Russian America? USAR? Well why all the stupid people in Trumps cabinet? Incompetent people running things. To be disabled so others can take advantage of us? Well yes things are stupid for a reason here!
Wednesday, November 13, 2024
So I do see that Russia will get Europe!
Russian America? USAR? Well why all the stupid people in Trumps cabinet? Incompetent people running things. To be disabled so others can take advantage of us? Well yes things are stupid for a reason here!
Sunday, November 10, 2024
The first step in a fascist movement
Conservatives are against their own people so expect against. That is normal for the way of things. Enabled people acting badly expecting others to live low also is not a good pointing of like social mobility or being inline with the Darwin awards in it's way so it is just best to not to get into the way and let nature take it's course is what is meant and don't be surprised! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ACPPlT4uO4
Live in the positive! Not in the consequences of Negative Selection kind of thing!
is the combination under an energetic leader of a number of men who possess more than the average share of leisure, brutality, and stupidity. The next step is to fascinate fools and muzzle the intelligent, by emotional excitement on the one hand and terrorism on the other." - Bertrand Russell.
Saturday, November 9, 2024
Class: Ferrari 355 Timing Cam Belt / Oil Service
What do you work for! Ferrari 355? You can work on it yourself you know right? Or learn how to work on one making a better offer to someone that has one to fix theirs!
Wednesday, November 6, 2024
Laborfoce issue: policies would drain Social Security’s finances faster
Down! The lack of like the healthcare system you are used to would be hard and trans, gay and just women's health, lifespan declining because the laws related to her healthcare would be bad for the workplace The adjustment to the social decline would be hard if at all possible. The mental health issues from the social decline of workers would be bad. But the cost of tariffs in a time of massive global debt $97 trillion they have no money they are in debt. The cost gets passed on to the consumer. "Companies that import products subject to the duties, and they either pass on the costs to consumers or accept lower profits." Money does not go lower like voluntary consumer biased pricing or forced by people declining getting cheaper things. The cost gets passed on to the consumer anyway you see it. https://unctad.org/news/global-public-debt-hits-record-97-trillion-2023-un-urges-action
Saturday, November 2, 2024
Tipping points of Climate Change kind of like a asthma attack all the time.
Wednesday, October 30, 2024
Jan. 6 a “day of love.”
Friday, October 18, 2024
Global water cycle off balance food chain concern not Golf Course
It's not about Trump it's the people enabled around him like we all are codependent, letting strange people making decisions for you that don't care about how you are living or what future you have. Because they have before and again!
~~~Former President Donald Trump pulled the U.S. out of the Paris climate agreement, staffed his environmental agencies with fossil fuel lobbyists and claimed — against all scientific evidence — that the Earth’s rising temperatures will “start getting cooler.”
Expect a second Trump presidency to show less restraint. https://www.politico.com/news/2024/01/12/trump-second-term-climate-science-2024-00132289
~~~Humanity has thrown the global water cycle off balance “for the first time in human history,” fueling a growing water disaster that will wreak havoc on economies, food production and lives, according to a landmark new report.
Decades of destructive land use and water mismanagement have collided with the human-caused climate crisis to put “unprecedented stress” on the global water cycle, said the report published Wednesday by the Global Commission on the Economics of Water, a group of international leaders and experts. https://www.cnn.com/2024/10/16/climate/global-water-cycle-off-balance-food-production/index.html?iid=cnn_buildContentRecirc_end_recirc
~~~Rising temperatures could reduce the efficiency of food chains and threaten the survival of larger animals, new research shows.
Scientists measured the transfer of energy from single-celled algae (phytoplankton) to small animals that eat them (zooplankton).
The study -- by the University of Exeter and Queen Mary University of London, and published in the journal Nature -- found that 4°C of warming reduced energy transfer in the plankton food webs by up to 56%.
Warmer conditions increase the metabolic cost of growth, leading to less efficient energy flow through the food chain and ultimately to a reduction in overall biomass. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2021/03/210301112403.htm
~~~At one point Carlos Aguilera, a construction worker from Florida who was born in Cuba, asked Trump if the recent slew of natural disasters and environmental issues battering the Sunshine State had made him reconsider his claims that climate change is a “hoax.”
