
about life in Korea. Koreans tend to not suppress themselves.
I guess they hear about what it is like in the North and for the South
their freedom from being told what to do is more valued than being
locked up.

Also noted by a art park called "Sex Land" Human behavior accepted.

And the Khajuraho Temples!

"It is believed that the erotic sculptures, amongst them nymphs, with their
sensuous poses and pouting expressions are a way of giving importance to
wellbeing and love of life."

If you are in a long term marriage or relationship in term it's like fixing a inbreeding

issue. The longer it is the less diverse it is and more of the same, same it is
like inbreeding but as others are added to the chromosome mix it makes
all less sickly and stronger as a whole!

Some people are right and some are not for an open marriage, Polyamory.
If one is driven by the sex of it and not being emotionally supportive,
long term lover in view for all involved, the trust would fail.

Being like a lack of maturity about it. It's about her balance in view.

If she is happy then the others involved are happy also. 

Being open in the light you have nothing to hide, so in that there is less stress,
as all would be open and communicate about it for positive growth.

Also communication is needed, you are this to her and she is this to you etc.
Who is who to who. But the point is to be supportive without, negativity!
No hedonism! What kind of life do you want in the dark unknown?

Well be true about it, ask do you have a secret affair?????????????????? (Warning!)

Or do you go Polyamory!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Focus on the growth for each other, and talk about it to each other.

What is the positive factor for each person.

It's like a 90's type group therapy where you sit around and talk

on the positive and negative so you know what needs to be fixed.
Who, needs who to who or what! The growth of that is the fun part!
Changing, adapting is a beautiful thing toward the ones you love!
For everyone to say we all love you as a group is very supportive to all!

And there is real Psychotherapy for Polyamorous relationships.

And this is a growing change in psychotherapy!

Just remember no matter where you go there you are!

(And here we are for you to support you!)

I have to note "Research by Geneviève Beaulieu-Pelletier, who studies relationships

and infidelity at the University of Montreal, estimates that the chances of someone
cheating while in a committed relationship range from 46% to 76%."

And the heat is on. Under pressure that lid will blow! And I worry about that,

as the rate goes up to 80% or is at 80% in Oklahoma? It's a red-state, in the dark!

Dealing with jealousy is the building factor in the relationship.

That is the thing that all sits and talks about. Fixing and healing makes better.
It's like taking a test you can't take the test if you don't have the test!
And if it's there it needs to be talked about no matter of past issues
or whatever it was. Everyone needs to look at this in the light of a new day!








Why have her blow her lid? Growth and support is needed!
A wife blowing her lid like that more likely won't happen if her two partners 
are hugging her now don't you think! Also stops any kind of abuse as the two 
are for her needs, and one or the other would put a stop to any abuse!

Inflammatory or not I have to say it being not only to the fact Oklahoma is 

against it's own people but Oklahoma puts pressure on people so being 
unsupported in Oklahoma is norm "mental illness" is norm in Oklahoma. 
If you are not from Oklahoma and you meet the locals you will see it!
But the point is to ask if the lady that drove her car into people at the  
Oklahoma State University’s homecoming parade had been supported. 
Don't you think this would of never happened as her partners would be 
supporting her. She would of drove her car into the garage door to have 
threesome with her partners not drive into people killing them! 
I am talking about Oklahoma with unsupported people. Bad as it sounds you
need to look at how life is in Oklahoma for women to see what I am saying!
It's like a make love not war sort of thing I am saying! What is the cost of war?!  

You see the good in meeting the Healer in your life!

Growth and support as in accepting where the relationship is in your life

and how to fix the bad. Being married for a long time, can be like the saying
people in hell want want ice water and how long is the waiting going to be?
"Partners in these relationships need to look at all the things they've wanted 
to do in life but haven't, because it didn't fit their stereotypes about themselves 
and their expectations about their partners. They need to learn to communicate 
at an emotional level, to disclose their feelings and listen to those of their partner. 
They may need to learn to work less and play more."

There is nothing more beautiful than supporting building trust in all

in a married women. To be taken home for that talk to build
a Tiny Gypsy house for her together. Building a relationship
together as all would be building it for her as all is for her, so
she can have her woman cave! It's the acceptance of everyone
together working it out for her best interest! Accepting the wife for
who she is so she can be herself!

Also a wife has the right to put on the pants on in the family to get her happiness!

A wife taking over and saying "I'm getting a boyfriend dammit" is gold!
"There's something burning in the air!" Unhappy Woman! 

And that is a good point growth! "We're not trying to say that monogamy is bad,"

said Billy Holder, a 36-year-old carpenter who works at a university in Atlanta.
"We're trying to promote the fact that everyone has a right to develop a relationship
structure that works for them."

