~~~"Getting Out of the Box: Thoughts On Living An Authentic Life."
Marla Maples and I had the most lovely chat this morning, and I have to say I totally have a crush on her now. You might know Marla as the ex-wife of tycoon Donald Trump, but I know Marla as this loving, spiritual, awakening being longing to shed the baggage of her past and serve the world with her gorgeous heart.
My heart goes out to her. Imagine living in a world that sees you not as you are, but as some artificial montage of what the media has crafted together in the tabloids. What you’ve read in the magazines is not the Marla I spoke with today. Just as my Perfect Storm lifted me into the cyclone and landed me on my spiritual path, Marla’s oh-so-public divorce catapulted her into discovering her calling- to help the world awaken and discover that we are all interconnected, that we are all One World of Love (the title song of the CD she is creating).
Shedding the Masks Society Expects Us to Wear
I know what it feels like for society to put you in a box. My box has been the doctor box. While it has never felt authentic to who I am as a spirit, others try to cram me into this mold of respected physician- wearing a white coat, standing on a pedestal, distancing myself, and talking down to people, as if I am the “Expert” and patients (ie. “Others”) should listen to me. This has never resonated with the heart of who I am.
I have rebelled against that box from the moment someone handed me the hard-earned white coat. I have never seen myself as different from my patients. I am a doctor, but I am also a woman, who has straddled the stirrups, given birth, gotten an STD, and walked the spiritual path, ever-seeking. As such, I feel connected, not separate, from every woman who walks into my office.
Yet, when I tried to publish my memoir, which is all about the spiritual journey that ensued after my Perfect Storm (my agent jokingly called it Eat, Pray, Vagina!), publishers wanted me to don my white coat and rewrite it. I refused. That’s just not me, and at the end of the day, you’ve gotta stay true to who you are.
It Takes Courage to Resist the Box
Marla encountered the same resistance. She wrote a book, All That Glitters Isn’t Gold, about the spiritual journey she has traveled since her divorce. She wrote the book about her journey back to herself, about connecting to Source, about being true to who she is at the core. And yet the publishing world resisted. They wanted her to write a tell-all something they could splash all over the tabloids. In essence, they wanted her to get back into her box. Just like me.
Marla has worked hard to shed the box society puts her in. As a public figure, others want her to stay stuck in the past, to capitalize on what it means to be Donald Trump’s ex-wife, but this is not her journey. That was twelve years ago. She has moved on, and the experiences of her past have informed her present life but do not define her. Instead, she feels called to use her influence to help heal the world, to remind us all that we are united by Divine Love, to create music that touches the soul, and to serve. I admire her. I say “You go girl.” I love who she is, sans box, and encourage her to hold her head high and stay true to the authentic Marla. Why would anyone ever want to be anything other than who they really are?
Retaining Your True Shape
It’s not easy to resist the pressures to conform into the boxes society expects us to stay in. In her book Kitchen Table Wisdom, Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen writes of a vision that came to her in meditation of a white rectangle. She assumed it was a business card, but upon further reflection, she reinterpreted the white rectangle as her former self- a fluffy round marshmallow- that has been subjected to pressures from all sides until it was squashed into a flat white rectangle. When I read this story, I burst into tears, thinking “Me too! Me too! I’m a marshmallow, not a rectangle.” I felt comforted to know I’m not alone. After reading that, I gave myself permission to fluff back up, to resist the pressure, and to be ALL ME, ALL THE TIME in my marshmallowy glory.
I see Marla doing the same, and it makes me smile….
How have we done this? How did Marla and I escape our boxes and stay true to who we are? Some tips.
Tips For Getting Out of the Box and Living An Authentic Life
- Know thyself- As long as you define yourself the way others define you, you’ll find it challenging to escape the box. Do whatever it takes to know yourself deeply- write in a journal, meditate, talk to a counselor, share with friends, tell your story on Owning Pink’s forum- whatever it takes. But be honest with yourself, even if you don’t always like what you see.