Trump responded by bragging about his golf courses and lying about his environmental record. https://www.rollingstone.com/politics/politics-news/trump-univision-town-hall-latino-voters-1235136099
Sunday, September 15, 2024
Things happen for a reason and the journey of Life!
https://youtu.be/DStHX7WtBT4?si=ERo6oH_r5-CvleCy&t=672 (11:12 video)
Sunday, September 8, 2024
Food insecurity rate, can't tell people what to do inflation still high!
Something called inflation a thing that happens after a plague. Well no one can really tell people to not buy things (Supply demand cost!) And higher interest rates to slow down spending can't tell people what to do inflation still high! In all this time running it just makes it hard for children waged adults and they shouldn't be living so low anyway it's natural selection in a way but here we are. "Higher interest rates can restrain such borrowing by consumers and businesses, which can prevent excesses from building in the economy." https://www.federalreserve.gov/faqs/why-do-interest-rates-matter.htm
Adding to the problem: "Economists believe Donald Trump’s trade and immigration policies will lead to higher inflation and lower economic growth. Trump has pledged to raise prices for consumers, even though the cost of living remains a top economic concern among voters. Lower levels of legal immigration and attempts at mass deportation would reduce the supply of available workers, creating economic problems." https://www.forbes.com/sites/stuartanderson/2024/09/08/trump-trade-and-immigration-policies-spell-higher-prices-less-growth
"The official U.S. food insecurity rate rose to 13.5% in 2023 from 12.8% in 2022, according to data the U.S. Department of Agriculture released Wednesday. That means more than 1 in 8 Americans about 47 million people couldn't get enough food for themselves or their families at least some of the time." Many people driving up the cost of things and cooperate greed like who gets the money fur rent of why are they working together to keep the prices high in a time of record profits. Why are you suffering they are not! A little thinking is needed about things! https://www.upi.com/Voices/2024/09/06/us-food-insecurity-rate-2023-declining-benefits-soaring-prices/1911725628165
Going low because of cost is a decline. A trailer park on fire has a low cost of living doesn't mean you would want to live there. Low is low like no healthcare expect to die there. It's quicksand if they are down the whole will be down with them!
Friday, July 12, 2024
Polyamory Being Honest, Polyamorous Mom, Fair & Equal for Everyone
Wednesday, July 3, 2024
And I feel fine for now: $91 trillion debt problem!
With most of the money in the hands of the few. With the most just making not enough well someone has to pay the bill for all that and all related to that with the risk of the Trump types taking office wanting a backward life going forward into debt! Oh well just pretend it's not there. Let nature take it's course! "It's The End Of The World As We Know It, and I Feel Fine." That does not work hibernating trough it till you die because you will be dead!
~~~~Governments owe an unprecedented $91 trillion, an amount almost equal to the size of the global economy and one that will ultimately exact a heavy toll on their populations.
Debt burdens have grown so large — in part because of the cost of the pandemic that they now pose a growing threat to living standards even in rich economies, including the United States.
Yet, in a year of elections around the world, politicians are largely ignoring the problem, unwilling to level with voters about the tax increases and spending cuts needed to tackle the deluge of borrowing. In some cases, they’re even making profligate promises that could at the very least jack up inflation again and could even trigger a new financial crisis. https://www.cnn.com/2024/07/02/economy/global-debt-crisis/index.html
Friday, June 28, 2024
Income Inequality Insecurities and bad living Rant!
Not about about the President it's about the Vice President and others.
This is a reminder it's not about the President it's about the people they have around them. About the vice president and decisions made also by others in office. Best to vote for the achiever, you know Biden didn't have a Stormy Daniels with tariffs helping the prices getting high like they like it that way!
The government is more than one President others run it also in making things happen. You should vote for your best interest not to give the keys to your house to neurotic people!
Saturday, June 8, 2024
Trans: Leave room for DE-transitioning.
For dealing with a trans issue the correct treatment should be applied to a mental / development related issue. See a Doctor for a physical problem and a Psychologist for behavior mental related problem to deal with the issue until maturity when they are able to decide on who they are.
