Strange Attractors and Society - Pseudoscience? No innovation!

Pseudoscience? No innovation! I see pseudoscience as deprivation. Like Occam's razor you just end up depriving everyone of needed information.

~~~~~Conclusion
When we look at social situations we must be quite clear about the differences between these and those simpler systems typically studied in the physical sciences. In the latter it is usual to concentrate upon equilibrium solutions and to seek out point or cyclic attractors - labelling any situation incapable of being stated in such linear and reductionist terms as 'unscientific' and ignoring it. In such 'science' data points found outside the 'box' of predetermined expectations are actually discarded, and treated as 'experimental error' - making this a self-fulfilling and closed worldview. Physical sciences, typically, look here for one 'formula' at a time, one isolated problem at a time. Most work in the current psychological and sociological sciences tries to 'ape' this sort of technique, either discarding all the 'complexity' to look at a narrow aspect, or using statistical techniques to look at the undifferented whole - in both cases compressing the system to a single parameter (and arguing endlessly between themselves about which one to use !). But this behaviour is throwing out the 'baby' with the 'bathwater'.

Non-equilibrium systems, like society, are not comprised of single formulae, they are fractal and have diverse structure on many scales. They are composed of many autonomous elements, each operating with many different values. In the dynamics of these situations we get strange attractors, not point or cyclic ones - a society existing in such a limited attractor would be a 'dead' or 'dying' society ! In real societies we cannot predict 'exactly', solutions are nonlinear, there is a sensitivity to initial conditions, i.e. to history. There exists heterogeneity, multiple interacting dynamics, these systems are often non-deterministic - dependent upon 'random' events (like the recent tsunami). For such systems a new type of science is required, needing a new set of valuation techniques, a metascience of interconnected reality and values, which we pursue further here.
http://www.calresco.org/wp/attrsoc.htm

Free-range parenting laws letting kids roam could catch on - Not leaning codependency

Free-range parenting is not really a new thing. It's just a point of view of parents that don't want their kid to be codependent with all that follows it! Well you are or your not!

I was a free range kid in the 80's. I rode my bike to the swimming pool and everywhere. Found it useful watching the high school video on how to buy a car when I was in middle school. I woke myself up with a alarm in middle school also. I Felt I was not getting the education I needed when I was in school so went to the principal complaining about it. Only to realize the principal stood up for the teacher so I needed to teach myself also because they are not me they don't know me so my education is mine and I am me so it's up to me also because it's mine! 

If not then how would I know without knowing from not doing it because with no experience in life to relate other things deeper learning would be shallow and so I would have not much to relate things to. Sort of like being hit in the head with education and thinking it's a June Bug!

Give in my life this was the 80's and free range was as far as I could go on my bike or moped! I still had boundaries in that are just common sense but the point was I was thinking and knowing that! Live and learn because life makes you who you are! 
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2014/12/my-middle-school-best-time-of-my-life-84.html
http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-college-years-1990s-and-college-stuff.html

~~~~~"It permits enough exploration for kids to come up against limits naturally." So free-range parents might allow things like playing outside alone or going to and from school without a chaperone, and let kids solve their own problems as they arise. According to followers, the benefits are many: "Free-range parenting supporters say that it encourages problem-solving skills, promotes creativity, strengthens personality formation, and builds confidence," Dr. Pruett says. "They also say that it makes children more resourceful."

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/parenting/a26824973/free-range-parenting

~~~~~After Utah passed the country’s first law legalizing so-called free-range parenting, groups in states from New York to Texas are pushing for similar steps to bolster the idea that supporters say is an antidote for anxiety-plagued parents and overscheduled kids.

Free-range parenting is the concept that giving kids the freedom to do things alone — like explore a playground or ride a bike to school — makes them healthier, happier and more resilient.

Free-range parenting differs from the concept of latchkey kids, or those who take care of themselves after school, in that it generally emphasizes getting kids outside in the neighborhood as a way to develop independence, Boston-based clinical psychologist Bobbi Wegner said.

Fears about letting kids make their own way date at least in part to cases like Etan Patz, who was among the first missing children pictured on milk cartons after disappearing while he walked to his New York City bus stop alone in 1979.

Meanwhile, as education has become more essential in the workforce, parents are increasingly eager to give their kids a leg up with lessons in everything from coding to cello.

“We sign our kids up for all these activities — tutoring, different things — to create this perfect resume from a very young age, but it’s really at a detriment to the kid’s mental health,” Wegner said.

While giving kids independence with parent oversight helps, it’s hard for adults to escape pressure to hover, she said.

“Parents need permission to do this,” Wegner said. A self-avowed free-range parent, she said a police officer once knocked on her door and threatened to call child services after seeing her then-3-and-a-half-year-old son standing at the end of the driveway talking to neighborhood kids. She’d like to see Massachusetts follow Utah’s lead.
https://www.seattletimes.com/nation-world/free-range-parenting-law-eyed-around-us-after-utah-gets-buzz

***There are issues in your current environment. It your town is not brought up yet you might have a lot of stupid people freaking out. Social illiteracy is the gateway to codependency, so just let your kids know and press on as no one in reality wants codependent kids nor do they want to be that way also! Have a evolution than not! Society is getting brought up!

