Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Dating a married lady and caught in the middle

Being this is as I see it a Archaic Revival is going on! And just a time to
be open about things as it makes all lives better in the long run!
I'm talking about love! Love has no boundaries and this stuff needs
to be taken serious in view as like therapy!

There is a reason for everything in that I am saying there needs to be a fairness
and some thinking going on. Well if you watch Fox News / Wikieaks you might
believe in the tooth fairy! That doesn't help you knowing what is going on, or
what needs to be going on! Education is needed so with that you need to learn!

"The good life is one inspired by love and guided by knowledge."

"In all affairs it's a healthy thing now and then to hang a question mark on the things you have long taken for granted."

"One should respect public opinion insofar as is necessary to avoid starvation and keep out of prison, but anything that goes beyond this is voluntary submission to an unnecessary tyranny."

"To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead."

"Love is something far more than desire for sexual intercourse; it is the principal means of escape from the loneliness which afflicts most men and women throughout the greater part of their lives."
Bertrand Russell.  (*Note Poly)

The reason for everything? Well it's ok to date a married lady.
Because there are rules set, agreements made for the benefit of the wife.
Why? It's the part guided by knowledge because if you know you would know
a issue trivial it would be ok down the road. A wife's boyfriend would be there
to protect her from herself, support make a better women, less stress!
You really are her therapist in view to her and her husband!

This is nothing new as in the bible times. If a man could have more than
one why can't a woman?!
"In 1 Kings 11:3, the Bible records about a thousand women for Solomon,
including wives and concubines. David was a bit more austere;
he had at least eight. There are also some earlier examples recorded.
In Genesis 29:20-29, Jacob committed to a 14-year indenture for his
two concubines and two wives."

Married with a supportive other is mostly known in the ALPHA female,
the raging bull! Well the ALPHA female is taller than normal females and just
think how many men does it take to stand together to get to her level to talk?
More than one! That is ok in a marriage as the point is to make better than not!
It's a matter of agreements and it's not that hard just trust building, learning.
Well it's like a duh for the lover to not have sex with the wife for a year.
Understandable as you would know being a married woman's other takes
time in making the foundation for such! So after that year there is trust built
in the husband the wife and in her lover. Jealousy is worked on
and causes of it are fixed, stopped. Jealousy is like a test you can't fix it
if you don't have the test in front of you! It's a easy test anyway!
It can be changed!

If you are in a high up marriage as the wife is up the ladder in a stressful job
but fears about her career. Those are the relationships where all parts signs
confidentiality agreements. This is for trust to protect the wife from the lover
and the lover from both of them, as all asses would be on the line if caught.
Like if a waiter in a hotel hooks up with a lady that runs something high
up in the city he has consent of her husband. A confidentiality agreement would
be signed and the relationship goes into a healing time for all.
Also to note it's a long term relationship being the fire as there needs to be
a high level of trust in all involved. It's all about the trust and knowing it takes time!

The caught in the middle part? That is where the fairness part is.
It can be a lot of pain to love a married lady noting the false fears or whatever
it is. Like being in love with a notorious married ALPHA lady in which is ok!
Fetishes or dreams that are made happen is the keystone of life. A fulfillment
needed in life! But asking to be with her she like pulls out a note card and reads
a scripted response... "I can't!" But you can't believe a word she says being the
notorious part! So there is a indecisiveness a hell! Pain!

Or if there was a affair going on, in that I know I would not do being the other pain!
Like if we had sex in my bed and the next night I go to bed with her not there and my
bed sheets smells like her perfume, I would be in a fetal position on the floor crying!
As the husband might be the same finding out what she did! 
Pain! What hurts more? It's the same as a divorce after 20+ years, being hurt
over a married lady, it's the same!

Dating a married woman and being open, talking about it, working it out
is fair to all. No pain as it would be talked about! Fair to all?
Well again the part having knowledge. If the husband can't trust his wife
then he will have to join her! Or he wants his wife to be happy, normal or
what reason he lets her date long term! Or if the wife is in a bad way she
puts on the paints on the family and gets a lover for more support is ok!
In fact if the wife gets a lover and grooms him into her second husband
she would be the boss as the two husbands decision making in the family
would be canceled out as one husband might decide on ( - ) as the other
goes ( + ) this ( = 0 ) so the wife decides for progress and no pain!

So the point is to note it's ok to be a married ladies partner being open.
Or supporting your EX but dating another!
And it is a long term focus being the trust needed takes time.
A confidentiality agreement also would be good for trust
to make all safe! All of that is no pain and no caught in the middle
healing for all! Simple math! Just be open and talk about it because
something like all of that is a life long thing! We all get old and life is short!
If it's true she is your Holy Ghost as the meaning to you is true!