For children it should follow statutory law as in statutory rape the age of consent. Consent because they are not mentally developed yet so to protect the child from a adult that would take advantage of the child. "In many jurisdictions, the age of consent is interpreted to mean mental or functional age. As a result, victims can be of any chronological age if their mental age makes them unable to consent to a sexual act." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Statutory_rape
"In the United States of America there is no federal law regulating the practice of tattooing. However, all 50 states and the District of Columbia have statutory laws requiring a person receiving a tattoo be at least 18 years old. This is partially based on the legal principle that a minor cannot enter into a legal contract or otherwise render informed consent for a procedure." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legal_status_of_tattooing_in_the_United_States
"The brain finishes developing and maturing in the mid-to-late 20s. The part of the brain behind the forehead, called the prefrontal cortex, is one of the last parts to mature. This area is responsible for skills like planning, prioritizing, and making good decisions." Vs any risk of bad decision making skills. https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/the-teen-brain-7-things-to-know
Dealing with the issue by harsh treatments for a problem that is in their head not a physical problem is catering to a fantasy when medicating the problem is the problem where more time should be spent therapy to help them till adulthood without damage or regret from something they did when they where younger in a position of not knowing.
For the Trans kids more knowledge is needed on their own development to know they don't know as it causes problems in behavior. Sex ED needs to comeback for kids to know themselves other to alienate society and workplaces as the view is that they see the trans issue as illness not a physical problem with the cost of someone who pretending to be something they are not. If they can't trust themselves then how are they to be trusted in the workplace. Along with alienating the consumers that bring in money in the workplace. Forced to hide the Trans worker dictating the lower pay they will get. Poverty and bad things related with less retirement over a choice of a fantasy in a world of nature doesn't care about it why did you put yourself in harms way viewpoints!
It's best to be real and leave room for the detransition when the light comes on! Best to not start in the first place as a kid! It's more than just one person! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LyJGijjI2JU
~~~Significant progress has been made over the last 25 years in understanding the brain’s regional morphology and function during adolescence. It is now realized that several major morphological and functional changes occur in the human brain during adolescence.1 Molecular imaging and functional genomics studies have indicated that the brain remains in an active state of development during adolescence.1 In particular, magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) studies have discovered that myelinogenesis continues and the neurocircuitry remains structurally and functionally vulnerable to significant increases in sex hormones (estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone) during puberty which, along with environmental input, influences sex, eating, and sleeping habits. Particularly significant changes occur in the limbic system, which may impact self-control, decision making, emotions, and risk-taking behaviors. The brain also experiences a surge of myelin synthesis in the frontal lobe, which is implicated in cognitive processes during adolescence. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3621648
Friday, April 12, 2024
I require the knowledge I have acquired
Me I see my past relationships and life as a part of my life as being accredited. I require the knowledge I have acquired than to live in the now never seen it coming. The point of deeper learning on how you relate past knowledge to today, what relates, I need to know!
Things happen for no reason mind set disabled for people to take advantage of me! Your past is your job reference or your education it makes you who you are, your mentality, personality your dictionary behind you to help you see the poop hitting the fan than to stand there wondering how it got on you you didn't remember to duck and cover you didn't read the dictionary behind you.
Living in the now minute by minute gives you anxiety as you can't relate to the now issues you have no reference. Also the now changes minute by minute fizzes away in the moment. The future is not stable need to be stable by knowing things. Your past is called learning. What have you learned? “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it,” https://liberalarts.vt.edu/magazine/2017/history-repeating.html Also know in your past or whos past pathed the way! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXngbzatfIE
Good or bad wherever you go, there you are. Because you are. It's better than not, so live because life is short likened to me being in my 70's in the future walking on a burning planet. Live while you can reincarnate later! Life never ends! Things like that!
"If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever." (Dalai Lama)
"All things are free-flowing, untrammeled, what bondage is there, what entanglement? You create your own difficulty and ease therein. The mind source pervades the ten directions with one continuity; those of the most excellent faculties understand naturally." (Tzu-hu)
Amor fati is a Latin phrase that may be translated as "love of fate" or "love of one's fate". It is used to describe an attitude in which one sees everything that happens in one's life, including suffering and loss, as good or, at the very least, necessary.