- Send your inner critic to time out- Once you know who you really are, love yourself right where you are. Don’t try to be something you’re not. Be your own best friend, and hold your own hand as you resist the pressure to flatten your inner marshmallow.
- Let go of expectations- By resisting the box, I failed to get my memoir published. But in doing so, another book deal that allowed me to be real showed up on my doorstep. You never know what will happen when you get out of the box but you have to trust that it will all work out.
- Release fear- If you’re ruled by the fear that you won’t be accepted out of the box, you’ll never be able to escape it. Trust. Believe. Know that being real will always serve you better than conforming to a shape that isn’t you.
- Summon the courage to shed your masks- Imagine if we all just stopped wearing masks that cover who we really are. Imagine if we just greeted each other, spirit to spirit. Imagine if you were loved for who you really are, not for who others expect you to be. Trust me- it’s possible.
Marla Maples and I had the most lovely chat this morning, and I have to say I totally have a crush on her now. You might know Marla as the ex-wife of tycoon Donald Trump, but I know Marla as this loving, spiritual, awakening being longing to shed the baggage of her past and serve the world with her gorgeous heart.
My heart goes out to her. Imagine living in a world that sees you not as you are, but as some artificial montage of what the media has crafted together in the tabloids. What you've read in the magazines is not the Marla I spoke with today. Just as my Perfect Storm lifted me into the cyclone and landed me on my spiritual path, Marla's oh-so-public divorce catapulted her into discovering her calling- to help the world awaken and discover that we are all interconnected, that we are all One World of Love (the title song of the CD she is creating).
Shedding the Masks Society Expects Us to Wear
I know what it feels like for society to put you in a box. My box has been the doctor box. While it has never felt authentic to who I am as a spirit, others try to cram me into this mold of respected physician- wearing a white coat, standing on a pedestal, distancing myself, and talking down to people, as if I am the "Expert" and patients (ie. "Others") should listen to me. This has never resonated with the heart of who I am.
I have rebelled against that box from the moment someone handed me the hard-earned white coat. I have never seen myself as different from my patients. I am a doctor, but I am also a woman, who has straddled the stirrups, given birth, gotten an STD, and walked the spiritual path, ever-seeking. As such, I feel connected, not separate, from every woman who walks into my office.
Yet, when I tried to publish my memoir, which is all about the spiritual journey that ensued after my Perfect Storm (my agent jokingly called it Eat, Pray, Vagina!), publishers wanted me to don my white coat and rewrite it. I refused. That's just not me, and at the end of the day, you've gotta stay true to who you are.
It Takes Courage to Resist the Box
Marla encountered the same resistance. She wrote a book, All That Glitters Isn't Gold, about the spiritual journey she has traveled since her divorce. She wrote the book about her journey back to herself, about connecting to Source, about being true to who she is at the core. And yet the publishing world resisted. They wanted her to write a tell-all something they could splash all over the tabloids. In essence, they wanted her to get back into her box. Just like me.
Marla has worked hard to shed the box society puts her in. As a public figure, others want her to stay stuck in the past, to capitalize on what it means to be Donald Trump's ex-wife, but this is not her journey. That was twelve years ago. She has moved on, and the experiences of her past have informed her present life but do not define her. Instead, she feels called to use her influence to help heal the world, to remind us all that we are united by Divine Love, to create music that touches the soul, and to serve. I admire her. I say "You go girl." I love who she is, sans box, and encourage her to hold her head high and stay true to the authentic Marla. Why would anyone ever want to be anything other than who they really are?
Retaining Your True Shape
It's not easy to resist the pressures to conform into the boxes society expects us to stay in. In her book Kitchen Table Wisdom, Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen writes of a vision that came to her in meditation of a white rectangle. She assumed it was a business card, but upon further reflection, she reinterpreted the white rectangle as her former self- a fluffy round marshmallow- that has been subjected to pressures from all sides until it was squashed into a flat white rectangle. When I read this story, I burst into tears, thinking "Me too! Me too! I'm a marshmallow, not a rectangle." I felt comforted to know I'm not alone. After reading that, I gave myself permission to fluff back up, to resist the pressure, and to be ALL ME, ALL THE TIME in my marshmallowy glory.