~~~~~Today, new child-rearing norms are on the rise, with parents taking a more laissez-faire approach. “Free range” parenting, a reaction to the overbearing style of the previous generation, has become fashionable, even expected, among many of today’s parents.

In a corresponding shift, state laws are starting to catch up. Utah recently became the first state to explicitly legalize free-range parenting, with a new law stipulating that parents cannot be charged with neglect for allowing “a child, whose basic needs are met and who is of sufficient age and maturity to avoid harm or unreasonable risk of harm, to engage in independent activities.” Essentially, parents can now legally let their children “walk, run or bike to and from school, travel to commercial or recreational facilities, play outside and remain at home unattended” things that may previously have attracted the attention of child-welfare authorities.
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/04/free-range-parenting/557051

***Even in the 1900's kids where also sort of free range being they worked. Having job responsibility at a young age. Well because they had to!

~~~~~Children’s Lives at the Turn of the Twentieth Century. Chores and Work
Rural children often worked on their family’s farms, helping with the endless tasks that were completed using human and animal power. Many children in cities and towns also worked: in mines, in factories, selling newspapers and food, and shining shoes. Concerns over child labor found support among the Progressives the growing number of people who believed government should take an active role in solving social and economic problems of society. In 1904 the National Child Labor Committee was formed to advocate for children in the work force. In the next few years, the federal government passed several laws to try to regulate child labor, but the Supreme Court declared them unconstitutional. Not until 1938 did the federal government successfully regulate the minimum age of employment and hours of work for children.
http://www.loc.gov/teachers/classroommaterials/primarysourcesets/childrens lives/pdf/teacher_guide.pdf

Walmart Is Deploying Thousands Of Robots To Take Over For Human Workers - US Rural Favelas

The times are changing and so because of that the Government needs to support people thorough the changes. It is starting at Walmart and will grow it is happening and there is action that is needed! America is not just going to leave the many displaced homeless! America would follow the path of poverty as Brazil! Rural areas would turn into a Squatters community out of no choice! And so the issues of people living that way is a human rights violation to have so many living badly without the states and Governments educating their people and supporting them through the changes!

A little bit of adaption would be needed you need to go with the changes. Job skills are needed more than a four year college stuck there while the labor environment changes around you! I hope the workplaces will spend money to retrain their workers and vocational schools will pick up for the changes!

~~~~~A general welfare clause is a section that appeared in many constitutions, as well as in some charters and statutes, which provides that the governing body empowered by the document may enact laws to promote the general welfare of the people, sometimes worded as the public welfare. In some countries, this has been used as a basis for legislation promoting the health, safety, morals, and well-being of the people governed thereunder." 
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/General_welfare_clause

~~~~~The occupation near Sao Paulo has little electricity. Some shelters are no more than pieces of plastic on the ground and above. Others have wood walls and floors.

Adriana Marcolino is a DIEESE researcher.

She said Brazil is not investing enough in social policies, including the minimum wage. She said more such occupations may be established, as a result. She called the squatters “the face of Brazil’s poorest citizens.”
https://learningenglish.voanews.com/a/squatters-demonstrate-brazils-poverty/4170737.html