Note to learn from Amor fati not to be in view as a way to have people take advantage of you because you don't know what's going on around you Horse blinds? Was a way to give the viewpoint of the dark ages a peasant to ignore things around them so they can focus on the task at hand making the king money and to not have a social evolution or to know because it would make a revolution. A form of control thus you want them to not know! A peasant thing!
Wednesday, April 3, 2024
Minimum wage petition in Oklahoma
Minimum wage petition in Oklahoma because nothing helps more than broke people! Causing bankruptcies to business not willing to lower the prices to match the poverty wages of the town anything is better than nothing. Having people not able to afford their education and all things bad so it's best to go up not down!
"Raising the minimum wage even over a span of five years would kill jobs, especially in smaller businesses in rural parts of the state." Like how it killed all of us the last times it went up we all must of died and got reincarnated!
Rural? They need to get brought up we all don't go down to their level! Why are they not brought up yet? Well a trailer park on fire has a low cost of living doesn't mean you would want to live there. Living low puts one in harms way into natural selection. If you are suffering you are not being successful nor many around you it's like being in quicksand making all-around bad employees and badly living people!
Thursday, March 28, 2024
Trans - Teen Brain: Behavior, Problem Solving, and Decision Making.
Children are not adults! It is hard for children to face adult issues not being able to understand them really! Fear conditioning is not a good environment for making decisions about life changes with. Parents need not to carter to their child's fantasy they should really go to a Psychologist to help their child thru the hard time in their life till they get developed!
Noted in "Statutory rape is defined by statute as an act of sexual intercourse with a person under the age of consent." Can't consent they are not able adults would take advantage of a child running on guided more by the emotional and reactive amygdala! To protect a child from a predator! Who is the predator the child is facing who is trying to take advantage of the child playing along with something of a fantasy? What is the age of consent for a child to do damage to their own body? Why even?
"Pictures of the brain in action show that adolescents' brains work differently than adults when they make decisions or solve problems. Their actions are guided more by the emotional and reactive amygdala and less by the thoughtful, logical frontal cortex. Research has also shown that exposure to drugs and alcohol during the teen years can change or delay these developments." https://www.aacap.org/AACAP/Families_and_Youth/Facts_for_Families/FFF-Guide/The-Teen-Brain-Behavior-Problem-Solving-and-Decision-Making-095.aspx
Wednesday, March 20, 2024
Nova or an endings begining!
"While a supernova is the explosive death of a massive star, a nova refers to the sudden, brief explosion from a collapsed star known as a white dwarf." - "Once the nova peaks in brightness, it will be as if a new star has appeared one that’s visible for a few days without any equipment and a little over a week with binoculars before it dims and disappears from sight for another 80 years or so." https://www.cnn.com/2024/03/19/world/t-coronae-borealis-nova-new-star-scn/index.html
Nothing bad here, another nova in the sky to look at. The point of like a natural selection over all the time in galaxy everything had time to crash or burn to be inline with a working galaxy!
Or the old Gnostic saying, If you want to know about the ending, it's where the beginning is.
Sunday, March 10, 2024
Stupid with stupid makes more stupid - You cant be creative if you are fearful
You know nothing helps more than a labor force full of fear mongered people that never made enough money for a education with generations of family members rolling in quicksand. Hard to get out of that and so is why small towns are small they can't have anything. Can't be creative sitting there looking at the future with no future.
Mostly they need their A$$ kicked by society, to shake the nuts from the tree, forced social mobility a naturalistic point of view like in time faster than seeing a broken down 80's Ford on the side of the road with the hood up burned up force to get a better car that doesn't leave oil everywhere. Make the air smell better don't have to walk around it all the time. The way life should be! I don't have the luxury of buying a domestic car that I would have to fix all the time frigidity, frigidity with the hood up. I have to get to my destination on time I buy reliable cars it's a investment in yourself. But always lease domestic cars so you don't get stuck with the cost of repairs! Point there is a correction in time a burn and grow like thing. Even the most fear mongered people burn up in time, they will have to do better for themselves as most of the others pass them by!
***One of the saddest things about our current state of affairs is how much time is expended on imaginary fears largely manufactured by manipulative media, MAGA-poisoned pols, and the always dependable religious nuts and conspiracy mongers. These rants and performative stunts have long passed the point of novelty or entertainment.
