In the 80's there was a time in high school when the girls where all mostly having their periods at the same time and the boys ended up going for the middle school girls. Where the high school rounded up all the boys that had young girlfriends to have a talk at the round table about finding girls our own age. Because the middle school prom was "Sad, sad prom!" We took most of the girls the middle school boys had none! That explains the generation of kids that where in college I seen come in obsessed with sex and etc! Lot's of issues going on!
But the point is the kids these days makes a bad tomorrow and it needs to be changed! Economically unattractive? Well Going to live with someone in a trailer park on fire in Missouri might have a low cost of living but doesn't mean they would like to live there! Low SES, low retirement, less buying power of the wages etc. The need to go up! https://www.human.cornell.edu/pam/spotlights/economically-unattractive
The point in Polyamory is for all to get brought up, for all to have a better life together. If not then that is not Polyamory! There is a time to have a secret affair but it's just better to just come out! If your partner doesn't seem to care about your needs treating you like their property I would see as co dependency in a way.
All should be Contributing to their society as all should be working to make life better for all. If there is one a stay home partner and the others works then they are only making half or less of their pay as the other half goes to cover the one not working, That's not social mobility more of a decline if long-term! And so is the point of Polyamory in these times to save each other by going up!
Another light to point for higher wages in rural towns, for one they shouldn't be living like that why are they not brought up yet. The future is coming along with it's risk being poor rural poor the switch to electric cars, lowering fuel use driving up the price, same as a oil crises. Can't afford a EV. Lower education not because they are lazy just that they can't afford a education. And etc, low is low in a time to go up! When was the last time they painted their homes points to peoples own health! Time to get brought up!
"Rural populations have an increased prevalence of cardiovascular disease compared to urban, and rural patients are more likely to be readmitted with HF exacerbations.6,7 Rural patients are also more likely to be uninsured, poor, and chronically ill.8,9 Disparities in morbidity and mortality between metropolitan and rural cardiovascular patients have increased in recent years.9 One proposed explanation is that rural populations have certain behaviors, attitudes, and access challenges that may contribute to their heightened risk of coronary heart disease, myocardial infarction and HF. These include poor adoption of lifestyle habits associated with decreasing heart disease, such as, smoking cessation, low-fat diets, exercise, and increased perception of heart disease risk, especially among older rural women.6,10 Additional factors include limited access to screening services and preventative care, reduced availability of technology and specialists to diagnose and treat heart disease, long travel distances to urban medical centers and limited access to cardiac rehabilitation services." https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4241136
"Residents of rural areas in the United States tend to be older and sicker than their urban counterparts. They have higher rates of cigarette smoking, high blood pressure, and obesity. Rural residents report less leisure-time physical activity and lower seatbelt use than their urban counterparts. They also have higher rates of poverty, less access to healthcare, and are less likely to have health insurance." https://www.cdc.gov/ruralhealth/cause-of-death.html
Being the pay is that low getting what you pay for sort of ends up having to hire homeless people because they don't have to worry about not being able to pay the rent they don't have any! Many won't work the lower pay jobs seems like sadomasochism putting you and the whole family in a place of less. Child abuse for setting them up for failure! So go work at better pay! Move up the ladder so everyone lives better, retirement, family inheritance the point of social mobility in the family etc. That is the better option so.
The danger is the future coming. People not being able to afford education with risk to humanity automation in the workplace with no job skills, not able to afford a EV with fuel prices going up from less being made all the better off people are buying EV's. Being able to move to a better location because of global warming or competing with other countries in looking for a job, place to live or even food at Walmart because Walmart is now feeding all the countries that would be flooding in!
Those are the people at risk in that time. Not a lot of people are going to survive global warming living that low!
Back in 1989 I was with a married lady with five kids. The agreement was to save the family she made like $6 and he made $7 an hour. I had a good paying job at the time but was temporary so I threw the money at them. The job come easy the job goes easy so. She had five kids if you don't know Polyamory is not about only sex. That comes natural when it's time was ready! She did not want to have six kids! Sex was her decision to make not mine or her husbands. When she was ready and her husband was ready for her to fly away from the nest for a bit. "She's a god made woman with hormones." he said. She was the most nervous repeating "Your not my husband, your not my husband" But as she told me later she thought, "If I don't I never will" So she jumped on me. After she was like "It's nothing, it's nothing, I was worked up over nothing I feel better my stress is down you took the stress away from me!"
Anyway note, the rules of engagement "Rules!" With us she was not mine and I am not her husbands and so I was her's decision! Infact in the beginning her husband wanted a nice divorce but after her kids seen the proof of things getting better everything calmed down and her husband told me to don't leave her things would go back to how they where! The point to Polyamory is for things to get better. There is a acceptance for the better of the good!
