Secret affairs in a world of unstable is not such a good thing. It can be like hitting a piñata on fire that is full of gasoline with a baseball bat! The lets do this wins mostly so like in history there is a fire but more overdone these days than it should! It's just best to come open in the first place! So it happened, it's best to be open about our natures. Polyamory as it's not fair to expect your wife to be your one and only prostitute to serve only him that is not our nature so it's best to accept her nature. Compersion!
~~~~"The worship of monogamous marriages and lifelong fidelity in both Western and Eastern societies is fundamentally incompatible with human nature." https://www.zenflowchart.com/blog/summary-of-sex-at-dawn-christopher-ryan
~~~~"Now that you’re coming clean, you’d better do so completely. I mean 100% truth, absolutely, no holds barred, no little omissions, no “spinning” anything. Tell the raw truth about who, where, when, what happened, how long, etc. Don’t even think about leaving out past indiscretions. Don’t fool yourself that they don’t need to know all of that or that you’re “protecting them.” We’re talking about radical honesty in its truest sense. If you haven’t yet read Brad Blanton’s book on the subject you should do so immediately. Take it to heart. Do the exercises. Devour it, digest it, and make it a part of you."
"Realize that while you are looking at what you want and don’t want in your relationships, you’re likely to find yourself questioning a lot of things you may have taken for granted in your life. Everything from how you will live to just what sex means to you and to what constitutes a relationship is up for redefinition now. Some people find that their religious beliefs are not supportive of polyamory and end up seeking a new spiritual path." https://technomom.com/love/coming-clean
