Monday, June 5, 2017

Sex drive High, others Not and That Talk

In the view of sex therapy the focus is a resolve on the persons that has issues.
Sex is sex it's about fixing the issues to make each lives better, without the conflict.

If there are issues you need to ask where did they come from?
Be open have "That Talk!" Why? What would be the ending be?
Breakup, divorce! Time is not a matter of stability in a relationship.
Really humans are not designed to be with each other long term.
And so there is a need to talk about it accepting each others needs,
hopes and dreams. 

Love has no boundaries it's just we all put false fears ahead
of such goals in our lives. As like wanting that talk from a married lady.
Now that is no boundaries! She is married and the point is for her best interest.
As it's also everyone else's best interest if she is the best interest of them!

But anyway sex drive is factored in many ways. Age, health etc...
If the couple is 55 and they chase after their career the question needed is to
ask what are you going to be like at 70? With health issues that come with
the age. Sex drives are hard to come by as you get older.
Thus the whole point of females getting hormone treatments back in the days.
So time is short. 

Time is short so if it's, a willing take that in. How often does those opportunities
come your way? And so noting that, comes "That Talk" accepting that
gold in ones life! It's worth it!

~~~~~I have a very high sex drive but my long-distance boyfriend doesn't

My long-distance boyfriend and I rarely have sex when we are together. I have a very high sex drive and I don’t think he does. I don’t want to end my relationship, but my sexuality has always been a big part of who I am. I have tried talking to him, but he gets really defensive.

The notion of “high” or “low” sex drives is misleading, because throughout their lives, people normally experience fluctuations in desire. These increases and decreases may depend on many factors – such as health, age, stress, fatigue or relationship factors such as unexpressed anger, fear or resentment. Most commonly, when we judge a person for having a “low” sex drive; what we really mean is that he is currently not as available for sex as we would like him to be. The complaint itself is rarely useful, since – as you have discovered – it can inspire defensiveness. The only way to have a productive conversation – and you do need to have that talk – is to approach him very gently and without blame. Start by letting him know how much you enjoy the erotic connection between you, and encourage him to be frank about what he likes most. Listen calmly and openly. Perhaps you need to find a way to reduce the stress of travelling. Long-distance relationships are challenging; the common expectation – that everything needs to be wonderful when you do get together – is unrealistic, and after a separation many partners need a fair amount of time to become fully reconnected.