I see Marla doing the same, and it makes me smile....
How have we done this? How did Marla and I escape our boxes and stay true to who we are? Some tips.
Tips For Getting Out of the Box and Living An Authentic Life
1. Know thyself- As long as you define yourself the way others define you, you'll find it challenging to escape the box. Do whatever it takes to know yourself deeply- write in a journal, meditate, talk to a counselor, share with friends, tell your story on Owning Pink's forum- whatever it takes. But be honest with yourself, even if you don't always like what you see.
2. Send your inner critic to time out- Once you know who you really are, love yourself right where you are. Don't try to be something you're not. Be your own best friend, and hold your own hand as you resist the pressure to flatten your inner marshmallow.
3. Let go of expectations- By resisting the box, I failed to get my memoir published. But in doing so, another book deal that allowed me to be real showed up on my doorstep. You never know what will happen when you get out of the box but you have to trust that it will all work out.
4. Release fear- If you're ruled by the fear that you won't be accepted out of the box, you'll never be able to escape it. Trust. Believe. Know that being real will always serve you better than conforming to a shape that isn't you.
5. Summon the courage to shed your masks- Imagine if we all just stopped wearing masks that cover who we really are. Imagine if we just greeted each other, spirit to spirit. Imagine if you were loved for who you really are, not for who others expect you to be. Trust me- it's possible.
What about you? Are you able to escape the box? Do you remember what's true at your core? What would your life look like if you resisted the pressures that push you into boxes and allowed yourself to be whole, to be real, to shine your bright light in the world? Tell us your stories. Show us your inner marshmallow...
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/owning-pink/201006/getting-out-the-box-thoughts-living-authentic-life
~~~"Get out of the BOX."
One of the greatest feelings in the world is overcoming a seemingly unconquerable mountain; doing something that you thought you’d never be able to do. That euphoria that comes from accomplishment and achievement. True, noticeable growth comes when you STEP out of your comfort zone and push yourself erected boundaries and limits.
“If we're growing, we're always going to be out of our comfort zone.”
Forget the hypothetical *box* we put ourselves in. forget the four invisible walls that surround us and restrain our growth. Step out the box into new possibilities, challenges and experiences. Stretch yourself beyond what feels comfortable. Do things that challenge you. Face your fears. Usually, the thrill we get from conquering our fears and insecurities is bigger than the fear itself.
http://tashy-b.blogspot.com/2011/01/get-out-of-box.html
***True as it is in your own life or not, you still see it, if not in yourself but in others,
when you stand back and start to notice people!
Being in a box comes in many forms. Poverty is a box in the way it tends to make decisions
for you. In that case you would need to know to let things go.
Like in a view of saying "Oh well I never needed it anyway!" so you go on
living within your means, or make it yourself, why do without?
http://failblog.cheezburger.com/thereifixedit
Drink some beer go fishing. Beer is not that costly anyway.
I can see more money spent on your electric bill than anything!
So go spend a small part of your money on beer and most on the electric bill!
The fact of the matter is like the saying, "People that work don't know fishing!"
So being rich and all the work to be rich comes with a cost, as in less time
for your self, driving a BMW that has a $500 oil change cost etc.
House insurance that cost more than many poor peoples cars.
Or like in my town many rich have cars that cost more than poor peoples homes!
I know I looked them up! http://www.zillow.com
That alone says it all. Get out of the box and find it for your self!
Yes many rich drive cars that cost more than peoples homes!
And many rich kids have more costly technology in their bedroom
than a poor person has in their whole house!
The more you have the more you spend.
Other than that you just need to get out and know it takes you.
It's a test of life, that comes with a test http://getoutofthebox.com
If there is a fire in the kitchen get out and find your happiness
or who makes you happy!
So know there is no room in a box, so get out of the box!