There is the time in your youth where you are the hunter looking for love.

But then there is the point where you grow up and take responsibility in love.

Being a player / hunter does not build trust in your partners.
The lack of openness is a trust killer. So it's about being open to each other.

Like being married but dating there will be a openness to each other

otherwise as shown in history the whole circle burns up.
Or the other partner dating the married knows the partner is
obligated to their partner as the dater is more likely also
obligated to their partner so the circle is strong.
There is a reason for those relationships it's not out of deviancy!

That is one of the healthy types of relationships because of the openness

and trust building it's a strong circle! When you are in a relationship like that.

The point is to support, care, normalize the partners.

Vs being a player where no one knows what is going on with the lack
of trust about it.

Significant others are called that because they are significant!
Or (y) makes (x) the other significant! Vice versa.

To be good for the other person and that is what matters, the balance!
You get a lot back in support. 

Also the openness stops the dark unknown of saying is my wife falling for the boss?
It would be unknown, so all in evolved would be going crazy in the dark.
Openness would stop that and make room for growth.

Also there is less of a fear of losing your wife if the other partner is a stable
lower income bracket, he would not be able to support her if they try to elope.
Less of a incentive to leave.

Or much like Quantum Entanglement!

"A physical phenomenon that occurs when pairs or groups of particles are generated
or interact in ways such that the quantum state of each particle cannot be described
independently instead, a quantum state may be given for the system as a whole."

It's worth a try being open these days! This is just like the basis of Maslow,
in a changing time! Mostly like in the hierarchy of needs. If your needs are not met
like if your house is falling down, lack of food then your not able to get to the
self-actualization part of life so an open marriage would be not on your list.
So an open marriage is best when you are stable! Or being in a open marriage
makes you stable. Otherwise with no stable you would get user people and people
that are low as low is, trying to survive and would more likely not follow the rules etc.

There are too many broken wings! Why? People don't need to hurt!

You can love everyone, and I'm not talking about only sex!
A lovers connection emotionally, timing, supportive for all!
That is what is worth the most!

It's all about support and learning you don't have to turn your back on people.

As in me I support me EX, I pay some of her bills, mow the grass help out,
to keep her from being a bag lady! But I also live elsewhere with a life
of my own. And it's ok in fact my EX wants me to find someone else.
And that shows there is a openness to point she wants the best for me.
And I want the best for her. So in a way there is support, in a poly format.

Yes I pay some of my EX wife's bills! I learned from relationship after

relationship there is really no reason to dump someone and walkaway!
If it does not work then you both know it does not work and you say
it's not working, and move the relationship to something like friends!
It's just a view point of not hating people letting go of the bad in your
past relationships and being fair to each other!

I had a past lady love that barfed on the first date and took me to a gay bar.

In high school I had a girlfriend that was a EX teen prostitute. Etc, Etc...
So you know, I know it's time to let it go and be fair to each other!

Another issue is if you have a soul-mate that is gay! Polyamory!

All could be together supporting each other!
Again it's a matter to be open about it!
*If there is no growth for all happening then the party involved should all call it quits!
Balance is the point for all to benefit!

I heard from a few that found out that their parents had an open marriage.
As in when they did their family history and found oops, the tree breaks off
and goes to another tree! That is nothing new!

Also even in the country club there is a little black book in the banquet department
in the back of the file cabinet. "Rules of Engagement" It is there in case a worker
gets hooks up with a married rich lady etc there. I know I read it when I worked at
a country club. I was shagged by no one there I guess the boss saw me as prime and
got nervous letting me read the book just in case . It is just rules like don't have sex in
the closet, not on the *golf cart. (*Heard a funny story can't say here!). etc.

In other words if it happens keep it there don't take it to work with you.
Why? When you add up all the income the people have that goes to a country club
it would be well over a billion dollars and you would have to protect that.

The rules would be to keep the couple from rocking the boat making the other
rich people jump ship. Where I worked they did not frown about a worker 
hooking up if it wasn't going to blow up bad, if it was a fire they would put it out!
They would let you know what not to do!

With the time I spent in the hotel working

I know about married rich people as in the wife going to Hedonism II
with the husband knowing and glad because the wife is stabilized after.
Really it's true go secretly ask them!

I knew a worker there that went to Hedonism II with a lady every year.
I guess it was viewed as him being like her therapist, once a year, month, etc.
It's called a "vacation buddy" I think. The lover would get a airplane ticket in the mail
to meet up with his lover at her vacation time.

That was how it worked in that case where I worked. In the Hotel world it's not
surprising, we live in America and there is a pursuit of happiness here!
If you would ask any worker they would agree!

