Tuesday, September 27, 2016

The growing rift, polyamory and needs



There is a shift these days. Either men are getting stupid or women are getting smarter!
This points to a difference in the need for emotional support, more
that one person can give. And as I have been thinking because of that and
sociological pressures it is clear there is a rift as the mindset is two to one for
a man to be on the same level of a women's mindset.

There is a difference noted by a EEG test. "Compared to men, women had a
significant (usually P < 0.01) increase in the parasagittal mean frequency
(1-30 Hz and 4-20 Hz), beta 1 and beta 2, while alpha 2 and theta-beta were
decreased." A small point of difference but shows a lot!
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/7530634

Or also noted from more research. "Ragini Verma, a researcher at the University
of Pennsylvania, said the greatest surprise was how much the findings supported old
stereotypes, with men's brains apparently wired more for perception and co-ordinated
actions, and women's for social skills and memory, making them better
equipped for multitasking."
https://www.theguardian.com/science/2013/dec/02/men-women-brains-wired-differently

Explaining the growth for Polyamory is in the growing difference between
men and women. "When it comes to smarts, women are catching up to men in some
areas and outpacing them in others, new research has found."
http://www.livescience.com/47056-gender-differences-in-cognition.html

So how many guys does it take to be on the same level as a women,
as that level can tip easy? It's a question everyone married needs to ask.
Nothing good comes from a unsupported woman vs the term supported
it comes in the light of truth and openness because if it is not the lack of trust
defeats the point. A "crazy woman?" Well she is not crazy it's just that something
is making her that way. It's a missing need being unsupported.
Ask what is doing it and how do you fix it? What needs are missing?
What is good for you? Bring that in!

It's better to control your fears. To women fears is like a panicking lover
you need to control him, dominate him, to settle him down or your fears
will just run around panicking! It's a matter of fixing what it is!
And I do see this as a point for Polyamory or having a emotional affair.
It's not a bad thing! There is a big reason for the emotional need of them.
Because people do things for a reason, so the point would to be to make
better and in that is better for all.

A big point is to say, if it's not open then it's not for the better!
Secrets hurt so don't go there don't do that. There is a point to forgive
and make a new day. Because the new day holds it's value.
It's the power of the new love and support as the new partners
help and support each other pushing away from the bad past.
Making a new day together! If there is a emotional affair it would
be best to let it be known for the main partner.
It's best to be open and fair as it's about needs.
It is ok for a women to take over the marriage to fix her needs
as why would she live in her own personal hell going to the
craziness of crazy because she can't be who she is or get
the support to stop her hell! 

I also have to say like in being married for a long time a wife needs
time away from her husband or needs other support.
It's like granny with her sewing room being it makes her happy.
Not happy is crazy! Happy is bringing out the best in all!
And that is a good point about needs!

So the point is to be more open about things don't hide! It's ok to love
you just need to be fair to all about it. If it's for the better of the person
all would be better... Accept it because if it's love you can't hide it!

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