They've also become so pervasive that smart leaders can no longer ignore them. Because when people are confused or lose confidence in their leaders and institutions, they become driven by their fears instead of their hopes. And in startups especially, it's all about hopes and dreams for the world, not fears of and for it.
This increasingly dire situation -- where team members in firms of all sizes are losing faith -- would be plenty painful if these garbage conversations, infantile behaviors, and trashings of the rule of law were confined to D.C. Republicans making fools of themselves certainly isn't the worst thing that could happen in a Congress now led by fools, fascists, frauds, and football coaches. It's actually something of a relief that this crew couldn't pass a bill that had any prospect of becoming law. Nor could they fashion a budget that made even the slightest sense if their lives -- instead of their notoriety, incomes, and fundraising -- depended on it.
But when the nonstop noise begins to impact our own employees' attitudes and our businesses' prospects, it's another matter entirely. When you walk around and see more of your people worrying than working, arguing about nonsense instead of advancing the company, and focusing on a foreboding future, it's time for you to step in, like it or not, because there's nothing more frightening than scared people. https://www.inc.com/howard-tullman/you-cant-be-creative-if-you-are-fearful.html
Saturday, March 9, 2024
College and workforce changes!
"For decades, not having a college degree has often been a barrier for workers seeking a higher-level, better-paying job. But more employers are now saying they’re willing to hire them." But those that don't have the college degree where the first ones to get laid off. College is also seen as being accredited as in knowing better what they are doing than not. It's better to have college as it makes higher income than just a high school. Even there was issues about your college degree is only worth the paper it's printed on. Less resources for education lower spending etc.
But post COVID-19 all plagues come with a rebound up and down sort of a chaos theory light. Looks like a job skill shakeup till normality in time. Things will get better it's a rebound!
"Why the change of heart? There are several factors. But lurking over all of them is a demographic reality: The falling US birth rate will produce fewer workers in the years ahead to replace the number of workers retiring."
"Additionally, employers are increasingly aware that the skills needed to do many jobs don’t necessarily require a four-year degree, and that competent workers can be trained in needed skills as they arise." https://www.cnn.com/2024/03/08/success/no-college-degree-options-better-jobs/index.html
Tuesday, March 5, 2024
Stormy Daniels on the state of things!
Because: Donald Trump’s Manhattan state court hush-money criminal case involving the adult film star Stormy Daniels and the Playboy model Karen McDougal will proceed to trial on 25 March. https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2024/feb/15/trump-court-stormy-daniels-case
Stormy Daniels on the state of things!
Friday, March 1, 2024
The white rural rage, like a slow moving hornets nest!
It's not they are lazy just that they could never afford an education so going into generations of family members they don't have much. The terms 40 watt city, dark ages, big city bright lights is the point of enlightenment or the lack of!
People in rural towns seem to like their suffering too much it holds back the whole town! Can't go forward as conservatives are against their own people. Get rid of Obamacare, abortion rights etc. degrading to a time people lived badly. No social mobility, living like their parents with inflation lower then their parents. Conservative no innovation.
People living badly is a labor force issue and a towns issue as they vote against themselves. Always normal in rural locals what do they have, obviously they are not succeeding? So less to have is less for everyone else! That needs to change why are these people not brought up? Yet are you to suffer with them? Their rage is like a slow moving hornets nest and is what you get! https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/trump-white-voters-2024-election-rcna141156
Q: What is conservatism?
A: Conservatism is the domination of society by an aristocracy.
Q: What is wrong with conservatism?
A: Conservatism is incompatible with democracy, prosperity, and civilization in general. It is a destructive system of inequality and prejudice that is founded on deception and has no place in the modern world. https://pages.gseis.ucla.edu/faculty/agre/conservatism.html
Monday, February 26, 2024
How is the US economy doing? Thank You Brandon!
