It only now has a name for it "Pegging."
Why do this story? Well I was a Psychology major and reflecting on some
classes I took, Deviant behavior, Human sexuality or Sex therapy, relating
to Psychology. The point is the same. To have a positive result.
Anything that is negative is really not worth doing and is detrimental to
any kind of growth in a interpersonal circle.
I was going to do my term paper on something like this once but
my college instructor called it inflammatory so I had to redo it!
So, now I do need vent my education on this subject because for one
I recognize the reason for the behavior and I do see it as needed to
resolve problems or connect in a reverse manner for a life changing event.
A Positivist view on being deviant these days? With people growing up about it,
it is clear deviancy today is shown as the people wanting to keep the norm
without any evolutionary processes.
This subject can be seen as inflammatory but then not when you know that,
people that are sexually repressed tend to snap and do such things and worse,
because it's not for the other person it's more of a rapist thing.
You would not like to be left out in the stocks overnight without a
jar of Vaseline behind you in a Quaker town.
Why well the worst comes from repressed societies.
As like the Quaker torture devices. Or the Spanish Inquisition.
And these days the "Saddlebacking" If it can't be had they will find
a way to do it! Most know even in my school years that the catholic girls
where the dirtiest!
Also noted is a sick breed of people that puts a light to the real sick people!
The types that get hit in the head with education but don't recognize it.
"Something hit my head, it was a junebug!"
'The neologism absexual has also been introduced by Queen, although it was
coined by her partner. Based on its prefix ab- (as in 'abhor' or in 'abreaction'),
it represents a form of sexuality where someone is stimulated by moving away from
sexuality or is moralistically opposed to sex. Betty Dodson defined the term as
describing 'folks who get off complaining about sex and trying to censor porn.'
As of 2010 absexuality is not an official psychiatric term; though note the mention of
absexuality in a psychiatric manual in 1988, a decade before Carol Queen popularized
the concept in feminist circles. Queen proposed inclusion of the concept in the
American Psychiatric Association's DSM-5. Darrell Hamamoto sees Queen's view of
absexuality as playfully broad: "the current 'absexuality' embraced by many progressive
and conservative critics of pornographic literature is itself a kind of 'kink' stemming from
a compulsive need to impose their own sexual mores upon those whom they
self-righteously condemn as benighted reprobates."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Carol_Queen
So all of this has to be noted and seen as hypercritical
the judgemental the judging of people. The dark with the dark is still dark.
With no light of a women pegging her partner for all in involved to
have meaning in each others life you see the difference you see the light.
Being real about each other not hiding who they are. People that hide snap!
That is the deviant behavior!
It's best to be yourself regardless of others personal hell.
Wanting you to be like them in their own hell.
Don't fall for that trap! Just evolve around them!
Being real about it many women like doing this and there is a reason why.
"Woman A: Pegging is great because it puts you in a role you're not really
used to being in as a woman. There are aspects of dominance, power, intimacy,
and strength that I don't think we get to experience in quite the same wordless way
when it comes to vanilla sex."
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/news/a33458/sex-talk-realness-what-women-think-about-pegging
"Since the release of 'Bend Over Boyfriend,' an educational film released in 1998,
there's been more discussion and awareness of prostate stimulation enhancing
sexual pleasure for men."
http://www.yourtango.com/2012151624/pegging-101-what-you-need-know
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bend_Over_Boyfriend
And you need to be real about and know why do it!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uR5YgZgokCU
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MUfqt4lLZzg
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UT4Zz4bONlo
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YuYFYrFovq4
Why called Pegging? The neologism "pegging" was popularized when it became the
winning entry in a contest in Dan Savage's "Savage Love" sex advice column,
held after an observation was made that there was no common name or dictionary
definition for the act in the English language.
Advice columnist Dan Savage wrote that he believes all men should try pegging at
least once, as it may introduce them to a new enjoyable sexual activity and illuminate
them to the receiver's perspective in sex.
***But note it is for all. It's not for one person.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pegging_(sexual_practice)
To further understand you will have to note Pegging is really a tool for
a peak experience noted from Abraham Maslow.
An individual in a peak experience will perceive the following simultaneously:
- loss of judgment to time and space
- the feeling of being one whole and harmonious self, free of dissociation or inner conflict
- the feeling of using all capacities and capabilities at their highest potential, or being "fully functioning"
- functioning effortlessly and easily without strain or struggle
- feeling completely responsible for perceptions and behavior. Use of self-determination to becoming stronger, more single-minded, and fully volitional
- being without inhibition, fear, doubt, and self-criticism
- spontaneity, expressiveness, and naturally flowing behavior that is not constrained by conformity
- a free mind that is flexible and open to creative thoughts and ideas
- complete mindfulness of the present moment without influence of past or expected future experiences
Note the "the feeling of being one whole and harmonious self, free of dissociation
or inner conflict" part. This would and should be shared between both partners.
It's about the "Inner conflict" resolving that is the key to a better life.
And is the point of this story to understand and accept both partners for
who they are. Resolve the conflict!
Pegging a guy does not mean the guy is gay. There is no conflict with that.
And to be real about it and real about who you really are. (Warrning - Gay/Not Gay)
Really Pegging is just a form of Psychodrama related in a Role reversal.
Pegging should not be seen as deviancy there is a reason
for this behavior no matter what people say. Noted in a fetish?
That is a fulfillment, a keystone of life. With purpose not a deviancy without benefit!
"Psychodrama is an action method, often used as a psychotherapy, in which
clients use spontaneous dramatization, role playing and dramatic self-presentation
to investigate and gain insight into their lives."
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychodrama
"Role reversal is one of the psychodrama techniques that demonstrate a
protagonist’s interpersonal conflicts deeply and explicitly on the stage."
"This technique not only helps the protagonist get more insight of a specific role but
also helps the director, the auxiliary egos, and the audience learn more about that
specific role." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Role_reversal
***I have to note working in a hotel in the 90's I was working a banquet with
Dr Ruth as the speaker. At the time she was talking to older couples on
bonding practice. She was talking about anal sex. This was funny as anything
but it was the part she said about "to penetrate the shell you have to get in the shell."
Meaning hard inner conflicts. It was the point she said not to ram it in there etc.
Sometimes you can't get in the shell so ask your partner to take a beep breath and
hold it, then you poke in the shell! This stuck with me mostly as a light for me to
be alert if I hear someone tell me this at work "Take a deep breath and hold it!"