~~~~~NCCI projects that relative to 2014, by 2024, U.S. manufacturing will lose 1.6 million workers, with automation replacing 6.9% of manufacturing jobs in addition to expected employment losses due to other factors. The same study also reports that information, agriculture, and retail sectors will employ 200,000 fewer workers. Workers in small, rural areas will also be more affected by automation than those in urban areas."
https://www.skynettoday.com/editorials/ai-automation-job-loss

~~~~~According to the research, the U.S. middle class has the most to fear. Workers with skills that can be easily replicated by technology are in trouble. Lawyers, bankers, accountants, doctors, truck and cab drivers, fast food workers and many other professionals will be affected. Compensation for many people will plummet, as they will be pitted against by robots and AI."

McKinsey notes that “governments will have to develop and provide extensive job retraining to help displaced workers, as well as providing more generous income supplements. Beyond retraining, a range of policies can help, including unemployment insurance, public assistance in finding work, and portable benefits that follow workers between jobs as well as possible solutions to supplement incomes, such as more comprehensive minimum wage policies, universal basic income, or wage gains tied to productivity.” Millions of people will be forced onto government welfare programs. It is disingenuous to claim that hardworking people with 20-plus years of specialized experience and earning a good living can easily pivot to a different career and continue to earn a decent salary.  

It's understandable that Walmart must find new ways, such as deploying robots, to compete with the onslaught from Amazon. Somehow, as a nation, we need to ensure that Silicon Valley billionaires won't get richer and companies leaner by eviscerating the employees. If you follow this trend to its natural conclusion, who will buy all the products and services if we’re all out of work?
https://www.forbes.com/sites/jackkelly/2019/04/15/walmart-is-deploying-thousands-of-robots-to-replace-human-workers-what-this-means-for-your-job

~~~~~According to the research, the U.S. middle class has the most to fear. Workers with skills that can be easily replicated by technology are in trouble. Lawyers, bankers, accountants, doctors, truck and cab drivers, fast food workers and many other professionals will be affected. Compensation for many people will plummet, as they will be pitted against by robots and AI.

McKinsey notes that “governments will have to develop and provide extensive job retraining to help displaced workers, as well as providing more generous income supplements. Beyond retraining, a range of policies can help, including unemployment insurance, public assistance in finding work, and portable benefits that follow workers between jobs as well as possible solutions to supplement incomes, such as more comprehensive minimum wage policies, universal basic income, or wage gains tied to productivity.” Millions of people will be forced onto government welfare programs. It is disingenuous to claim that hardworking people with 20-plus years of specialized experience and earning a good living can easily pivot to a different career and continue to earn a decent salary.  

It's understandable that Walmart must find new ways, such as deploying robots, to compete with the onslaught from Amazon. Somehow, as a nation, we need to ensure that Silicon Valley billionaires won't get richer and companies leaner by eviscerating the employees. If you follow this trend to its natural conclusion, who will buy all the products and services if we’re all out of work?
https://www.forbes.com/sites/jackkelly/2019/04/15/walmart-is-deploying-thousands-of-robots-to-replace-human-workers-what-this-means-for-your-job

Why are the wages so low can't afford to get job skills replaced by robots!

As you should know anytime there is technology there will be jobs for that technology so that makes the jobs that don't exist yet. In a time of future automation that is going to displace many low end workers that hardly make nothing to afford to get the job skills they need! Wasting their time in a world of time poverty disabled from society doing more with less getting less done faster put in a position where they cam't succeed making it look like they are not able to get their job done from future job interviewers point of view!

Isn't it time to raise the minimum wage the future is coming it's not a time to stand there in denial being ran over by the future. Or to say like is a car race and it's hard to get to the finish line if you walk without a car. Or ran out of gas you have two weeks till payday!
It's time to raise the minimum wage!

Social issues old vs young - It was their war not ours where is the wifi?

Wars are stupid! Why? Most young people where not in the war their country had in the past and so are rather concerned about about where the WIFI is. They would rather talk and work out the issues so they can get back to life! They would rather see the war be fought online between the two Presidents so they could watch it online! "It's their issue not ours!" It's a social issue young vs the old. Social mobility you are to do better than your parents as you don't want to be like your parents with view points of bad times having a red scare as most young don't want to live scared. And in the laws of nature it is stupid to sacrifice to guard the ashes!

The Trump part? It shows a clear lack on intelligence with what Trump said about the Kurds not helping the US in in WWII attacking the elders who where there. The youth are wondering why their are being attacked because of a issue their 95 year old grandpa had?

The whole world not wanting to have a war but living better would make a better planet!