Sex is not the point of being a married woman's boyfriend. Like just having coffee talking letting it out. The trust to be open like if talk was sex it would be intrusive, interpersonal, gross, like doing some lines of blow running into the woods in the light of the full moon naked but correct leaving the male in a fetal position begging to stay with her, long term. A good thing really! If you found it why leave! A married woman blushing belongs in the book of humanities as homer and the odyssey and so. Well if you are in love with a married woman there will be a compliance because of not wanting to leave her! And that is ok puts security in a relationship. A relationship, is a ship like with people on it, like crew on it to keep it afloat! Sex is like a Flower when it's ready to bloom! If it wants or not! Just follow the rules! Glad to be the lover of a married woman if wanted!
As it's said nothing really dies, whatever form ends then goes into other forms to go back into life again. In one form or another through space and time. I guess we all end up in the middle!
In these times facing burnout, threats to our futures in that if you are 50 you will only have 20 years to go with the looking environment.
Best resolve and why not is to have a torrid love affair. Well why fadeout in the light of humanity like a peasant in a corn field, just some worker that died so they buried them there and went on! A sad fate for humanity!
I've been a ladies play buddy before. Like a toy boy but I was 21 in college and she was 48. I'm in college with no money so she put $300 in my pocket telling me "This is not what you think it is." She was bringing me up to her level. She got me better things to wear and took me everywhere with her until I felt the pressure to go headfirst into college. She took me to my college and ended up breaking up with me by paying for the semester. That was ok, being her play buddy gave me security as I was a insecure kid a bit out of high school. She got value being wanted me by her side. Win, win!
Also in the 90's when I worked at a hotel there was a issue with a clients wife. After a fight with her and her husband she happened to see a co-worker (That has a tendency to have bad things happen to him.) She saw him and power walked up to him and said "My husband doesn't want to do something I want to do." The co-worker thinking it was a joke said what's that? She yelled out "ANAL SEX!" The co-worker was LOL but noticed the lady was crying! UH, ma'am, I'm not in to that let me get some one who will do. He didn't know what else to do. So he came running for me!
He told me what happened so we went upstairs and peeked around the corner. It was a lady who her husband was bring in $250,000 to the hotel at the time. So I told the co-worker the what happens in the hotel stays in the hotel thing. And went in to the hotel managers office telling him the issue he just threw papers in the air waving his hands in the air telling me to just take care of it. A separate issue was going on at the time so.
I clocked out changed my shirt then went up to the bar she was at and waited till she saw me I waved my pinky at her. She put down her drink and came at me. She grabbed my arm and escorted me to her car. Not knowing her intent I said ma'am I'm not really into that in a female grunt she said "BS where going to my car." Driving down the road I was trying to think of any motel she might be taking me, I have to get turned on. Luckily she had previously dumped a whole bottle of Chanel #5 perfume in her Mercedes to keep her husband from driving it. So I was breathing in the fumes trying to get turned on. This was all happing too fast!
But luckily she just took me for dinner, she told me to be open with her. We talked and after she payed the bill she then crossed her arms looking at me. "Oh, what happens in the hotel stays in the hotel for the dignity of the individuals involved and the hotel, my paycheck!" Thanks for your honesty she said putting her wallet back in her purse. At the time I thought is this it? I need to say more. I blurted out "Can I see you again?" She jerked her head looked at me, her pupils dilated then fluttered as the came back to normal. High blood pressure? I said out loud "God that's Erotic." Everyone in the restaurant heard me they where looking around to see who said that, she was flabbergasted like a bouncy ball was in her head. She got it together and said lets go. We took off and I had to run with her to the car. She took me back to the hotel. Driving she was staring at me with a emotion like "???!!!???!!!" I told her "The road!" We got back safely and just sat in her car till she said "Can I see you again, uh I will think about it" smiling at me.
A week latter at work she came down to see me I saw her and I looked at her like a love sick dog. She read me! She took me out again for coffee. We talked then she took me back to the hotel where she saw my Nissan 240sx I had at the time. She asked me to take her for a drive. Driving around she told me to do it. Do it? Oh I floored it popping the clutch and drifted around the corner with her hanging to the door handle and the oh shit handle as it's called as she looked at the smoke behind her. Smiles and took her back to her car. She kissed me a few I kissed her back she moaned fluttered then went back to her car eye contact the whole time. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvN9NbdPNvA
That was the last time I saw her till she was at a Banquet I was working at. I saw her so I looked adoringly at her, she turned watching me from the side of her eyes. Blushing she flung her hand at me telling me to go! So I took off. I came back latter with coffee, sneaking up behind her I gave her some coffee. She looked at the coffee cup then looked up at me to say thanks for the coffee. She saw it was me she jerked and instantly her husband pointed at me LOL "Cliche it's the waiter!" He wasn't mad I retreated holding the coffee pot walking backward to the door. Later he found me and told me his wife told him all about it and thanks for covering up the issue. "You can hook up with my wife if she wants to!" I never felt so much stress like that before heat was coming out of my shirt. He then walked over to his wife, oh no! He whispered in her ear then her jaw dropped, he turned her head to show me her face. All emotions all at once.
She never did but I understand it would be torrid that we would go to jail over it. I get it. But these days a torrid love affair is a good thing as society is not doing well. This is a time to jump into the fire!
*Ma'am in the 90's is a sign of respect, a woman of stature, power. It represents not her age!