It's all good but your wages are not growing enough. Inflation is normal from the rebound of a plague! After death people like to be happy so up the spending! Not fair to low waged people. They need to get brought up! Trumps at 77 Biden at 81 much the same and who cares it's about who the vice is that matters if the president passes away! Age is not a issue action is more than age! https://usafacts.org/state-of-the-union/economy/
Saturday, February 10, 2024
Low wage trap the old issue of a labor shortage
The old issue of a labor shortage. But more of a wage shortage for the ones in the bottom. Many moved up the ladder to better jobs leaving the lower really low as the bottom have to fill the labor force. "Drag a $100 bill through a trailer camp and there's no telling what you will find." - James Carville. What would be reasonably unhirable for that time are what places are looking at today to end a shortage in the workplace. The bottom dropped off! They where fired for a reason only to be looked at for a job without reason! Workplaces need to know what they are getting and make a effort for the better than to have workers in a trap!
~~~~This pattern of denial and neglect hurts workers in ways that have profound societal costs. No matter how hard or how long they work, many low-wage workers cannot climb out of poverty. We studied the fortunes of 181,891 workers who started low-wage jobs in 2012, and we found that five years later 60% of them remained stuck in such positions. People who had managed to escape those jobs had most often done so by quitting industries such as hospitality, food services, and retail, which are classic low-wage traps. Across industries, women were overrepresented in low-wage jobs and most likely to stay impoverished.
The pattern also inflicts all sorts of direct and indirect costs on companies, including lower retention and higher absenteeism, more overtime, a reliance on staffing agencies to provide temporary workers, constant recruitment and training of new employees, a lowering of morale, a loss of institutional and process knowledge, a decline in customer goodwill, a damaged reputation among job seekers, stagnant or lower rates of productivity and less revenue. https://hbr.org/2023/05/the-high-cost-of-neglecting-low-wage-workers
Monday, January 22, 2024
More photos are added to DuGBuGoffice!
Photos - https://goo.gl/photos/ZXoDMdNenWwdytJ17
Prophet - https://app.box.com/s/vh0htnoqjtod7wb7m3xd0z0tfdnmhyfo
Sunday, January 21, 2024
Loving memory of my partner!
Sunday, January 7, 2024
Accepting the Wife’s Boyfriend!
A wife having a lover is really not a bad thing being the point is, it should clause calmness aimed long term. I hate short term relationships so my mindset is long term. Nothing worse than being a married woman's lover only for to snap out of her midlife crisis embarrassed about how she was acting telling you to go. Never happened to me would but more likely I would be holding onto her leg begging her to stay but the point is to accept each other for the better.
A wife's lover is not about the sex. That would be her will not her husband or her lovers will coming naturally when that time comes if it does. The wife does not want another kid and cost these days. Unless she does then, me I would be willing for a love child, that's ok because life is short to not accept walking through the disarray of life unknown together to the light of a new day together!
~~~~One misconception about polyamory is that it’s just an excuse for promiscuity or infidelity. This assumption couldn’t be further from the truth; in fact, transparency and trust are cornerstones for maintaining healthy non-monogamous relationships. Another widespread myth is that people who choose this way of life are incapable of committing to one person or forming deep emotional connections with their partners. In reality, most polyamorous individuals maintain strong bonds with each partner while appreciating different aspects of their personalities and sharing unique experiences together.
Overcoming jealousy and insecurity can be a daunting task, especially when it comes to non-monogamous relationships. It’s important to recognize that these feelings are normal and valid, but they don’t have to control your relationship. One way to address jealousy is through open and honest communication with your partner(s). Expressing your concerns and fears can lead to understanding rather than resentment.
Another helpful strategy is identifying the root cause of your jealousy or insecurity. This may require some self-reflection and critical thinking, as oftentimes, our insecurities stem from past experiences or societal norms. By recognizing these underlying factors, you can begin to take steps toward addressing them head-on. For example, if you feel jealous of your wife’s boyfriend because you think he’s “better” in some way, remind yourself that comparisons are not productive or fair. Instead, focus on building trust and intimacy within your own relationship with her.
It’s also important to establish clear boundaries with all parties involved in the non-monogamous relationship. This ensures everyone is aware of what is acceptable behavior and what crosses a line for each individual involved. These boundaries should be revisited regularly as needs or preferences change over time. In navigating these complex dynamics, remember that vulnerability is key – allowing yourself to express emotions without fear of judgment fosters deeper connections with those around us. https://www.unfinishedman.com/my-journey-to-polyamory-how-i-learned-to-accept-my-wifes-boyfriend