****Turkey has launched its ground offensive against the Kurdish militia, US allies who played a major role in the fight against ISIS. President Trump defended his decision to withdraw troops, saying the Kurds didn’t help the United States in World War II.
https://www.msnbc.com/hardball/watch/trump-s-bizarre-reason-for-abandoning-the-kurds-in-syria-70952517958?cid=sm_npd_ms_tw_ma

How People in Open Relationships Make It Work and Why Have Them!

Things happen for a reason, open relationships show the intent of acceptance of each other for all to be in a better way. No they are not there for sex only in that even in that is for her needs. But the point is these things happen in part to give balance, emotional security, grounding, a airport to comedown, another adult figure in the household for the kids, more income or what ever the need is. It is for the better of the good and the acceptance of all's needs is the point to be better as a whole.

Marred or not, a open relationship is to be better. And is a life long relationship if you are in your 50's as you might have only 20 to go so time is short with that in mind there is no issues like you had in your past! The clock is ticking so you won't waste time with petty things being aware of the real value of doing it for your needs! If both hurt then why not get open about it? And it's ok to do that! Just be open and talk about it because it's a start of a new day!

~~~~~8 Things People Who've Been In Open Marriages Wish You Understood
Open marriages and other types of “monogam-ish” relationships are still considered taboo by many. But for couples with a strong foundation built on love, trust and communication and a mutual desire to open the marriage, it can be a positive experience.

Below, men and women who have been part of an open marriage clear up some of the widely held assumptions that are just plain wrong.

MYTH: They don’t take their marriage seriously.
“[People think] that we are not committed, that we are cavalier about our relationship or marriage. This could not be further from the truth! I am 100 percent committed and loyal to my husband. That is why I do consensual non-monogamy ― in the long term I see that it enhances our connection.” ― Gracie X, author of Wide Open

MYTH: The relationship must be on the rocks.
“There’s a misconception that it must mean there’s something wrong with your relationship or that you no longer love each other. All it really means is that you’re both very horny and want some variety. It can get monotonous eating your same favorite meal night after night, year after year. This way, you relearn to appreciate that meal even more.” ― Richie Cohen of the married comedy duo Dick and Duane

MYTH: The conversation about opening the marriage is always initiated by the husband.
“Women have sex drives just like men. And jealousy is not a female prerogative. Open relationships have nothing to do with gender and everything to do with relationship style. Both men and women can desire non-monogamy, and that desire can change throughout one’s life. So don’t be surprised if you find yourself a serial monogamist one day and an open relationship proponent the next.” ― Jenny Block, excerpted from “The 9 Biggest Myths About Open Marriage”

MYTH: They’re not considerate of their partner’s feelings.
“Being open or polyamorous requires being incredibly considerate and conscientious with regards to the feelings and well-being of everyone around you. In my experience, the most adept and successful polyamorous people are ones who live by the calendar and hash out dates relatively far in advance and with the prior knowledge and enthusiastic consent of their primary partners.” ― writer Grant Stoddard

MYTH: Only selfish and immature people take part in open relationships.
“I think a huge misconception is that if you’re doing non-monogamy, you must be emotionally immature and not really in love. Non-monogamous couples who are mutually interested in this relationship model ― starting from a strong foundation and committed to one another as their primary relationship ― truly do enjoy the best of both worlds that many monogamous people secretly fantasize about: the security and love of marriage and the adventure and eroticism of variety. There are more couples making this work than most people believe. I failed at it, but there are many people succeeding.” ― Robin Rinaldi, editor of the online magazine Together

MYTH: They’re just a bunch of wild sex addicts.
“Not everyone in an open marriage is some kind of sex-addicted freak show. Between household duties, raising children and having a meaningful relationship with my husband, I do not have a lot of time to dedicate to having sex with other people, even if I wanted to. I do not have sex with every man I meet. I do not want to steal your husband. I do not even want to have sex with your husband. I do not have sex at the grocery store or soccer practice or bring strange men into our home.” ― Gwen & Lark for YourTango, excerpted from “I’m In An Open Marriage And You Would Never Know It”

MYTH: All people in open marriages are cut from the same cloth.
“The biggest misconception is that non-monogamous people are of a certain stripe and conduct their relationships in a certain way. As Lux Alptraum wrote in an article published just recently, ‘It’s important to recognize that ‘non-monogamy’ isn’t one specific, discrete thing. In the same way that ‘non-Christians’ practice a wide and varied array of religions, people who eschew monogamy do so in a number of different ways.” ― writer Grant Stoddard

MYTH: Once you open a relationship, it stays open.
“You can be open for any part of a relationship. It may be something you want after you have been with someone for a long time. Or you may find that after being open for a long time you find yourself craving monogamy again. Just be warned that the transition from closed to open and open to closed is not always easy, and both partners have to be on board at the same time, which can be tricky. Again, talking all along the way is the only way to make this work. (In case you have not noticed, being in a successful open relationship requires a lot of talking.)” ― Jenny Block, excerpted from “The 9 Biggest Myths About Open Marriage”
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/open-marriage-myths_n_5841d35be4b0c68e0480b7ef

