Sunday, December 18, 2016

A walk in the park are you satisfied

There is a time in your life to get a grip about going down the road of life.
At times you will get on your knees and beg for happiness then you found it,
only to be begging again. If that light of destiny shines on your life like a
screw embedded in the floor marking space and time. That is where your
happiness is, a point marked and stamped!

If you found it then why run from it. How does a destiny of a screw embedded
in the floor pointing, compares to chasing dead ends?
In my life in times over and over I ended up in the road where I had
missed a past girlfriend while I was like on a roller coaster.
Where the roller coaster had no meaning vs a past love.
I got hit by cupid in 1996 with a lady I met at a McDonald's.
She was in my mind for days even when I looked out the
Saint Louis arch I was looking for the town I saw her in.
Told my friends I need to go back to that town.
And when I did I looked for her in the ladies bathroom.
in the McDondald's. (Saying anyone in there first.) Love sick!!!

In your life you need to ask that question also! What are you chasing after?
Your career like a dog chasing it's tail, round and round, where you need to be
chasing your love of life's rear or vise versa or whichever comes first!
Something big is something big and that is where you need to think about
how that compares to the dead end you are heading for.

Like a gas tanker we all hit the wall in our career as in turning 55 to 60+
what is that going to be like. Being 55+ is that time where you need to see
where you are going to be at... What are you missing, what do you need so
you will be where you need to be when you get there. Or boom the gas tanker
hits the wall where your life is in a hell or regret of not doing!

Money is not happiness it's sort of the same as having a business with low taxes
but with nothing to be taxed because most people do without because they are
broke from tax cuts being the poor takes in more tax help than they payout.
Looking at the high prices and walking away forcing consumer based pricing
at $7 after taxes pay of the consumers in town! Crazy but it's the point of life!
But in all of that mess would it matter if you are missing out where your
happiness really is! No business last like the lasting love of a embedded
lover in destiny. That is the point to ask what is your career's worth vs that!

~~~~~How To Be More Satisfied With Your Life – 5 Steps Proven By Research
Happiness is being happy in your life. We experience it immediately and in the moment.
Life satisfaction is being happy about your life.

It is the happiness that exists when we talk about the past and the big picture.

What can we do to not just be happy in the moment, but to feel satisfied with our lives?

~~~~~As a musician are you satisfied with your relationships
Do you ever feel like you have difficulty maintaining your relationships and friendships? Or are you dissatisfied with those you do have? Or perhaps you feel a void in your life and wish that you had more grounding relationships? Social life for musicians can be difficult, as the schedule and hours are different from the typical 9 to 5 workday. This can make your social circles very insular, since you may find yourself socializing only with other musicians. Also, when your work schedule is constantly changing and evolving, friendships and relationships may enter and exit your life in a rapid fashion. You may develop a close bond with a friend during a gig and then when the gig has ended, you may find that your friendship is over as well. In today’s world of hyper-connectivity, where everyone is always plugged into phones and tablets, there is the illusion of closeness – and yet in your personal life, you may actually experience a great sense of loneliness. In the music industry, you are constantly “starting over” in meeting new people whenever you start a new gig, and friendships may be intense, yet very short-lived.

Given that, do you find yourself preoccupied with the impending loss of friendships and bandmates when you begin a new project? Perhaps you detach yourself from others prematurely, knowing that your work together will soon end and so too will the friendships and relationships you have made. After all, unlike a typical desk job where you have the luxury of seeing your co-workers every day, in the music industry you may never cross paths with co-workers again – and if you do, it may only be in a superficial and fleeting way.
If you notice this to be a pattern in your life, it is important that you take stock of it. As the Huffington Post reported a few years ago, the deterioration of connections with each other “not only impoverishes our personal and communal lives, but also has significant effect on our health and wellbeing.”

So while the nature of your work may present specific challenges to maintaining intimate friendships, you do have the power to feel like your best self! Realize that the act of talking and processing one’s feelings aloud with a friend can have a very calming and cathartic effect. And ask yourself these questions: Am I feeling nourished and fulfilled by my relationships? Are my needs being met? If not, you may suffer depression, hopelessness or isolation. These feelings may affect your ability to focus and bring your best self forward in your work.

Why wait to address your concerns? Now is as good a time as any to reach out and get the support you need. The Musicians’ Assistance Program offers free and confidential short-term counseling for all Local 802 members. Call today to set up an appointment with one of our social workers. We can work with you to explore your feelings and develop strategies for creating and sustaining nourishing friendships and relationships in your future.

We can also refer you to other services that will enhance your physical, mental and financial well-being. Need help navigating the health insurance system? Applying for affordable housing? Finding more job opportunities? We are here to answer your questions and provide a supportive space to discuss your needs.
We also provide financial wellness services (including budget counseling) and we are the gateway to the union’s Emergency Relief Fund, which offers financial assistance to cover the cost of an urgent bill. Our office is located on the sixth floor of the Local 802 building and we are open Monday, Wednesday and Friday from 9:30 a.m. to 5 p.m. Please call us at (212) 397-4802 to schedule an appointment with one of our social workers. We look forward to meeting you and beginning our work together!