In 2012 a "Brazilian public notary Claudia do Nascimento Domingues set off a
firestorm by granting Brazil's first civil union to a trio, an act so unprecedented
that there isn't a word for it in Portuguese."

Also in 2005 the same a trio! "in the Netherlands polygamy has been 
legalized in all but name. Last Friday the first civil union of three partners 
was registered. Victor de Bruijn (46) from Roosendaal “married” 
both Bianca (31) and Mirjam (35) in a ceremony before a notary who 
duly registered their civil union."

And in a new age (old age it's been around a while) the bizarre things like
reincarnation etc. The red string of fate, that I see as real noted in my life.
Strange connections are out there can't say their not!

So really suppression in the past is like staying in the dark ages,
sinking in the pit of your misery. People get tired of that!
I guess it's like people wake up and realize they don't need to be in hell.
Give it like better education to be like adults about it.

It is long over due to come out of the dark! The days of  hedonism is ending!

You need to look at it with the light on Humanistic psychology.
Humanist Approach, Self-Actualization, McKenna!

More pointed to Maslow in relating to peak experiences in everyone's life as shared.

When looking at the lack of it, you see the need as we all are human.
Like climbing up a cliff, it's a peak experience.

As a group together sharing the peak experience long term would be valuable

as all, for all, projecting into a open marriage or polyamory for a better life.
And it is the same but long term, it's like hiking up a mountain
and it's worth it in the end!

Peak experiences describe moments accompanied by a euphoric mental state

often achieved by self-actualizing individuals. The concept was originally developed by
Abraham Maslow in 1964, who describes peak experiences as rare, exciting, oceanic,
deeply moving, exhilarating, elevating experiences that generate an advanced form of
perceiving reality, and are even mystic and magical in their effect upon the experimenter."

All of those actions in that light have a purpose, like gong for the pursuit of happiness
not the pursuit of unhappiness! And not accepting others keeping you there in your
unhappiness. Having normality without the deviancy and growing up!

Both parties need to communicate and they need to be real! If someone loves a 
married woman and she loves him back as she keeps checking out his package
like she works at the post office then they do need to communicate.
Actions are the real words, blah, blah is just blah but if she keeps looking at him
and he keeps looking at her, then all need to get it over with and talk,
actions is the heart of the matter. Both need to communicate their actions!
Every guy had a few that checked them out at work. (Thank you!)

It's human nature like going back to the cave woman! 
Sometime those words "Walk with me" will have to pop up. 
And again you will have to be real communicate be honest and let 
them know your long term / stable to the end of time.
Grab him by the hand and take him home if you have to. 
Men tend to be clueless!

Also who ever loves who, that is the normality and worth it's weight, Valued!
"Both parties in a successful marriage are able to give and receive communication 
from their spouse on any subject."

"Life is miserable if you have no one to openly communicate with. Friendships are based 
on communication. The lack of friends or a spouse to communicate with often leads to 
mental problems." Don't keep it buried it's not worth it!

No communication sinks your ship. Anyone not on your ship does not care,

they might talk bad about you but it's a fad it will go away and all you have 
is your sunk ship! What is your happiness worth unhappiness?


What from the magnitude of the shock might have been a column of water
upright in the dark butted against the ship, broke short and fell on her 
bridge crushingly, from on high, with a dead burying weight. 
A flying fragment of that collapse, a mere splash,
enveloped them in one swirl from their feet over their heads, 
filling violently their ears, mouths, and nostrils with salt water. 
It knocked out their legs, wrenched in haste at their arms, seethed away 
swiftly under their chins; and opening their eyes they saw the
piled up masses of foam dashing to and fro amongst what looked like 
the fragments of a ship.

If it's a no go at least she knows you love her and you are there always to pick up 
the pieces of the ship and that is worth a lot also! And that's ok! You love who
you love regardless! She is loved regardless, she's loved!!!!

Many women are poly by nature in getting what they require emotionally!
It takes more men vs a woman to get balance, it's human nature.
And when you see her happy and her smile you will shit bricks!

So whats the point? It's about a changing time. This story is like a bouncing ball
I have been chasing, catching up with the stuff going on and doing the story about it.
There are just too many things going on these days that are
just not being covered. In the light of a new Psychology about it and new
social changes surely coming the story is needed!

This story is to point to a mind blowing time for growth and humanity!
To be honest and true with each other! A start of a new day!

And when everyone connects, you will know in an instant! It's a change of life!
A change of life will do everyone good!

Life is too short to not be open. I am open so in my life I accept people
for who they are and expect them to be open to me. It's ok to talk about
things. I don't break up with my loves, they will have to break up with me.
I see relationships as long term. Yes I am Polyamorous!