~~~~~How People in Open Relationships Make It Work
Non-monogamous committed relationships are on the rise, at least if our Google searches are to be believed. While it’s difficult to track precisely how many people are in open and polyamorous relationships, since many studies often only track people who are legally married, one 2016 study found that approximately one in five people has participated in some kind of (consensual) non-monogamy.

On-screen, too, less traditional relationship boundaries are being explored more and more. Molly navigated being a secondary partner on Insecure last season, Netflix has a whole show called Wanderlust that watches Toni Collette and her husband, Steven Mackintosh, try to navigate long-term monogamy. In House of Cards, Robin Wright and Kevin Spacey had a pretty fluid definition of monogamy, and apparently both even slept with the same Secret Service agent (perhaps true intimacy is sleeping with the same other person).

We’re all becoming more aware of non-monogamous arrangements, which of course have been around for ages, but for people who haven’t experienced one firsthand, the mere logistics of maintaining them can seem daunting. So I spoke to a bunch of people* in various forms of open relationships—including polyamorous relationships—to see how they make it work.

Open and poly relationships require a lot of communication and strict boundaries. Practically speaking, how does that play out?

“My husband and I don’t text with our lovers in front of each other. It can be pretty fun and intense and exciting to have a new lover, and you can wind up really ignoring your primary partner. The rule is, when you are physically with someone in the same room, be mentally present with them, too.” —Lana, 36, Portland, in a poly relationship with her husband

“We shared with each other when we were seeing others or interested in others—communication was our number one rule. We were each other’s primary partners, and all other partners were secondary. Other than that, it was fairly loosey-goosey.” —Emma, 27, Danville, PA, was in an open relationship with her ex

“We don't have any secondary emotional attachments at all. Other sexual partners are purely sexual, although we normally go on a date first to see if there's chemistry. —Thomas, 38, New York City, in an open relationship with his wife

“My only rule of my partners is that they use [condoms/protection] with other people and to let me know if they would like to stop using them.” —Adam, 35, Seattle, in a poly relationship with a primary partner and one secondary partner

“After dates, we check in with each other just to say we're home safely or whatever, and goodnight, but we don't recap or say what's happened until we see each other in real life the next time.” —Rosemary, 31, Brooklyn, in an open relationship with her girlfriend

Where do extracurricular hookups actually take place?

“We have a master bedroom, an office for each of us, and a guest bedroom, but secondary hookups take place elsewhere. I have every appreciation for couples who wouldn't find this awkward, but we're not among them!” —Steven, 43, Las Vegas, in an open relationship with his wife

“As to living arrangements, like much of life, it depends on how well-off the people are. I'd love to have a dedicated "play" room, but the reality of real estate in Seattle makes that a non-starter.” —Adam

“I’ll usually go to a hotel if I'm meeting a girl. But that's more because of an inherent difference between men and women in these scenarios: It's super easy for her to find single men interested in no-strings-attached sex, and so she can always find single guys to go home with. It's a lot rarer for me to find single women interested in that type of thing, so ordinarily the women I meet up with are also in open relationships.” —Thomas

How do you keep the jealousy at bay when your partner is seeing other people?

“Jealousy really isn’t an issue for us, because we’re just very solid in our relationship. But also, honestly, because she has a lower libido than I do, and [she] doesn’t see sex as the end-all, be-all of a relationship. It’s harder for me to give a hall pass than it is for her to give one.” —Wyatt, 34, San Francisco, in a “poly-ish” relationship with his wife

“One of the rules my primary asked of me was to not kiss other people on the forehead. She wanted to have that to herself, intimacy-wise.” —Frank, 35, Chicago, in a poly relationship

“We know we're completely and utterly devoted to each other. For me, I get no more jealous of her going out and sleeping with a guy than I do of her going out and drinking with a friend; either way, she's just having fun.” —Thomas

How do you manage the scheduling? And what happens if there’s a conflict between your primary and secondary partner?

“Our primary relationship has priority, but we've both been good enough to not abuse that. If my wife says she has a date beforehand, I won't jump in later with ‘I'd like to do something that day.’ We have complete veto power with each other about any outside meetups; if my wife has a date scheduled but I'm working and we can't get a babysitter, she'll cancel the date.” —Steven

“We tell each other at least a day in advance of a date and share who it is with, so that we have time to know what's happening, make other plans (because we do spend so much time together when we're not seeing other people), and [so we can] potentially say if it's someone we'd rather the other person not see, like if there's a history there.” —Rachel, 31, Brooklyn, in an open relationship with her girlfriend

“Communication and radical honesty and Google Calendar are what make us work! We put everything on our [shared] calendars. Work schedules, school schedules, doctor's appointments, dates in and out of the polycule, vet appointments, everything.” —Parker, 33, Seattle, in an open poly relationship with another couple [Ed. note: A polycule is the collective of members in a polyamorous relationship.]

“I spent a year on [the open-relationship dating app] Feeld, but I got more real matches in the first 48 hours on Tinder than I got in probably six months on Feeld. My Tinder is very clear about what we are and what we’re looking for. There’s just a much greater diversity of desires on Tinder than people think there are.” —Wyatt

What’s it been like to move from monogamy to consensual non-monogamy?

“I should say despite being at it for two years, we're both still relatively inexperienced at the whole thing. I'm still at a loss of how to engage other women and explain the whole thing without it sounding weird or creepy.” —Steven

“We weren’t open the first time [we dated], so re-establishing our romantic relationship as open has taken some negotiating and getting used to… What's helped me is being explicit about our open monogamy, and also asking for verbal reassurances sometimes, which has sure made me feel kind of like a loser, but I know it's good and okay to ask for what you need sometimes.” —Danielle, 24, Oakland, CA, in an open relationship with her boyfriend

“My husband and I thought it would be fun to have new experiences, and we had been together for so long. The interesting result is that I experienced a relationship with another man on a level that I didn’t know existed, and it has caused me to question a lot of my life choices.” —Lana
https://www.gq.com/story/how-people-in-open-relationships-make-it-work

Why I ditched my therapist to hire a dominatrix instead - Humanistic

In life one should not live a sheltered life. Well it's in the view of how can you learn if you don't get out and learn. Mostly it's a point of living a bad life as others are having a good time around you then you get old living a bad life making minimum wage retirement living in a house falling apart around you not being able to hire people to fix it so etc... Nature doesn't care otherwise, as you go into the dumpster!

Well you get the point. Live your life because you need a life to love! So get out and do something for you! It's about life and what you want in it.

A Dominatrix is a therapist these days! All things happen for a reason!

http://walmartramen.blogspot.com/2019/09/the-bdsm-abduction-fetish-role-play.html

~~~~~Why I ditched my therapist to hire a dominatrix instead.

My dominatrix life coach isn’t afraid to hurt my feelings she’s brutally honest and has no time for my excuses.

love therapy, but I didn’t love my therapist. She was young, like me, and new – the best I could find with my cheap insurance. I was her first real client, she was thrilled, I was broke and depressed.

Over the course of our six months together, we often sat through extended periods of silence, each of us desperately searching for something to say. Other times, I rambled about how pointless my life felt, the crushing guilt and fear of abandonment that follows me everywhere, and ill-timed thirst traps, just to fill the space. I did my best to entertain her with overshares and regrettable sex stories from my life as a sad yet charming bisexual, and for a while, that was fine, until I ran out of stories and we fell back into silence. I left our sessions feeling worse than I did when I arrived.

I quit therapy because I needed help from someone who knew what they were doing, and possibly even more importantly, who knew what I was doing, or what I should be doing. I didn’t want another therapist; I wanted someone to just tell me what to do, who could kick my ass and tell me to cut the bullshit. I wanted motivation, advice and accountability from a woman who spanks grown men for a living.

So I hired a dominatrix.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/oct/03/therapist-dominatrix-life-coach